At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the 20th century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
©2012 Susan Cain (P)2012 Random House
"An intriguing and potentially life-altering examination of the human psyche that is sure to benefit both introverts and extroverts alike." (Kirkus)
"Cain gives excellent portraits of a number of introverts and shatters misconceptions. Cain consistently holds the reader’s interest by presenting individual profiles, looking at places dominated by extroverts (Harvard Business School) and introverts (a West Coast retreat center), and reporting on the latest studies. Her diligence, research, and passion for this important topic has richly paid off.-" (Publishers Weekly)
"An intelligent and often surprising look at what makes us who we are." (Booklist)
Say something about yourself!
So. You think you know which one you are? Don't be so sure. I thought I was definitively one but maybe not. Either I've compensated in ways I'm not completely aware of or I've always been the other one. OR, maybe I'm in turns mostly one or mostly the other. OR....
This was a fascinating book and full of incite for both personality styles and especially for parents raising either personality style. I heartily recommend this book for parents, teachers, business managers, or anyone else who needs to get along in a world filled with both introverts and extraverts.
I think this book was written about me! I know that doesn't help whoever is reading this review, but I'm a textbook introvert. If you ever wonder why people don't like to socialize much, read this book. You'll have a better understanding about who they are.
When the author explains how socializing and small talk can be emotionally taxing. I often feel that way. It's almost painful for me to make small talk. I don't connect on a level of small talk.
Another point she brought up was how introverts seem to communicate better when able to write letters/e-mails than speaking face to face.
There are truly so many points she makes that I completely identified with that I can't even name them all. It's like she knew me for my entire life.
Before you judge ... something along those lines
Very informative book. I think it's a must read/listen. My family is all getting this for Christmas. This book completely explains me and my dad, our personalities. We're not anti-social, we just like our alone time.
i don't usually like female narrators
they seem to lack vocal range and depth
kathe mazur is a real exception / she did a great job
we've known about introverts and extroverts for centuries
so some readers may ask, " is this book really necessary ? "
yes it is and our light, multi-faceted modern life makes it that way
america in the last 100 years has been steadily less kind to introverts
quiet, deliberate, meaning focused lives are no longer celebrated
social media and advertising and education only amplify the problem
so what's to be done ? how do we rectify the dilemma ?
susan cain's entertaining book begins to answer the problem
her academic and legal accomplishments help her define the issue
she quotes a multitude of modern psychologists to support her view
to listen to these educated americans you'd think they discovered the issue
i think we'd do well to listen instead to her chinese, british and biblical sources
this is an ancient and very basic issue of human nature
the success and pace of " the american century " ignored it
cultures that have endured adversity and reversals have much to teach us
the age of the exuberant american extrovert is coming to an end
our future will be more difficult and adversarial and counter intuitive
we'll need the insights and skills that only introverts bring to the table
I travel a lot and love the option of bring able to listen to it in the car!
The Rosa Parks story
Just loved this book! It talks about almost all aspects of life as not only an introvert but how they interact with extroverts and how both need each other to be most effective!
I would listen to this again - lots of good research and stories.
This book is a bit similar to Blink - lots of research and anecdotes, and it's up to the reader/listener to choose to operationalize the content or not.
How a cubicle environment can unravel an introvert! Also, compulsory team activities can take their toll. I'll use these tidbits/insights in my role as a manager.
An interesting book. Abridged version might be just as good.
Devouring literature and having fun along the way. :] Well, for the most part.
Quiet is something that I feel every suspected and closet-Introvert needs to read. Much like others who have read this, I have always felt that I /have/ to be outgoing and obnoxious to get any respect, and I would feel apologetic when I acted with modest solemnity. Now and in part thanks to this reading, I am quite fond of my introversion and rather than apologize in public for my observation and modesty, I can smile and easily explain my inaction in a good-natured light.
The reading is very smooth and offers an insightful, very correct narration. Kathe Mazur is a marvelous spokeswoman for the introverted mind; her docile and subdued, but precise and powerful voice match very well with the tone of the writing itself. Quite worth the cost(or credit)!
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security does not exist in nature
I just finished “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking” and must say it’s the most important book that I've ever read. While it’s focused on the introverted personality, it provides keen insights into understanding all people. I wish that I had read this decades ago!
It doesn't matter if you’re an introvert or extrovert, parent or child, teacher or student, husband, wife or partner, boss or employee – this book helps you comprehend and interact appropriately with people of all types. And, when it comes down to it, understanding others is the foundation for both building relationships and maximizing our own potential.
This is a wonderful book for anyone interesting in their own introversion or anyone seeking to understand this curious aspect of some people’s personalities. I’m an INTJ myself, and while I’ve never felt excluded because of my introversion, and have always know there wasn’t anything “wrong” with me, it was very reassuring to be able to understand the nuances therein. I saw myself in a lot of the stories she related, and a lot of the behaviors displayed. While my wife (an extrovert) said when I told her about the book “You just need to shut up, man up, and be more social,” I laughed because, while she was joking, there is a lot of truth in that many extroverts have little understanding of our mindset. I can think of little worse than having to engage in small talk at a cocktail party, or chat with a mild acquaintance I met on the street. Equally loathsome are the bubbly extroverts who look at me at a social event and take it upon themselves to “draw me out of my shell” and force me to engage in the group. I’ll probably end up having some very earnest talks with some people to help them understand me better.
My only criticism of the book is that I felt Susan focused rather myopically on the ‘sensitive’ introvert, which I am not. While she is, I would like to have had more insight into the more objectively minded introverts who actually have a lot of trouble empathizing with others, and reading social situation correctly. Otherwise it was an excellent and refreshing read.
I read nonfiction to gain better understanding of topics on which I have little understanding. I did not know much about what makes introverts they introverts that they are. I have always believed that somehow I was a flawed extovert. I gained insight into two introverts I love and an understanding that I might not be an extrovert myself after all. I now understand the introvert perspective and have gained a better appreciation for their secret/silent strenghts.
The work was scholarly and thoughtful. It is definitely not a pop psychology piece. The sited studies added credibility. The author did a great job of fusing ancedotes and research studies. I will be ordering several hard copy versions to give as gifts as signs of appreciation to a several introverts who are dear to me.
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