At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the 20th century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
©2012 Susan Cain (P)2012 Random House
"An intriguing and potentially life-altering examination of the human psyche that is sure to benefit both introverts and extroverts alike." (Kirkus)
"Cain gives excellent portraits of a number of introverts and shatters misconceptions. Cain consistently holds the reader’s interest by presenting individual profiles, looking at places dominated by extroverts (Harvard Business School) and introverts (a West Coast retreat center), and reporting on the latest studies. Her diligence, research, and passion for this important topic has richly paid off.-" (Publishers Weekly)
"An intelligent and often surprising look at what makes us who we are." (Booklist)
Il learned a great deal about why I feel so overwhelmed after "performing" as extrovert. Understand why down time is so important to. Loved that it was backed by research that was not overdone to to the point of being complicated or boring. Highly recommend.
Retired Special Education teacher and full time fiction writer.
I was so excited to share my introvert experience with the local book club who chose this yesterday as the book of the month. Instead, the hostility toward this book's valid examples and premise was palpable. The group's reaction was a live example of extroverts bashing the introverted of the world. They even labelled the author as being obviously wounded and introverts as weak individuals who deserve criticism for not defending themselves sufficiently. I was blown away by their lack of understanding and denial of society's negative assessment of the introvert's predilection toward an introspective approach to problem solving. In other words, the consensus was "get over it and be more like us". I felt doubly validated by the author's premise, especially when confronted with a roomful of sceptics!
Husband, Dad, Coach.
I really enjoyed this text and the tools it gave me to understand myself and my family better. Beware the "unquestioned answer". This book shows that there are more answers than the one we have been given.
The presentation of material and careful concern are evident in every word. Not totally about "answering" things, the text instead opens pathways of exploration and consideration while giving valuable in the moment suggestions. I will be re-reading soon
The content was great. Narration was perfect. I couldn't put it (my iPhone) down. This book is a wonderful window into the introverted mind. If you are an introvert, listening to this book will help bring you peace. If you have someone in your life who is an introvert (and we all do since at least 1/3 of the population is introverted) you should listen to this book and stop trying to change us. We have a lot to offer.
I loved this book. Originally I picked it up to learn a little bit more about the introverts in my life, but I learned a lot about myself too. For starters, I learned that I'm not an extrovert, not at least in the pure sense. I learned that there is something called an Ambivert which is somewhere halfway between introvert and extrovert. That's what I am and it makes a lot of sense. I appreciated how Susan Cain shared techniques for working with introverted children and ways to improve communication with partners who have a different temperament than one's own. I found myself thinking about my own research in different ways and really appreciated the research that was presented in this book. If you want to better understand the introvert or extrovert in your life, I highly recommend it!
As an introvert, I was taken on a journey where I understand more of my behavior and my fellow man. It is a must read especially for those who are raising children.
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