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Getting Unstuck: Breaking Your Habitual Patterns and Encountering Naked Reality

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Publisher's Summary

Have you ever had an itch, and not scratched it? In the Buddhist tradition, this points to a vast paradox: that by refraining from our urge to "scratch", great peace and happiness is available. On Getting Unstuck, Pema Chodron introduces a rare Tibetan teaching she received from her teacher, Dzigar Kontrul Rinpoche, and one that has become critical to her practice. Here, she unveils the mystery of an ineffable quality; a "pre-emotional" feeling that arises in us, brings us discomfort, and causes us to react by escaping the discomfort, often with harmful habits. With Getting Unstuck, she offers us a first look at "both the itch and the scratch": what Tibetan Buddhists call shenpa.

On this new, full-length recording, Pema Chodron, best-selling author and beloved American Buddhist nun, shows us how to recognize shenpa, catch it as it appears, and develop a playful, lively curiosity toward it. Join Pema Chodron to discover more about:

  • Critical mind: how to recognize this fundamental shenpa, and approach yourself and others with a sense of humor and loving-kindness
  • Ways to unravel the patterns of self-denigration, and develop the fundamental maitri, loving-kindness, toward yourself
  • How to cultivate acceptance of your irritability, insecurities, and other simply human traits
  • Recognition, Refrain, Relaxing, and Resolve: the four R's of working with shenpa, and more

    An urge comes up, we succumb to it, and it becomes stronger, teaches Pema Chodron. We reinforce our cravings, habits, and addictions by giving into them repeatedly. On Getting Unstuck, Chodron guides us through this "sticky feeling", exploring the moments when we get hooked, and offers us tools for learning to stay with our uneasiness, soften our hearts toward ourselves and others, and live a more peaceful life in the fullness of the present moment.

    ©2005 Pema Chodron; (P)2005 Sounds True

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    "Chodron demonstrates how effective the Buddhist point of view can be in bringing order into disordered lives." (Publishers Weekly)

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      "Catch the Shempa"

      Brilliant. Wish I could thank her in person for this amazingly clear insight. I can't believe I may actually "get it" after all these years. I will be listening to this over and over again. Extremely clear.

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      Celestina 09-25-16
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      "feeling more connected with myself"

      I've been struggling with some hard issues and this book has helped me stay focused on what's important.

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      This book is my first by Pema, and it did not disappoint . I'm a fan and recommend to those who need a different perspective or new ideas.

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      "A Required Course"

      Pema Chodren's light, humorous and approachable way allows listeners to be introduced to a concept and path of Tibetan Buddhism that frees us from the suffering of our own minds. She offers practical and applicable tools to stay present to what is, and allow intense emotions to be witnessed and released. There are many golden nuggets of wisdom that everyone should have access to. The more people that truly grasp these ideas and ways of being, the happier and healthier this world will be.

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      ANGie 07-02-16
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      "Pema helped me with her hilarious wisdom…"

      I thought that I was just not able to "Stay" because of my being so new to Meditation, but I just need to learn…Yep that's it, right? I was ready for a much more dull, but insightful teaching. I was so amazed by Pema's imperfectly Perfect quite Normal & Hilarious stories. Thank you for letting me be imperfect while I actually learned how to expect the thoughts to creep in and make them wait until I was ready to deal with my craziness. I was able to really Stay long enough to be able to take on whatever came my way calmly confidently. I will always be excited to learn all I can from such a beautiful human being as is Pema.

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      "she's an amazing exampe of what it is to be human."

      we all search for an explanation of what it SHOULD feel like to be Human. we sometimes think we have it all wrong and that for some reason we're not finding the happiness that it seems everyone else has.

      She offers a perfect way to be imperfect. She invites you to see that by acknowledging and accepting that if you're human, you're going to feel. Not necessarily feel "good"... Just feel. And THAT is where you find peace and happiness! You find it in the bad stuff. So you learn to "invite" the bad stuff so that you have an opportunity to "know" what it feels like to be human and you begin to rejoice and your heart begins to fill with gratitude.

      I could listen to her speak all day. She has an inviting, soft, funny and gentle personality and she allows you into her heart where we all lock away shame and guilt and she shows you that you're not alone!

      She has done an amazing job with her journey!

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      this great book allows you to manage the things that make you nervous or get you stuck

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      "So incredibly helpful. Thank you."

      Whatever ails you, listen to this. It helped me put a lot of things into perspective.

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      I enjoyed the way stories were presented with a whimsical fashion, made one think about how it relates in our lives.

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      Stefanie 03-29-16
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      "MUST HAVE"

      This is an absolutely "must have" and one that I always go back to again and again when I feel any sense of imbalance or negative emotions whatsoever. If you've never had the gift of listening to Pema Chodron, you will be so glad you made this purchase. She's the perfect balance of wisdom, calmness, true spiritual teacher, and she combines all that with laugh out loud humor. She speaks directly to you and the teachings in this book, but her personal story is amazing (you can find several interviews on YouTube with her, including one with Oprah.) If you're looking to find yourself and stop the madness in your head and in your world, GET THIS BOOK.

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      "Useful Wisdom"

      This really made sense to me. Pema Chodron introduces the concept of 'Shenpa', that point at which we are launched into habititual behaviours that cause us pain. For example 'that person' does 'that thing' that makes you angry or self critical or... Getting unstuck is about recognising shenpa as it happens, engaging with the cause and being able to break the bad response.

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      "A funny Buddhist"

      This is a funny and entertaining look at how anger can control us and how we need to learn to let it go and chill out essentially!!! Pema is very funny and honest about her pursuit for inner peace and I really related to her during the book. Recommended for anyone who wants to calm down and learn how to deal with stressful situations in a healthy way!

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      "Gentle and effective"

      I had become weary of self-help in most forms: it has to suit the personality, and the difficulty lies in finding the right one for you. I suspected that this one might be a little too eastern for my taste, but decided to give it a go - maybe it could just calm me down on the drive to and from work! Well it did more than that, she has a lovely manner, and it made a lot of sense to me with regard to the way our minds work. Without much effort I have been able to stand back from a lot of my angst, and at best, turn it around and see it from the other end of the telescope.

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    • Jason
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      "A grandmother speaks wisdom"

      In this open and accessible talk by Pema Chodron, she comes across as grandmotherly and gently. As I listen I can imagine a twinkle in her eye as she speaks of her own experience and instructs on how to deal with issues common to all.
      To anyone that has taken time to pause and reflect on their daily interactions, it's hilarious.

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    • Mark
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      "A Manual to change you life"

      For Buddhists or non buddhist Pema teaches a way through your habits and habitual reponses to a better life today - and for buddhist refresh inspiration for your practise on the path to enlightenment
      Very clear - a call to action

      5 of 6 people found this review helpful
    • Desmond McCart
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      "Life changing!"
      Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

      I already have recommended this book to friends and one in particular who has really taken on the messages of acceptance and finding true contentment


      What did you like best about this story?

      Pema conveys the key messages of Bhudism in such simple and accessible ways. It really made it easy to get into the subject


      What about Pema Chodron’s performance did you like?

      It is really natural. There is no pretention and it is easy to relate to the stories she tells


      If you made a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

      Being happy to live, not living to be happy


      Any additional comments?

      I cant recommend this highly enough! To say that it chnaged my life is no lie. It wasnt in a big dramatic way. I simply feel more confident and able to live life every day

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    • Liam
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      7/13/15
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      "Amazing and strongly recommended!!"

      For those at an intermediate stage, this recording is really useful. It helps analyse those moments when we're stuck! Very, very useful and truly, as always, inspirational.

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    • Natalie
      4/29/15
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      "A really useful practical teaching, great listen"

      Pema is so delightful to listen to, this teaching is profound but so simple and has really given me a focus point in my meditation. Her advice is practical and her honesty about her experience makes this teaching so easy to relate to! Thank you Pema!

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    • Mrs. S. Gittos
      3/19/15
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      "Getting unstuck"

      I loved Pema Chodron clear mind. So comforting and inspirationnal as well as practical. I am so grateful. Some more!








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    • Elvis O
      2/2/15
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      "A practice for healing trauma"

      If every adult engaged in this profound practice that Pema offers with a light touch,what a different world we would live in ! A practice that helps us take responsibility for the places where we hurt the most .This is an audiobook that I return to again and again.Achalavira

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