©1998 John Gray; (P)1998 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., All Rights Reserved, Harper Audio, A Division of HarperCollins Publishers
"A valuable, much-needed book. A contribution to the understanding of the communication styles of men and women." (Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want)
My wife has told me that she read this book years ago, and now that I have also read it I really appreciate the things my wife does for me that may have been learned from the book. Her understanding that I need to spend time alone in my man cave to recharge has really made our relationship strong. Now I need to giver her more time to talk and express herself without being interrupted or given “solutions.”
Yes, it is easy to understand, and you can also tell what the exact feeling is from the verbal version when the author reading the book, which maybe not the same with print version because the same sentence could be read as different meaning by different individuals.
Not finish it yet. Need to listen more to tell.
I wish I had learnt long ago about the difference between men and women; then I might have much less frustration on trying to figure out what was wrong with our communication between my husband and I. I am a person always trying to put my feet in others' shoes; but the problem is, I did it from what I understand about things, as a woman, not a man. So, I guess, this wouldn’t make things any better but worse if we are individuals thinking and understanding things in different ways.
Say something about yourself!
John does a great job of explaining how husbands and wives see the same thing differently and how these differences can hurt our marriages.
His personal accounts are great. The narrative overall is pretty easy to follow.
When his wife tells him he is a "fair weather friend" that he's was only there for here when its easy, but then he chooses to stay by her side.
That husbands and wives see things differently, and its not that one loves more or less or better, than another just differently. Also he tells about how wives will put into the relationship again and again, and feel like they are not getting enough. They don't tell husbands that they are not doing their part until its too late. He's got several of great tidbits here!
Really good book, if you want a great resource to help you with your marriage, you should add this to your library.
I love self improvement books, bios, memiors, educational! I love to learn about other cultures, science, and history. I am dating someone with kids, so I am also seeking helpful books on how to raise kids.
The author is a great speaker, and I learned so much from this book! Who would have thought that men and women were THIS different? I told all my single girlfriends that they have to read this book, but I think that many married people should read this to keep their love alive. It is amazing how men and women are like different species. I have been in a relationship for almost two years, but ever since I read this book we have been happier that when we first started dating! I never thought that I could be so happy!!! Please listen to this book.
I really liked how truthful this book was and how many examples John gave. He never had bais in his voice and he used real situations that happen all the time.
It seemed like he was talking to you and not reading it at all.
John talks about a point system that men and women have that we do not talk about, but it is very true and so interesting. He explained how women feel we have to do everything when all we have to do is ask the right way and we can get all the help we need, plus, make our man happier! I had to ask my boyfriend several times if the things in this book were true and he agreed fully. I was shocked!
MUST READ. This is for anyone who is in a relationship, wants to be in a relationship, or likes the opposite sex. :)
The reader was dull and boring, the book material was basically useless
It didn't hold my interest at all
Mr. Gray didn't seem to care about how he wanted the listener to understand his work. The reading was monotone and didn't really highlight any of his core points
I had to stop listening due to the disappointment in the material and the reader.
Waste of credit!
Yes, I think anyone that is in a relationship should read this, maybe divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
The time he realized himself how he treated his wife, what inspiried him to write this book and how they did it together, shows me with just alittle support from each other, that you can change your marriage for the better. I has given me hope and the will to want to be a better wife.
Understanding of how your partner thinks and reacts to what we say, it's a game changer.
Listen to me,we can fix anything
I have always heard the title of this book but never got it until my husband and I separated because he thinks I am jealous. I realized I was going to loose everything I want in my life and I needed to change, but I didn't know where to start. That brought me to seek theraphy, after a session one day I asked her is there anything I can read that will help my marriage? She handed me this book. I thought okay,but I went home and just after reading the first three pages it had me. I hate reading but was willing to do anything at this point. I read it on my lunch hour, after work and by the next week I needed to bring it back but wasn't finished to I downloaded on my kindle, then got in audio book on my phone. I have since bought another book same title but "together forever". It is good too. not finsihed with it but on my way.I am traveling three hours a day to work I will need to do another audio book to complete it to. My husband works out of the country a lot, before the last trip I bought this book for him to read. I wasn't sure if he would read it but, he has not sure if he has finished it yet, but he told me it was good and feels it has helped him also. I hope these books are the ticket to getting my husband back, and I hope this book has helped him to realize his faults in communication break down we have. I now understand the jealousy he referres to is being needy and consuming his time. Not jealousy over a woman, thats what I thought he meant and I just kept thinking why is saying that I don't think he has another woman? But after reading this I understand his point of view and I hope he understands me too. I just want him to listen, not fix me. Listening fixes me, it makes me feel needed and loved because he is being a friend not a boss. He will be coming home next week and we have plans to talk. I hope he will be more open to trying to work this out together. I don't want to loose him,he is the one for me. I hope my story can make you understand your partner to and apply this lessions to your life. Thank you John Gray and your wife for making me see my husband and I in a different way. If my marriage doesn't make it, It has still given me insight I need to have a relationship with someone that does want one with me someday. Thanks again.
Must have if you plan on being in a relationship
I would but because his books are great but i think someone else should narrate them.
Understanding the Opposite Sex!
Been there heard that. It is all pretty basic advice with nothing special to really give understanding. May be a good book for people already in relationships especially troubled ones. Almost nothing in here for single people looking to understand the opposite sex. Ho hum at best.
I found Dr. Gray's book to be full of very insightful, very practical information. He is very specific and uses examples that make it easy to understand the point he is making. After listening to the book, I found myself thinking and reacting very differently to communications with family, friends and colleagues. I found myself thinking more about my own reactions the things and more fully understanding the "why". This book should be required reading for every couple!!
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