At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the 20th century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
©2012 Susan Cain (P)2012 Random House
"An intriguing and potentially life-altering examination of the human psyche that is sure to benefit both introverts and extroverts alike." (Kirkus)
"Cain gives excellent portraits of a number of introverts and shatters misconceptions. Cain consistently holds the reader’s interest by presenting individual profiles, looking at places dominated by extroverts (Harvard Business School) and introverts (a West Coast retreat center), and reporting on the latest studies. Her diligence, research, and passion for this important topic has richly paid off.-" (Publishers Weekly)
"An intelligent and often surprising look at what makes us who we are." (Booklist)
It was mind-blowing
I found the whole book incredibly engaging. Probably one of my favorite parts was the chapter on religion and the introvert. I've been trying for a while to find my place in a religion/church that is very much geared toward extroverts. Wondering why I wasn't motivated to participate and then feeling guilty about it. The short explanation is that it's just part of my personality. Light bulb!!
Oh wow, there were so many. The author did an amazing job researching the subject and describing her findings. I really enjoyed her style and the way she presented real-life scenarios of introverts in society.
There was quite a bit of useful information on the way introverts can contribute in the workplace. After reading this book, I feel proud of the ways that I can contribute through my introverted approach to work and leadership style.
This book is a must-read (listen) for all introverts! You will finish the book with a better knowledge of your personality traits and the way you can use those traits to contribute to society.
I would also recommend this books for extroverts in close relationship with an introvert or who think they may be raising and introverted child. There is an excellent chapter on tips for raising an introverted child.
The only thing I would have added to this book would have been more info for an introvert raising an extroverted child as it would relate to my particular situation. Hopefully there will be more from this author on the subject of introversion in the future!
I never really read non-fiction because I often end up being bored at point but my God, this book has been a bit of a revelation to me from the very beginning. I 'read' this book in the audiobook format which I can recommend to anyone who, like me, is very interested in the content but has a hard time committing to non-fiction at times (the narrating is good too.)
I feel like this book is a must-read to anyone no matter if you're an introvert yourself. I am not a big introvert but I feel like I learned a lot about myself and other people - some things just make more sense now and I feel like this book has made me wiser.
It raises some good points and cites some excellent examples. If it ended in 5 hrs instead of 10 hrs I would have given it 4-5 stars, but when you continue to drone on about the same thing for the additional time, it subtracts from the book rather than adds to it. Strange how that works.
The thing I liked least was when the author brought her personal politics into it. I guess she has the right, heck it's her book , but that's not what the book was supposed to be about or what I choose to listen to. Fortunately it was minimal.
Absolutely! Even if my friend is an extrovert it is very insightful. We all know both personality types as a whole, this book provides a perspective that we do not normally get.
What I liked was that first of all, it confirmed that I am "normal" HA! But also I loved the discussion on different cultures and what is typical outside of America, such as Asian culture.
This book made me do tons of research and it started a conversation!
Great voice of narrator along with an incredibly well researched and written book.
Extroverts at the Party, Introverts in Stall 9
All extroverts need to LISTEN to introverts to lead better companies and lives.
how the author provided a balanced insight into the introverted mind using both her own observations and experiences combined with scientific literature.
That working alone has proven to be more effective than working in groups at mastering a topic. Ive found this to be true in my own life, and make a point of giving myself time to digest information.
Susan Cain does a great job of highlighting the unsung strengths that tend to accompany introversion. Many parts of the book are highly educational.. i.e. understanding that certain traits we may deem standoffish are actually nothing more than introverted individuals shying away from their fears. It was also great to understand that many of the unlikable political figures and celebrities are introverts who do not have the charismatic people-winning capabilities that the Clintons of this world have.
My main gripe with this book is that Susan (perhaps I'm misinterpreting her introvert natured explanations) tends to trample extroverts in the process. Dale Carnegie is one such victim who's refined tactics and recommendations are dismissed inauthentic and noneffective.
This does little, however, to detract from the accomplishments of this book and I would recommend it in the highest regard.
Yeah, I scored high on the checklist and yeah, I said I'd been through the same thing, had the same thought, knew exactly what she's talking about and wished I'd had this book at age 15 instead of ... OK, let's not go there.
However, my takeaway is a bit different.
I can't think of a better discussion the value of diversity to yourself, your family, community and just about everything else, the discovery of personal strengths and weaknesses, our interdependence on others AND our ability to push our limits and excel outside of our comfort zones.
Excellent stuff for contemplation, exploration and discovery ...
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