The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children is here.
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent". French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.
Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.
Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are - by design - toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.
With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman, a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal, sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.
While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children - including her own - are capable of feats she'd never imagined.
©2012 Pamela Druckerman (P)2012 Random House
I've been researching and studying Child Discipline and Parenting for 6 years, and this was the most refreshing "parenting" book I've ever read, hands down. I have a feeling it will always be my favorite! Intriguing, honest, permissible and comforting. Exactly what American parents need to hear.
- This is a story more than a child manual.
- It's ONE woman's first hand experience in raising a family in Paris; in comparison to NYC.
- It has some very insightful methods for bringing up a more patient & respectful child.
- It is worth listen to know how France is doing it.
There were a few things in this book that I found very useful as a parent. However, I had already read those things in the reviews. Sure, it helped to drive home a few important concepts, but overall, I was expecting more. I was more interested in a practical parenting book, and less interested in her life story. It kind of felt as though she was just trying to show off, or brag, most of the time.
Excellent content and narration. Will be recommending this to all my parent friends. Great combination of philosophy and how-to without the usual "my method is best" condescension.
An enjoyable journey, this book takes you through a comparison of French and American parenting and cultures. The story of the author's life experiences is interesting and at times made me chuckle. There are many great ideas about living and parenting to borrow from the French, and others to gladly ignore.
27 yr old immersed in personal development. Startup junkie, life hacker, visionary, real estate investor, and follower of my man Jesus!
The narrator did a great job. Being a man, I didn't know wow engaged I would be into this book. but the French perspective on raising kids was really insightful. it makes you think deeper about children's Minds and how capable they are in interpreting the world around them at such an early age. I'm looking forward to testing out quite a bit from this book this October when we have our first!
I expected more of "how this is done/how that is done" (a get to the point thing) rather than going thru the day to day living (yawn) of the author & her family. In saying that, I have to laugh...as the author said Americans are impatient (even when it comes to raising our children)...forget saying "Good morning" first...just jump right into "What's the daily special?" or "Do you have this in my size?" Anyway...
If you have plenty of time...and don't mind listening to hours of "potatoes" to get to the "meat"...then get this. In the end you may discover that there's an underlying philosophy here...an "enjoy the journey & your children will too" kind of thing. Huh! I just realized I'm doing exactly what she said NOT to! I want quick results. I don't want to let things unfold...So not French!
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