At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the 20th century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
©2012 Susan Cain (P)2012 Random House
"An intriguing and potentially life-altering examination of the human psyche that is sure to benefit both introverts and extroverts alike." (Kirkus)
"Cain gives excellent portraits of a number of introverts and shatters misconceptions. Cain consistently holds the reader’s interest by presenting individual profiles, looking at places dominated by extroverts (Harvard Business School) and introverts (a West Coast retreat center), and reporting on the latest studies. Her diligence, research, and passion for this important topic has richly paid off.-" (Publishers Weekly)
"An intelligent and often surprising look at what makes us who we are." (Booklist)
Today's society is mainly awarding and adjusting itself to the extrovert oriented people. By doing so, we are harming everyone. Read this regardless of your main traits and personality and everyone will be better of.
I truly appreciate Susan Cain's hard work and ability to explain the phenomenon of "quiet". As a strong introvert I have honestly spent most of my life being upset with my shy and nervous tendencies. Seeing the anxiety I feel before a test, presentation, or even speaking to a large group as weakness. It's actually ironic how I would become more anxious at the initial feeling of anxiousness that it would compound out of control.
After reading, or should I say listening, to this book I have accepted and even embraced my tendencies.
This book has helped me reach the conclusion that my introverted tendencies are not only correct, but should be appreciated.
Only beg is that the last chapter about how to raise an introverted child, though helpful when I reflect on my own childhood, didn't hold my interest. Not being a parent, I couldn't appreciate the content as much as I did the rest of the book.
Covers the implications of multiple physiology studies and how different personalities interpret the same stimulus, different reactions and coping skills to dealing with becoming overstimulated.
Say something about yourself!
This is an excellent book, well written and presented
She has a very good voice and tempo for this book
No - I had to review constantly, the information was great
I love to read mysteries, histories, biographies, humor, and Jane Austen.
Too much of the book is devoted to the problems of introverts in an extrovert world. The first half of the book reminded me of my painful youth as an introvert. I almost gave up because the book
made me feel bad about myself. There is not enough celebration of the powers of introversion to offset the depressing recital of our misfit status in American society. The reader does a good job, but I cannot recommend this book.
This clears up so many things about introversion and provides real insight into how to make it a strength in a society that fails to value its gifts.
Throughout, the book illustrates the value of introversion and how introverts can cope with the difficulties they face.
Everyone I talk to about this book says they have read it multiple times and it has helped them with a child, a spouse, a boss, themselves, and more.
I really enjoyed the book but I still want to buy a hard copy. I'm not too sure if it's because of the material or if it's just how I follow along with books. I like to turn back a page to re read a section but I felt as if I had to rewind a few times to really get a better understanding of it. Overall, I recommend trying audible out for yourself. I was able to go through the book a lot faster than I would if I were to read it. I just think audible may not work best for me.
Kudos to the narrator, Kathe Mazur, her dynamic voice range and keeping the book moving at a good pace.
To the book itself, Ms.Cain start the book off with the pros/cons of introverts & extroverts in different job environments to academics (k-12 & college) , and how differing approaches have benefits overall.About the last third of the book Ms.Cain becomes super defense and aggressive about society's take on introverts, and how they don't respect them & need to back off; turn for me personally. Enjoyed the book until the last third of it. Really don't care about your opinion on society's subjective views on introverts Ms.Cain.
Recommend it, or Not? I vote no, because Ms.Cain gets too subjective towards the end of book. If wish know her take on pros & cons of introverts-&-extroverts in differing positions in the career field then, go for it; that is not worth 15 dollars.
In true introvert fashion, I will fully appreciate this book after I digest it over the next several days as I apply the analysis and research that was shared to my own life growing up as a young child, teen, young adult and now professional who is analyzing my own traits.
The mere instance of hearing similar thought processes that other introverts go through in their own heads and how we're constantly being held to a "standard" of the extrovert lifestyle really set forth revelations within me that I feel will ultimately bring peace and balance to an otherwise confusing outlook on how I "fit into" society.
I almost feel that this is going to be the great equalizer and divider as we figure out how deep people are and stop placing arbitrary social statuses of personality types over others that leave entire groups of people isolated without their due respect of their importance to the advancement of the human race.
We are nothing without introverts. Checkmate. (Not bitter at all :))
I have learned so much about myself, and my children through this book. It is an incredible tool for understanding what makes an introvert tick and what doesn't. I know I will read and reread this one for years! Love it!
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