Not Drinking Tonight

A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love

By: Amanda E. White LPC

Narrated by: Amanda E. White LPC, Suehyla El-Attar

Length: 6 hrs and 42 mins

Publisher's summary

In this honest discussion of mental health, the founder of Therapy for Women explores our reasons for drinking alcohol - and the benefits of taking a break.

When “retired party girl” and popular therapist Amanda White admitted she was an alcoholic, it wasn’t because she’d done something outrageous while under the influence, like land herself in jail or get married in Vegas. It was because she realized three things:

1. Alcohol was making her life worse.
2. Moderation wasn’t helping.
3. She could not be a therapist if she continued to use alcohol to numb her life.

Something needed to change - not just her relationship with alcohol, but her relationship with herself.

Choosing not to drink can be daunting. It’s everywhere in our culture, our socializing, and our destressing. And it can seem black or white: You drink or you don’t (and if you don’t, people ask why). That’s where Not Drinking Tonight comes in. Judgement-free and relatable, Amanda helps you unpack your relationship with alcohol by showing you how to:

1. Find out why you drink. Whether it’s a glass of wine after work or a weekly bar crawl, your drinking habits can be the result of everything from biology to trauma.
2. Heal your relationship with alcohol. Understand how your relationships have been affecting your life, and learn how to set boundaries and create true self-care.
3. Build the sober life you love. Learn what comes next - how to maintain your social life, navigate sex and relationships, and love yourself.

Not Drinking Tonight isn’t a program to stop drinking. It’s the first book to help you address the root issues that cause you to reach for a drink and create a life you love - one that is not perfect but is messy and real and one you are fully present for.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2022 Amanda E. White, LPC (P)2022 Hachette Go

Critic reviews

"Not Drinking Tonight is a wonderful guide to setting healthy boundaries with alcohol—and yourself. Amanda helps you dig into the root of your struggles to better understand why you drink and why you might want to stop—setting you up for a more fulfilling life all around, even if you don’t choose full sobriety. Readers will gain the self-awareness, compassion, and confidence to make choices that better serve them.”—Nedra Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

"Anyone wanting to change their relationship with alcohol must be willing to do some deep self-examination. Amanda White’s multi-layered approach offers empowerment, experience, and wisdom to those looking to begin their own journeys."—Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind and The Alcohol Experiment

"A knowledgeable, compassionate, and supportive guide. With a wealth of examples, tools, practices, and new ways of relating to both alcohol and the self, Not Drinking Tonight will be an accessible and revelatory balm for anyone questioning the kind of life they want to create outside of drinking.”—Lisa Olivera, LMFT, author of Already Enough

Great tool for those looking to explore their drinking habits

I found so much information in this book that can be applied to more than just drinking. The tools and information within the pages are very useful and I plan on using them to help me in moving forward in my own life.

Useful In So Many Ways

This book is excellent for everyone. Whether you seek sobriety or personal growth, this book is a worthy read. Amanda has a way of saying things that make this book relatable. I have read the hard copy and listened to the audiobook.
I highly recommend it.

Great read

This was a great book! I felt like it was too short I wanted it to keep going. She’s a great writer and had so many amazing takeaways.

Good!!!!

This is a great book to anyone to be a better and real person! Thank you

Informative & helpful

Really loved this book. Very insightful and informative. Helpful tips & did a great job explaining alcohol overall.

Everyone can benefit from this book

So so good. Replace alcohol with anything you used to cope and you can benefit from this book. Touches on so many aspects of life and encourages along the way.

Generally good advice for living

Not judgmental and relatable women and concerns and fears. A good gentle prodding to taking a real look in the mirror and get to the real reasons for wanting to escape life and blunt stress and anxiety.

Applies to more than just drinking

Engaging and informative. This book provides helpful tools for examining your drinking or other vices. I’d recommend it to anyone who is thinking about making a change in their drinking or their life.

Thought provoking

The content was great. I had a difficult time listening to the reader at times and almost stopped listening, but pushed through.

Great narration of an excellent book

The narrator does an amazing job of bringing the material and characters to life