How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They're more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.
The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know, someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for, is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.
©2005 Martha Stout; (P)2005 Tantor Media, Inc.
"Stout is a good writer and her exploration of sociopaths can be arresting." (Publishers Weekly)
"A remarkable philosophical examination of the phenomenon of sociopathy and its everyday manifestations....Stout's portraits make a striking impact and readers with unpleasant neighbors or colleagues may find themselves paying close attention to her sociopathic-behavior checklist and suggested coping strategies. Deeply thought-provoking and unexpectedly lyrical." (Kirkus)
I would recommend this book to my friends and family.
I was shocked by the information provided and find it invaluable.
The stories provided as examples of sociopaths were sadly familiar.
The association of pity with sociopaths was surprising.
The book provides essential information for dealing with people without conscience.
This book wasn't what I thought it would be. I expected to learn more about the mind of a sociopath - but honestly, I just didn't finish it.
I listened to this book before reading The Psychopath Test (both books received a lot of press). This one is much better than the Psychopath Test. The case studies that Dr. Stout presents and the details she uses make you really think about all the people you have known.
The true measure of enjoyment of an audiobook is whether I regret pausing the book and anticipate the next time I can listen...this book delivered. I also didn't know what "gaslight" meant and it prompted me to rent the movie on Netflix. It prompted discussions with my coworkers about whether we knew any "lazy sociopaths."
For anyone that likes to observe others and understand what motivates people that seem to make irrational decisions...I think this book can open your eyes to a new way of evaluating.
This is not an easy, stressless listen. The author has clearly, concisely and engagingly exposed a very frightening and complex subject. It is not about the sociopath we all know and fear. It is about those we do not recognize because their actions are subtle, disguised and not criminal. I started wondering who of the many people I've met and delt with in my life are sociopaths.
Bringing me to the understanding that there is a genetic predisposition to being a sociopath, but environment cannot be overlooked as a factor.
Shelly Frazier's clear diction and the excellent pace of her sentences made this very complicated subject easy to understand.
My exhusband was very probably a sociopath!
This book held my interest the entire way through. It is quite unsettling to realize how some people you encounter in the world really do not care about others feelings or well-being whatsoever! It was particularly timely for me as my husband and I have just gone through two and a half excruciating years dealing with our daughter's love interest, who ended up being a textbook case of sociopathy. (Needless to say, he completely broke her heart) It's amazing how easily, even with all our experience, it's still possible to be taken by one of these con artists. This book helps you to spot them right away. I highly recommend this book as an informative and insightful listen for all!
As the author indicates, sociopaths appear in 4% of the population in the United States.We learn, soon enough from the author, why this should cause the hair on the back of our necks to stand up and take notice. Sociopaths are able to use the elements of our higher selves against us, in no small part, because sociopaths are able to appear--so normal! Yet, even the best and brightest of sociopaths sew the seeds of their detection and destruction. The author provides the rest of us with some clues to the patterns of their behavior, which can help us to reduce and/or avoid becoming their next victim. This book was definitely an interesting and engaging read.
The Sociopath Next Door; They Seemed so Normal Until...
This was a great book, though I was turned off by the religious portion (the last chapter), as I feel that many sociopaths use religion as a means to control other people. Other than that, I thought this book was quite fascinating, though a little scary.
Enjoying audiobooks daily!
Yes. If they understood psycho-babble.
None really. It stands on it's own as a good review of the dangers of your next door neighbor.
Fairly well done.
Any time the client's showed their deep psychosis in an honest fashion.
This book will scare the crap out of you. You will not make new friends!
If you've ever known someone who seems to have a negative influence on all of the lives around them, you'll like this book. It helps you to understand that what you think you see is real.
Non-fiction offering, makes you think, but at times seems over the top and maybe a bit contrived in order to keep you reading like a good thriller.
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