©1999 Bill Ferguson; (P)1999 Bill Ferguson
I shamfully admit to owning over 200 self help books collected over the last 10 or so years, so I feel very confident telling everyone that this book is an absolutely mind blowing, life changing experience to say the least! I started reading it hoping to learn new skills on how to keep a very crazed, dumb-a**, soon to be ex-husband calm, and hopefully avoid an expensive war. I ended up understanding my husbands issues as well as my own and was able to uncover the love that had been buried by 10 years worth of pain. In a nutshell, we are back together again enjoying a relationship we never had but had always wanted. The lessons are easy to understand, but the work is very hard. This is something that needs to be listened to over and over again. You'll get something out of it every time. If you do this, you'll know when you finally "got it." Looking in the mirror and really seeing the truth is a very humbling, albeit liberating experience and the hardest thing anyone will ever do if they're brave enough to try. When you get to the point where you don't feel the need to be heard anymore and genuinely hope for the best for both, then you'll understand what I'm trying to explain. If someone had told me I'd feel this way before reading it, I might not have started it since I did get something out of being right. Who knows what will happen in the future. Knowing that I am good enough for myself has allowed me to enjoy all of my relationships without a sense of feeling that I need those relationships to feel worthwhile. You might think you know who you are and that your partner is truly satan reincarnate, but to really KNOW yourself down to your soul despite your past, despite what your spouse has done to you......that's a totally different experience all together. There are no words to explain what that kind of joy feels like. The beauty of it is you don't need your partners cooperation to get results. Thank you Bill Ferguson!!! I'm forever grateful!!!
This is a fabulous book for everyone, considering marriage, married or in a bad relationship. It helps improve communication. It's the best book I have found on understanding being a victim and how to stop being a victim. It's a great book.We each bring baggage into a relationship and this book is a blue print on how to let go of it and not let it taint your experience. It's very helpful. I sent a copy to both my kids and three friends.
This book should be mandated reading for any couple considering divorce. More marriages and families could be saved if couples are given truly good advice, and the current unnecessarily adversarial legal system which only serves to disconnect couples further is reigned in.
I havent listened to the whole audio book but you need to know this is not to heal past relationship wounds. This is to heal wounds from the relationship you are IN. I am trying to get over an ex boyfriend, this is for wrongs done within the relationship and I do not feel it addresses some common issues. It believes we all have a role in being wrong which I do not agree. Sometimes it is just their issue and you addressed it and they are angry end of story.
This has helped me finally get over my 15 year marriage
Facing the truth
Accept him or not accept
Keeping in mind he is verbally abusive no matter who he ends up with
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