I Need Your Love, Is That True?

How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

By: Byron Katie

Narrated by: Kimberly Farr

Length: 6 hrs and 47 mins

Publisher's summary

In Loving What Is, best-selling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love, Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.

The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills: how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren't. This approach doesn't work. It leaves millions of walking wounded, those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.

I Need Your Love, Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most; the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover's tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you've based your whole life on, and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.

“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love - seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.

This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” (Byron Katie)

©2005 Byron Katie (P)2005 Books on Tape, Inc.

Critic reviews

"Katie's chatty style and her use of detailed dialogues and simple exercises will make many readers feel transformation is inevitable." (Publishers Weekly)

The truth that is needed to hear

Excellent!!! Gets right to the truth. The only thing that would have made this read better is if Bryon Katie have narrated with her sweet voice.

Practical and helpful

Very good explanation of the work. Makes life easier, peaceful, and loving.
I like listening to the exams.

Brilliant. Loved it.

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes. We can all learn from Byron Katie.

What was one of the most memorable moments of I Need Your Love, Is That True??

The whole recording is great

What about Kimberly Farr’s performance did you like?

Very good. Easy to listen to

What did you learn from I Need Your Love, Is That True? that you would use in your daily life?

Repetitively ask my self " Is it true?" Can be applied to any situation.

Any additional comments?

Highly recommended

Lousy reader. Excellent book.

Lousy reader. Excellent book.
Ferndale voice reading book for Audible is so bad that it becomes extremely difficult and confusing to tell characters apart. FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER VERSION.

Best advice ever for relationships

Just listen and do the inquiry and you'll see the results. nuff said. Byron Katie's work is transformative.

It's so healing

I can't get over how enlightening your work is!!! I listened to two of your books in two days. It's helping me deal with the moving away of my daughter and the way I look at my whole life and the whole world. I can change my beliefs. Even change the way I cope with being bipolar. I can now actually say to myself that I'm glad I have mental illness. That's amazing in itself. I don't fear being found out now. Another stress removed. I'm still not going to advertise it but I'm not going to hide and isolate either as much somehow.

great

Would you listen to I Need Your Love, Is That True? again? Why?

I am listening to this book for the 3rd time. So much to learn!

I need your love, Is that True

This book was an eye opener. She could easily be talking about me!
I encourage everyone to do the work! I believe it can save marriages and relationships that are disintegrating daily in this generation!

The only person who needs to approve of you is you yourself.

It was a great reminder that everything we feel has to do with our personal beliefs and not with the other persons actions.

Probably half of the book is examples of people thinking it is the other person and they have no control over the situation to turning it around and seeing that the complainer can get what they want from themselves and do have control of how to feel about it.

One of the examples will hit you home and be helpful.

Change your life

What did you love best about I Need Your Love, Is That True??

This book helped me to stop living in fear and hurt and live in peace instead.

What was one of the most memorable moments of I Need Your Love, Is That True??

I love the part where I realized how much I seek approval for everything I do.

Which scene was your favorite?

I learned that I don't need to have approval from anyone to live a happy and peaceful life.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

That I get to choose how to live my life. I can let people be who they are and I can be who I am.

Any additional comments?

I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn how to be happy without placing blame on anyone.