Starting with a first date with a couple of swingers; followed by working through social anxiety and shyness; recognizing the importance of touch in life; evolving feelings about love and expectations; having threesomes, orgies, and prostate orgasms; going through a divorce; and leveling up in life and sexuality.
For five years, Cooper S. Beckett has written for Life on the Swingset. The website was born out of the feeling that he'd learned enough in his whole year of swinging to tell other people how to live their nonmonogamous lives. His hubris can be seen from space. Here, he has collected personal essays, stories, erotica, and prescriptive how-tos into this memoir of his life, My Life on the Swingset.
He may be biased when it comes to swinging, polyamory, and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy (in fact, he most certainly is), but he doesn't sugarcoat it. He speaks honestly and earnestly about a unique way to live life, one that allows for sexual and loving growth and experimentation, a strong sense of community, and the ability to do what we all crave, whether we know it or not: to be honest with ourselves and others about what we want sexually. And out of life.
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"Cooper Beckett writes...with such honesty, wit, and charm.... He challenges the hard line between swinging and polyamory, tackles taboos with grace, and will make you rethink what you believe." (Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up)
I won this book in a giveaway on Twitter, and I was so excited because it had been on my list of books to read for a while. My Life on the Swingset is a wonderful collection of essays that give insight into both the world of ethical non-monogamy and the author's own experiences. I am glad I was able to listen to this book, and I am going to continue to listen to the podcasts. I would recommend this book to anybody with even a passing interest in non-monogamy.
I heard about Cooper Beckett ' s book on a pod cast called, The Sexual Dark Age". And when he began to talk about it I was hoping that he would do an Audible version. So when he it finally happened I was excited! I had no problems listening to every word he said and he gives some good sage advice about what it's like to be Poly and in the lifestyle.
If you are thinking about entering the lifestyle and want to avoid the pitfalls and know what the lifestyle is all about. This is the book for you!
If you are expecting an 8 hour version of Life on The Swingset, this isn't what you will find here. What Cooper writes in this book is better in most every way.
This is the life and experiences of a man who lays his soul bare in the most eloquent way I've seen. Cooper's narration and geeky Dickensian writing style makes having to pause for breaks agonizing. Cooper fills this book with his trials and tribulations, exultations and mental meanderings. It's fun. It's sad. At some points it's downright depressing. But it's also thought provoking and mentally liberating.
It was a great read, and I'm sure I'll listen to it again soon. Great work, Coop!
That I smiled most of the way through and even laughed out loud a few times. Cooper is a knowledgeable, experienced, and honest guy and I am walking away with a lot more than I started with.
The humor and its presentation
too many to cite.
laughed out loud
very honest and open about his topics and I appreciate it!
Education through experiences
I like how Cooper analyzed his experiences and gave short and to-the-point thoughts on why or how things happened. It was a fantastic book for me because it gave some open and honest insight into this lifestyle. It was exactly what I was hoping for. Not smut, just honesty.
Cooper's voice was very friendly and his tone was conversational. This made the book feel like friends sitting together talking.
I turned the book on every chance I had.
Although the narration on this is good, the content didn't do it for me. Maybe this works better as a blog, but the chapters are disjointed and the snarky attitude, while amusing at first, gets old after about an hour. Also, an author loses me when he starts getting political. He mentions not to discuss politics with people, then in one chapter goes on a rant about Romney and Obama that really just turned me off. If I want a political book, I'll buy a political book. But its not a worthless book. It has interesting moments, but then gets tedious later on.
Speaker, Leader, innovation consultant, kilt-wearer, South African.
Cooper Beckett has chutzpah. No doubt about it.
This was an entertaining and valuable first-person account of Beckett's start in swinging, what he learned, how it affected his relationships.
It ends in a tantalising way -- with Beckett beginning to explore polyamory -- not just swinging, opening himself up to multiple loving relationships, not just multiple sexual relationships.
I liked how Beckett grows and changes during the journey.
I was slightly irritated with the guy's voice and accent, and his quasi-humorous asides, but I think that's part of Beckett's rough charm.
Sometimes he's not the most likeable character. But I'm impressed with his commitment to personal growth. Thanks for sharing your story so far, Mr Beckett.
Loved it. It's always a treat to hear the author read it. That way he\she gets to deliver it as it was intended. I love the Swingset Podcast. You need to check that out as well. What else can I say? If you're looking for information on non-monogomy, this guy has a lot of information. I love his sense of humor, his sense of, well, just his sense of himself. I highly recommend you read this book! Thank you Coop!
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