Some people - a sizeable minority - prefer to avoid the limelight, tend to listen more than they speak, feel alone in large groups, and require lots of private time to restore their energy. Often they feel different, not right, less than. But as Marti Olsen Laney proves, that is far from the truth.
The Introvert Advantage dispels common myths about introverts - they’re not necessarily shy, aloof, or antisocial - and explains how they are hardwired from birth to focus inward, so outside stimulation such as chitchat, phone calls, parties, or office meetings can easily become "too much". Most importantly, it thoroughly refutes many introverts’ belief that something is wrong with them. Instead, it helps them recognize their inner strengths - their analytical skills, ability to think outside the box, and strong powers of concentration. It provides tools to improve relationships with partners, kids, colleagues, and friends, while offering dozens of tips, including eight ways to showcase their abilities at work and strategies for socializing. In short, The Introvert Advantage shows introverts how to take advantage of their special qualities not only to survive in an extrovert-oriented world, but to thrive.
©2002 Marti Olsen Laney (P)2013 HighBridge Company
WAY up there. REALLY helped me understand myself and my hubby more.
When I understood why we get "overwhelmed" and how easy it is to pause to recharge the old batteries.
This book did such a great job of letting me "off the hook." Hubby is an extreme introvert and I am mostly an introvert with a couple extroverted veins. It helped me understand why we work so well together as well as why we don't enjoy socializing. We already knew we didn't enjoy it, but now we know why...and that although we are different, we are not "wrong." Hubby has thanked me several times for downloading it and we are each on our second listen.
I didn't see that the "tests" were available in a supplemental pdf. I might be wrong about that, but consider adding them! ;oP
I bought this to try to understand introverts better. It started out good citing studies and giving some good general information. Later chapters were unfocused and very boring. She even gets into how an introvert should approach dating. The last half of the book was too subjective to hold my interest.
Narration was fine
Drop the last half to two thirds of the book and it would be a great book.
The idea of introvert and extrovert personalities wasn't new to me, but in the scientific tradition I've been schooled that idea have little or no importance. So I've never really thought about it. This book made me do that. It's not very well written, some of the chapters are actually boring and gave me nothing. But on the whole the book gave me a new perspective on what I already known, some new ways to handle my own life. And that is worth much.
The narration is okay. No more. No less. A book of this kind needs that. So I am glad I listened to it.
The author made some good points, but makes being an introvert sound like a disability, like a fragile child who has to be treated with kid gloves. "Quiet" by Susan Cain is a much better book on the subject.
I'm an introvert and bought this book to learn how to be less "shy". It doesn't teach that. Much better, it teaches you how to interact with the extroverts around you and how to take advantage of being an introvert rather than fighting to be something you are not.
I highly recommend this book. I've already had my mother, the queen of extroverts, read this book and recommended it to several friends and other family members. My mother has also recommended it to friends.
It not only helps introverts understand more about why we do what we do, and why we feel drained in situations that our more extroverted counterparts seem to thrive in, but also helps extroverts better understand how to work with us and allow us to complement their skills with our own, much different skill sets.
A mother, a wife, part-time professional trying to fit it all in...
I thought this book did a good job regarding describing the differences between being an introvert and being an extrovert. I really liked how it illustrated the dynamics between an introvert-extrovert relationship. I thought this was the most useful and practical part of the book. In addition, it also helped me realize that what I had mistaken for my lack of confidence or self-esteem, was actually just my being an introvert. However, despite what the title professes, I felt it didn't really talk about the introvert 'advantage'. I felt like it was more of a pep-talk merely giving us 'permission' and justification to being an introvert. I think I'm interested in reading The Quiet by Susan Cain, and I will be able to give a better review after I 'read' that one. Please let me know if anyone has read both. It would be good to have a discussion. Thanks!
I would not buy another audible book from Laney and Martson, unless I had a printed copy to scan through beforehand. What I would be looking for to help me decide whether or not to buy the next book, is do I feel like I'm in therapy? If the answer was no, then I'd likely pick up another book from these authors. Their content is good and I certainly learned a great deal. What I struggled with is that the book is titled "Introverts Advantage" -- and with this title I was thinking it would be an uplifting and empowering book on how I could exploit my temperament to be a great advantage. Yes! Exciting!
But, instead... the author spent a lot of time comforting the introvert that there isn't anything wrong with you, that it is okay to be an introvert, and sharing ways that you can cope... The problem for me with that approach is that I am comfortably an introvert. I know it's okay to be an introvert. And I want to do more than just cope, I want to thrive! I want to make being an introvert a competitive advantage!
Now all that being said, the author does give great insights on common traits of introverts, some fascinating facts on physical and chemical differences in the brain, and she has some great tips on how to cope and how to recharge. I just wish she should have shared all this great information in a way that was more uplifting and empowering.
So, in summary.... if you are uncomfortable/uneasy about being an introvert, it's a good book because it will lift you up. If you are trying to understand an introvert, it's a good book because it will well inform you on the differences between extroverts and introverts - and helps with many types of relationships (e.g. parentschildren; spousal, work, friends).
If you are completely okay or better yet completely happy with being an introvert, then this book may not be for you.... because it spends little time making you feel that it is an advantage...or uplifting you on how to make it a great advantage.
Laney specifically identifies the audience for her book as introverts, but I think it is better suited for introverts who aren't comfortable being introverts. For introverts who are asking the "why" question of themselves or are frustrated about their MO, this book may serve a real purpose. But if you are like me and have pre-identified yourself as an introvert and are perfectly ok with it, this book is highly repetitive and useless.
FYI, Laney invites extroverts to read her book as a guide to understand the introverts in their life but she is very clear that she's writing to her own kind.
I have no comments on Ms. Marston's performance. She was competent and engaging.
In a word or two, this book boils down to common sense and good logical self-reflection - incidentally something Laney claims introverts are generally strong. I essentially learned nothing from this read and because of that it was a personal waste of time. Again I am vexed with giving a book a 1-star but I can't pull it here since I do fundamentally agree with Laney's description of how introverts and extroverts get recharged. My extroverted wife has never respected this idea (she claims I just want to be away from her so perhaps she'll give it a little more credit in the future.
I only got through about 2/3 of this book. It has some really useful information and also some sections that don't yet pertain to me (section on introverted children etc.) I think the reason I didn't finish it was because the writing was very dry and I found myself checking out a lot.
The section on introvert brain chemistry was tough to follow. That's an area where a visual aid would help (tricky with an audiobook, i know). The rest was pretty straightforward.
I felt like the narrator was trying to compensate for the writing by selling it a little too hard. She sounded silly sometimes.
I've been embracing my introversion more and respecting my needs more.
Yes and no. This book provides great insights into the mind of the introvert. However, the writer seems to be lacking in a content. The advice for socializing, relationships, and parenting as many other topics is almost always same: slow down, take breaks from socializing, create schedule for socializing, and etc... Hearing this advice over and over became so incredibly monotonous that by the end of the book I could barely pay attention. Also the advice she gives seem to be tailored specifically to the extreme introvert. If you consider yourself extremely introverted, then you will probably enjoy this book. However, if you are slightly extroverted, then you probably not want hear her drone on about how to be introverted.
The last chapter was probably the most helpful.
Despite the fact that I did not personally enjoy this book. It gave me some great insight into how introverted and extroverted I really I am.
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