How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They're more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.
The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know, someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for, is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.
©2005 Martha Stout; (P)2005 Tantor Media, Inc.
"Stout is a good writer and her exploration of sociopaths can be arresting." (Publishers Weekly)
"A remarkable philosophical examination of the phenomenon of sociopathy and its everyday manifestations....Stout's portraits make a striking impact and readers with unpleasant neighbors or colleagues may find themselves paying close attention to her sociopathic-behavior checklist and suggested coping strategies. Deeply thought-provoking and unexpectedly lyrical." (Kirkus)
If you think fiction can be scary....think again. This is a Must Read!!!!! This book reveals so much about what shapes our lives.
Truly eye-opening. You will realize that the a-holes that have been in your life are something fundamentally different than you thought they were. When you ask yourself "How could somebody do that?" you will now have an answer. Sociopathy seems to be the absence of three emotions - empathy, embarrassment and remorse. And this prevents any type of emotional attachment.
Society at large is blind to the sociopaths. After listening to this book I was watching the CBS show "Person of Interest". The protagonists of the show are trying to track down the former member of an East German death squad that used to travel the world murdering defectors. Based on the premise of this book you will see that these people could not simply be soldiers. To do something like that you would have to be a sociopath.
The plot thickened in that this guy was hunting down people for the murder of his wife, whom he had loved. It turns out she had betrayed him and was still alive. He hunted her down, but spared her life because he loved her.
None of that could happen. To be a death squad member you would have to be a sociopath. As a sociopath, you would be completely incapable of that type of emotional attachment.
The writers of the show made this guy fundamentally like the rest of us (except a "good soldier") either because they don't comprehend the difference between us and them or because they don't believe their audience would comprehend it or accept it.
always looking for the next fabulous audiobook. I'm so glad to have found the audible website.
not better, just different.
there are a few books coming out on this type of subject, but this author really has a handle on the subject, from her clinical practice as a psychologist, and as one who has studied it in great depth.She knows the signs, and knows what to look for, and has spent her life trying to help the victims of such people. I really enjoyed her little tableaus in which she describes people that she has met either directly or indirectly through her practice.They were a perfect illustration for this subject.
Perhaps... 'required reading for those contemplating management roles'
But regardless, it is a useful read for anyone involved in an organization such as a hospital for example.
There is bound to be someone you will recognize from her analysis. Even if you are not working in an organization or similar, it is a useful text, because the subjects (i.e. sociopaths) can be quite baffling to others for a variety of reasons.
I live in Adelaide AU, not Alabama USA. Thanks Audible.
A good insight into the mind of a sociopath and ways of dealing with them or just understanding how they think.
To me, reading this book was like plunging into cold water with its shocking revelations about the number of sociopaths that are out there affecting our lives. The descriptions and details give a clear and sometimes frightening glimpse into the mind of the sociopath. Most of us have no clear idea what a sociopath really is and how to recognize one although we often think we do from things we see in movies and the press. The author's research and clinical experiences lend a great deal of credibility and the writing is excellent. It never feels like sensationalism. As I listened, I began to see how some of the people I have known are probably sociopaths and many things I didn't understand about my experiences with them suddenly seemed much clearer. I highly recommend this book. It has helped me in dealing with some of the people that were enigmas in my own life. The narrator did an adequate but not masterful job in my opinion but my wife thought the narration was excellent.
This was an OK listen, but not overly insightful. If you've seen a half hour docco on sociopatha, or even read superficially online about them then you'll probably have the same amount of info as this book gives you.
I wouldn't recommend it.
You would imagine that what is basically a textbook about sociopaths would be boring, but this book never was. It explained a lot of what has happened in my life and helped me come to terms with why there never seemed to be a WHY when certain people did things I couldn't understand.
Also helped me realize I am not one! Ha ha!
This is an insightful book. The narrator shares this in a very chilling way, conveying the creepiness of the subject matter well. The stories used as examples could be shortened though. I felt they went on a little too long, but did make their point. Prepare yourself before listening, it is truly chilling to ponder this information.
Do you read the book before you dislike my reviews?
We all have a little sociopath inside of us. Some more or less than others, but we all do. That being said, after reading this title, one might question oneself if they are a sociopath. This book was interesting to read because we all choose everyday on what is right, wrong, moral and immoral. We tend to justify our action by rationalizing our action before acting on it. We feel guilt by having a conscience and feel rewarded by doing the right thing, but yet, we draw the line at being a sociopath by having a moral responsibility. This book does a text book explanation and examples of a sociopath. The thought of being alone, having success through other means and being acting social, does not necessary us being in this category, but the lack of having a conscience does.
I found this short work fascinating, although not as fully developed as I would have liked. I would have found it more complete if there was more general discussion on how sociopaths fit into our culture to complement the vignettes.
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