I Need Your Love, Is That True?

How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

By: Byron Katie

Narrated by: Kimberly Farr

Length: 6 hrs and 47 mins

Publisher's summary

In Loving What Is, best-selling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love, Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.

The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills: how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren't. This approach doesn't work. It leaves millions of walking wounded, those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.

I Need Your Love, Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most; the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover's tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you've based your whole life on, and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.

“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love - seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.

This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” (Byron Katie)

©2005 Byron Katie (P)2005 Books on Tape, Inc.

Critic reviews

"Katie's chatty style and her use of detailed dialogues and simple exercises will make many readers feel transformation is inevitable." (Publishers Weekly)

The Work is amazing

Where does I Need Your Love, Is That True? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is a wonderful compilation - it is read by Kimberly Farr - I do prefer the shortened version read by Byron Katie she is wonderfully animated and I find I get so much from her just in her delivery of the material - Thank you Katie

What about Kimberly Farr’s performance did you like?

It was good although I prefer to listen to Byron Katie

If you were to make a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

An Amazing Gift Not to Be Missed

Life changing.

Initially I read " Loving what is...." . I craved more and this was a great extension to what I have already learned. Priceless info.

Mind blown

This was incredibly helpful! I’ve already been using The Work for a few weeks. But listening to this book helped me directly and very effectively apply it to my romantic life. It was also extremely validating to know I’m not the only one working through these insecurities.

Life changing!

This is the most healing book I have ever read and applied. I love it so much I am gonna listen to it again and again until I master just being the love that I am. I laughed so much while listening to this book because as I have been gaining more and more awareness of my thoughts, They are now funny to me because of how ridiculous my thoughts can be. I am now more free and love myself than ever before. Realizing how I think others are is just a reflection of myself. So I am excited to continue this work to be able to love others as who they are no matter what. Once I am fully able to do this , that is when I know I am loving myself the way I was designed too. I am love, we all are, so let’s live it! Thank you Byron Katie. And my lovely spiritual family Joe and Denise for introducing me to true freedom and LOVE

Best Book I've read-changed my life

The book is a powerful guide for changing your life. Her teachings are simply stated and in harmony with past great teachers. Katie is an average American lady who finds the truth and is capable of presenting a path for other average people to follow if they chose. I believe my life has improved immensely from following the simple but profound teachings presented in this book.

I am so grateful for finding this book

Words cannot describe how life changing this book really is. I cannot thank the Universe enough for bringing it to me...I have since been working on Truth for my thoughts and myself, and I know this could not of come from Katie or anyone else, but a higher understanding So needed for our world.

Disappointed in audio version

If you could sum up I Need Your Love, Is That True? in three words, what would they be?

Freedom, peace, enlightening

What didn’t you like about Kimberly Farr’s performance?

I love this book. I've read it three times before. I bought the audio version because I like listening to the dialogues between Katie and people doing The Work. I was disappointed to discover that it is just being read by another person. The dialogues are difficult to understand because it is just someone reading them, with little emotion and no distinction between the voice of Katie and the person she is working with.

Refreshing food for thought

Would you listen to I Need Your Love, Is That True? again? Why?

This book definitely sparks some healthy internal questioning. An easy and pleasant read and filled with information that spark some interesting questions.

Have you listened to any of Kimberly Farr’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No

Life changer

I love the way Byron Katie helped me understand the importance of accepting life, others and finally and the clue of all, ourselves! The secret to living one's own life.
Loved it from the begging to the end!

Katie doesn't read this. : (

So bummed. Asking someone to read for Katie is like asking someone to sing for Barbara Streisand... The teaching is lost without her voice. Wish I had known.... Anything she does audibly I would hugely recommend. Big difference. Oh well, no mistake : )