From the author of the blockbuster best seller The Game: a shockingly personal, surprisingly relatable, brutally honest memoir in which the celebrated dating expert confronts the greatest challenge he has ever faced: monogamy and fidelity.
Neil Strauss became famous to millions around the world as the author of The Game, a funny and slyly instructive account of how he transformed himself from a scrawny, insecure nerd into the ultraconfident, ultrasuccessful "pickup artist" known as Style. The book jump-started the international "seduction community" and made Strauss a household name - revered or notorious - among single men and women alike.
But the experience of writing The Game also transformed Strauss into a man who could have what every man wants: the ability to date - and/or have casual sex with - almost every woman he met. The results were heady, to be sure. But they also conditioned him to view the world as a kind of constant parade of women, sex, and opportunity - with intimacy and long-term commitment taking a backseat.
That is until he met the woman who forced him to choose between herself and the parade. The choice was not only difficult, it was wrenching. It forced him deep into his past, to confront not only the moral dimensions of his pickup lifestyle but also a wrenching mystery in his childhood that shaped the man he became. It sent him into extremes of behavior that exposed just how conflicted his life had become. And it made him question everything he knew about himself,and about the way men and women live with and without each other.
He would never be the same again.
Searingly honest, compulsively listenable, this new book may have the same effect on you.
©2015 Stately Plump Buck Mulligan (P)2015 HarperCollins Publishers
It's a brave new world when a man openly confronts the dysfunctional love suffered at the hands of his parents and the mess of expectations and relationships it creates. The beauty is that this phenomenon isn't unique to Neil Strauss. There isn't another man, woman, creed or culture that won't relate to this story in some way, on a very personal level. Throughout the story I was not only reminded of my own path but also of family and friends. I will forever look at them and relate to them with a new level of compassion and love. We are all so alike yet feel alone much too often.
In holding up his raw and devastating mirror to himself, Neil very bravely sets a high bar for the rest of us.
I have never read a more real, honest and vulnerable book on relationships than this one. It takes a lot of guts to put this out on the authors part as well as the people in his life.
It's one of the most unique love stories I've come across. I was engaged the whole time.
I can't say enough good things about this book... I've been spreading the word to everyone I meet (and even bought copies for friends). It's one of those books you don't want to put down (or in this case, don't want to stop listening). Neil provides so much knowledge and wisdom that I can honestly say I have a new perspective on life and love. I don't know any other author who can entertain, inform, and inspire the way that he does. I hope he never stops writing (or narrating because hearing him tell the story adds so much more depth). Ready for the next book!!
The book had a horrible beginning. Actually I regretted buying the book but after the first couple of hours into the book the story picks up pace and becomes better. Infact I think the book ultimately gave me a better understanding of myself and the people around me so much so that I'm reading the book again.
While some of the sex party stories made me cringe and wonder "is he just doing this to have a story for the book?" It can't be denied, this is a valuable book.
It often reminded me of concepts I have learned from going through counseling although Neil uses different words, and I learned about new important concepts that I will be processing.
A few years back Neil asked on his blog what books did his readers find to be game changers. My reply was "Bonding" by Donald Joy. The Truth made me wonder if Neil might have read Bonding but I'll never know.
I recommend it but just be forewarned of the graphic sexual content.
This book gave me some great perspective on human nature and my own struggles in relationships. I'm grateful to the author for sharing his highs and lows so we can learn and grow from them.
This was a very compelling, but, at the same time difficult book for me. I really have to strongly recommend this to anyone who read "The Game" or is a "love addict" or "love avoidant" or has struggled with the whole question of monogamy. It is painfully honest!!
Such a personal and intimate documentation of the highest level of evolution. The answer is love.
thank you Neil for sharing your journey.
Roy Heilbron MD
Mount Sinai Medical Center
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