Some people - a sizeable minority - prefer to avoid the limelight, tend to listen more than they speak, feel alone in large groups, and require lots of private time to restore their energy. Often they feel different, not right, less than. But as Marti Olsen Laney proves, that is far from the truth.
The Introvert Advantage dispels common myths about introverts - they’re not necessarily shy, aloof, or antisocial - and explains how they are hardwired from birth to focus inward, so outside stimulation such as chitchat, phone calls, parties, or office meetings can easily become "too much". Most importantly, it thoroughly refutes many introverts’ belief that something is wrong with them. Instead, it helps them recognize their inner strengths - their analytical skills, ability to think outside the box, and strong powers of concentration. It provides tools to improve relationships with partners, kids, colleagues, and friends, while offering dozens of tips, including eight ways to showcase their abilities at work and strategies for socializing. In short, The Introvert Advantage shows introverts how to take advantage of their special qualities not only to survive in an extrovert-oriented world, but to thrive.
©2002 Marti Olsen Laney (P)2013 HighBridge Company
At last an insightful consideration of why I have felt so out of sync with the rest of the people around me. Great suggestions on how to work on fitting in with people.
As an introvert, I found this book extremely depressing. It sent the message that extroverts are normal, fun party animals who want to be around people all the time and introverts are weird, sloth-like people who only go outside if forced.
I would like less information on how special and delicate I am as an introvert and more information on how to get over my introverted tendencies.
This book left me stressed out and frustrated. At no point did I feel convinced there was any advantage to being an introvert. And most of her advice for dealing with workplace issues would leave my coworkers thinking I was utterly insane. Very disappointed.
I bought this to try to understand introverts better. It started out good citing studies and giving some good general information. Later chapters were unfocused and very boring. She even gets into how an introvert should approach dating. The last half of the book was too subjective to hold my interest.
Narration was fine
Drop the last half to two thirds of the book and it would be a great book.
The idea of introvert and extrovert personalities wasn't new to me, but in the scientific tradition I've been schooled that idea have little or no importance. So I've never really thought about it. This book made me do that. It's not very well written, some of the chapters are actually boring and gave me nothing. But on the whole the book gave me a new perspective on what I already known, some new ways to handle my own life. And that is worth much.
The narration is okay. No more. No less. A book of this kind needs that. So I am glad I listened to it.
interested in medicine, fitness, and economics.
While I enjoyed the introvert/extrovert tests towards the beginning of the book and the section about introverted kids, I thought the rest of the book was a waste of time. The author kept repeating herself. Moreover, the author made introverts appear frail although this was the exact opposite of her intention.
This book was such an encouragement! Often times growing up I have felt like I was "different" or "off" for not enjoying what others kids enjoyed or acting the same as them. As I got older, I learned to accept who I am, even if I didn't like it. This book assured me that my thoughts and actions are indeed normal, and encouraged me in my introversion, giving me advice on how to manage more successfully in my daily life. Just hearing the author list emotions or actions I have found myself feeling or doing in the past and felt strange about have taken a burden off my mind. I definitely recommend this book to those who feel insecure about their more internal thoughts and lifestyles.
She starts out with family advice, which felt slow. It's difficult to make family advice that's detailed but general. It moves on to topics of socialization and finally gets good around the last two chapters.
I'm single with no kids, so large sections of this book felt totally irrelevant to me.
I am an introvert, and this book has allowed me to gain a much better understanding of how my brain works and what it is that has been making me feel different my entire life. Even before finishing the book I had begun to see the entire world with new eyes, and understand people better.
I highly recommend this book to any introvert, and also to any extroverts whom are interested in gaining an understanding of the other 20% of people and why they act the way they do.
I will also write, for the first time in my life, I can say, honestly, that I will no longer try to hold myself up to the extrovert's standards for socializing and interaction, for which I've always strode. I feel much better about myself in knowing there is a physiological reason for me not to meet these standards, and going forward, I will cut myself some slack rather than beat myself up so much for not fitting my complex polygon into that circle.
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