The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills: how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren't. This approach doesn't work. It leaves millions of walking wounded, those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.
I Need Your Love, Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most; the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover's tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you've based your whole life on, and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.
©2005 Byron Katie; (P)2005 Books on Tape, Inc.
"Katie's chatty style and her use of detailed dialogues and simple exercises will make many readers feel transformation is inevitable." (Publishers Weekly)
This book helped me to stop living in fear and hurt and live in peace instead.
I love the part where I realized how much I seek approval for everything I do.
I learned that I don't need to have approval from anyone to live a happy and peaceful life.
That I get to choose how to live my life. I can let people be who they are and I can be who I am.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn how to be happy without placing blame on anyone.
Words cannot describe how life changing this book really is. I cannot thank the Universe enough for bringing it to me...I have since been working on Truth for my thoughts and myself, and I know this could not of come from Katie or anyone else, but a higher understanding So needed for our world.
I enjoyed hearing more about "the work" which I was introduced to in "Loving What Is". I didn't like it quite as much as the "Loving What Is". It does not have actual sessions with Katie like Loving What is does which makes a big difference. None the less, if you are interested in "The Work" it is still a good resource.
Great advice. Great story. This stuff just makes sense. If you're looking to better your ability to find happiness from within, this book is it.
Not many characters, but Katie I guess would be the best character.
This book made me think, and re-think in positive ways thoughts I've believed for so long that have had extremely negative consequences for myself.
Read this book. It's worth the time.
I can't get over how enlightening your work is!!! I listened to two of your books in two days. It's helping me deal with the moving away of my daughter and the way I look at my whole life and the whole world. I can change my beliefs. Even change the way I cope with being bipolar. I can now actually say to myself that I'm glad I have mental illness. That's amazing in itself. I don't fear being found out now. Another stress removed. I'm still not going to advertise it but I'm not going to hide and isolate either as much somehow.
This book provides you with a powerful skill of finding those responses you were always looking for outside while you weren't aware that you are the only responsible for your own life.
I have read this book several times. This week I returned to it to help me get through a disturbance I had with my co workers, it gave me the outlook I needed on the situation. What a relief! The mind is often messed up and I just have to question it with Katie's method.
It was so spot on to how we attach to thoughts and run with them and this is what causes us to suffer. So when we stop and question our thoughts and see if they are really true we save ourselves from a lot of hurt and pain. How many times have you gotten all upset over something and later realize you were wrong? It's that kind of egg on your face moment where you see your whole life has been a battle with untrue thoughts that cause us so much upset. Wars have been started because people believe their story and thoughts and stay attached to them no matter what.
This is a self help book so there isn't really a favorite character but Katie would be it. I must say I've read thousands of self help books throughout my lifetime and this book is rare, unique and change my life. I not only wished I'd found out about The Work years ago but I don't feel the need to look for self help books anymore.
Honestly, she gives so many examples in this book but my favorite is her describing a woman who meets a man and she is a librarian and he is into NASCAR. Well the women really isn't but says she is for the benefit of the man as they are newly dating. Time passes and they go to races, she's all into it then one day he wants to go to a race and she doesn't want to go and it starts a fight because she was never really into auto racing.
Question your thoughts...and do it on paper! The mind will try to come up with examples and evidence to drag you into your story. So stay with the four questions. "All war belongs on paper."
I've listened to this book again and again and never tire of it. I've done classes on The Work now and practice it every single day and it all started with this book back in 2010! I am so grateful to Byron Katie and The Work as my life is truly peaceful no matter what happens because I know it's all happening just as it should. Only when I argue with reality and what is do I suffer. When I accept life and everything it has to offer I see life with so much love...when someone dies I know it was supposed to happen cause it did. When my mom got sick with cancer I was able to find the good in it as silly as that sounds but I was so open and okay with everything and that made my mom feel better...I was so present with her in the moment because I didn't have all those death thoughts running through my head...those this should NOT being happening thoughts. So I was able to have true love and peace and clarity with her in such a tough time. Before The Work I would have been angry at life, mad at God, and moaning about how unfair it all was. My mom is cancer free now!
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