Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
©2004 Shirley Glass, Jean Coppock Staeheli (P)2012 Brilliance Audio, Inc.
“Not ‘Just Friends’ puts a new face on infidelity. The author, using clinical experience and current research, broadens its definition, causes, and means of resolution. I recommend it for anyone considering an affair, in an affair, or recovering from an affair.” (Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples)
“A must-read for anyone who ever hopes to be happy in a long-term relationship.” (Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love and Hot Monogamy)
My partner and I listened to this book after wounds started to heal from his sex addiction. It was reassuring to know that we had already done many of the suggested ideas to recover together. We got further value out of this book by listening at a time where we could pause and ask each other questions. We felt it sparked great closure conversations and dug just a little deeper than we had already dug.
The only reason I rated it a 4 instead of a 5 is because of the religious undertones. If you take those as just suggestions or with a grain of salt, it's fine. Its very difficult to find material like this that does not reference religion.
By far, the best self-help book that I've ever bought.
The book has changed my whole perspective on infedelity. I really CAN conquer infedelity and recuperate from it.
I wish I had even a 1/3 of her vocabulary! She's a walking dictionary which makes listening, much more attention-grabbing.
The whole book reached to the depths of my soul and gently pulled me up. I no longer feel guilt, blame, shame or defective. It's not me.
This book is for the cheater and the cheated. It's for before, during and after infedelity. A MUST read for anyone entering a relationship of any kind.
There is a lot of good information - sometimes repetitive - only wish had heard it earlier..
So glad this book was written and I got to listen to it . It is helping me so much as a betrayed partner to heal and contribute to the healing of my relationship. Thank you so much for researching and writing this book!!! The next book I will listen to is one on Non Violent communication.
I was never read to and Audible is providing a very rewarding experience of enrichment , healing and enjoyment!
This allowed us to get the immediate help we needed while waiting on or in between counseling sessions. I highly recommend it.
This book is for anyone who has ever heard 'we are just friends' or I love you but i'm not in love with you or been involved in an affair (the betrayed, the affair partner OR lover) or even if you are trying to 'affair proof' your marriage... this book hits all angles and is very well written.
I highly recommend it.
What makes love last or Hold me tight - because all three are a must have for all marriages.
Very well read, it is a pleasure to listen too.
Understanding affairs from many angles in an insightful way.
If your life has been touched by an affair, even if it is past and long gone... read this book.
This book is really comprehensive on this topic. It gives examples as well as suggestions regarding how to understand how certain kinds of affairs happen. It also talks about recovery from affairs and what helps and hinders. If you are looking for support on this journey, this book will do the trick. The only drawback, has probably to do with the difficulty of the subject matter, not the skill of the author or reader. It's a big book and a long audiobook, it's easy to get worn out listening without taking breaks. Potentially, the author could have condensed some material, but again, maybe not.
I liked the manner the author describes the "window and walls" concept. It was a visual that I think anyone can use. I also liked the various vignettes that helped with various types of affairs. The very very thin lines that can occur to anyone's relationship was helpful and useful. I work with couples and this will be a tool I'll offer to clients. The healing portion I though was also very helpful..I would recommend this book to anyone.
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