At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the 20th century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.
Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
©2012 Susan Cain (P)2012 Random House
"An intriguing and potentially life-altering examination of the human psyche that is sure to benefit both introverts and extroverts alike." (Kirkus)
"Cain gives excellent portraits of a number of introverts and shatters misconceptions. Cain consistently holds the reader’s interest by presenting individual profiles, looking at places dominated by extroverts (Harvard Business School) and introverts (a West Coast retreat center), and reporting on the latest studies. Her diligence, research, and passion for this important topic has richly paid off.-" (Publishers Weekly)
"An intelligent and often surprising look at what makes us who we are." (Booklist)
Read from January 29 to February 09, 2013
Overall: 3.5 stars
Book: 3 stars
Narrator: 4 stars
While well written (and narrated) and I recognized many aspects of my own temperament in the descriptions and anecdotes related, this book probably would be more beneficial for extroverts seeking to understand what the world is like from inside the introverts' worldview. If the book hadn't ended when it did, it might have been a DNF.
Mild mannered easy going superhero
Yes and again. So many examples and insights into the behavior of introverts. I am introverted but can turn on the shallowness at any time.
This is the one that others to come will be compared
Easy to listen too and track.
Turning on the extrovert when needed. I think the opposite would be harder.
Very thought provoking and validating
I really enjoyed learning about the various strenghts of introverts. As an introvert I already knew I had a keen attention to detail and that I like to read and think. It was refreshing to hear that there's nothing wrong with that. It was interesting (yet frustrating) to discover that people like me are all too often overlooked because of our withdrawn nature. It was emboldening to hear that introverts are quite often the unsung heros.
The narrator killed the subject matter. I'm introverted and even I'll admit that Kathe Mazur made an otherwise interesting subject and empowering book seem boring.
I was really looking forward to this book but was disappointed and had to stop listening as I found myself becoming angrier the longer I listened. The author, who considers herself an introvert, makes it very clear throughout the book that she equates an introverted personality with high intelligence. Sooo arrogant!
The book also gets very political. If you are a liberal, you'll love this book...otherwise steer clear. Too bad the author couldn't discuss this topic without veering off into politics and liberal topics.
Most of the book is written based on conjecture and the author's own observations, very little factual or verifiable info. to be found. Author makes huge leaps, generalizing and stating conclusions with little or no evidence/facts to back them up.
She devotes one good chunk of text/time to expounding on the virtues of her husband and how lucky she is to have him. This may be true, but it's not why I purchased this book.
The whole book felt so unprofessional at times...definitely not the unbiased, neutral, factual information I had hope to find about the Introverted vs Extroverted personality.
Also, the recording is poorly done, another case where the author should have paid for a professional to read the book. You can tell where she starts and stops because suddenly her voice will be a lot louder or have a completely different tone.
Disappointing book in so many ways. I'm returning this book, so glad Audible offers this option.
“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” - Albert Einstein
The book is original and has a lot of fresh ideas, only two comments:
- Calling introverts repeatedly "open" , "more reactive", "sensitive", "reflective" , " more consciousness", ... is for me more biased than analytical.
- While casually stating that there are no pure introverts/extroverts and we are all a little bit of both, the stories imply otherwise. There are always two poles to contrast MLK Jr. vs Rosa Parks, Eleanor vs Franklin D. Roosevelt etc. It got me lost trying to find out to which side I belong :)
Put me to sleep. I would only recommend if you are an introvert.
Spice it up a little.
A really great study of the two sets of people. I think introverts will enjoy it more. Just gives great insight to how we as a society celebrate extroverts and sometimes look down on introverts. Great insight as to the differences and how we should react to both
The entire thing. The studies were fascinating along with the personal stories.
I liked her narration. Very soft spoken like a true introvert LOL
It just made me think about why I am the way I am today and not apologize for being an introvert, I will make sure I correct anyone who calls me shy or anti social.
A great read and understanding of the two groups. The author even gives tips ideas and solutions to fellow introverts, parents, teachers and business people. I loved this book. I learned so much about myself and how others might perceive me. I also learned about extroverts and how I need sometimes to be one of them
The author does an excellent job of laying out the problem, defining it, providing the history and backdrop for the topic. After the first few chapters one has a pretty good idea of the author's viewpoint. The later chapters define the subtleties of introversion. Early on I was an extrovert, but over the years have found comfort in being introverted.
The Authors stories in the first few chapters where worth the price.
I have not
I would hesitate to buy another product from this author or narrator. I'm an introvert, and thought it would be interesting to learn about introverts in society, but the focus on business leadership made me want to put a gun to my head. Not only was the subject boringly narrow, but the narration seemed to drone. I expect non-fiction is difficult to narrate, but as much as I was looking forward to it, I was terribly disappointed.
No matter how many times I deleted both the book and the narration and downloaded them again I was unable to get Immersion Reading and WhisperSync to work. I gave up trying and simply listened to it as an audiobook. It was frustrating and frankly not worth the effort.
Unlike most popular science works that are actually the result of cherry-picking interesting studies and spinning out cute and surprising yarns (Gladwell anyone?), this is the real thing. As a clinical psychologist who minored in personality assessment, I was familiar with some of the older work she sites... but was thrilled by the newer work and the integration of it all that she accomplished. So it offers rewards at multiple levels: theory (Jung and others), research (brain imaging, genetics, etc.) and application (to oneself, to raising children, to teaching, to leadership and management at work). If you have features of introversion and sensitivity, and you feel somewhat like an unwelcome minority in this land that favors extroverts, then read this book. And maybe re-read it!
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