College English professor who loves classic literature, psychology, neurology and hates pop trash like Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.
for decades, and I have found her to be the most enlightening linguistic on the topic of gender and language. The wonderful thing about Tannen is that she transcends the usual feminist approach that asserts "women must learn to talk like men to succeed" because "men are verbal bullies"--and at the same time she does not go the other way and denigrate women as passive or weak in the ways they communicate. She simply demonstrates that men and women, due to both biology and culture, approach language and social interaction differently and shows the strengths and weaknesses of both.
Phrase 1 feminism: get the vote (good) Phrase 2 feminism: equality in the workplace (good) Phrase 3 feminism: insist on the "right" to be vulgar, promiscuious and obnoxious (all supposedly "rights" of self-expression over social order and decency). It hightlights just another aspect of how our society has grown terribly lazy and vulgar and falls back on the "rights culture" to justify it. There are some contradictions and logical fallacies here, as there always are in particularly right and left geared books, but the basic point is clear and valid. Women actually moved backward in Phrase 3 and brought themselves lower rather than higher in social standing.
Smart, confident, funny and well-crafted. Moran pulls no punches when discussing the hardest choices women make, everything from abortion to what to call one's private parts. The modern handbook for feminsim.