College English professor who loves classic literature, psychology, neurology and hates pop trash like Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.
for decades, and I have found her to be the most enlightening linguistic on the topic of gender and language. The wonderful thing about Tannen is that she transcends the usual feminist approach that asserts "women must learn to talk like men to succeed" because "men are verbal bullies"--and at the same time she does not go the other way and denigrate women as passive or weak in the ways they communicate. She simply demonstrates that men and women, due to both biology and culture, approach language and social interaction differently and shows the strengths and weaknesses of both.
that inevitably will receive many knee-jerk reactions from politically frenzied people who have never read the thing...but the points Schlaffy makes are clear and precise. Yes, equal rights are important, but modern radical feminism is not about equal rights: it is about hating men and "the patriarchy." It is also about women having to work harder than ever, getting the blunt end of the "sexual revolution" that feminism encouraged, and having a much harder time in relationships that they are trained to despise when things just really aren't that bad most of the time. Look, read the book or don't, but don't judge it until you have turned the last page. (Also see the videos and writings of Dr. Janice Fiamengo and Karen Straughen to see the mindless hate and unfairness that often comes with modern radical feminism. Also Steven Pinker is a good source when he writes or discusses gender: he deems himself an "equality feminist" but eschews the harmful radical stuff.)
Phrase 1 feminism: get the vote (good) Phrase 2 feminism: equality in the workplace (good) Phrase 3 feminism: insist on the "right" to be vulgar, promiscuious and obnoxious (all supposedly "rights" of self-expression over social order and decency). It hightlights just another aspect of how our society has grown terribly lazy and vulgar and falls back on the "rights culture" to justify it. There are some contradictions and logical fallacies here, as there always are in particularly right and left geared books, but the basic point is clear and valid. Women actually moved backward in Phrase 3 and brought themselves lower rather than higher in social standing.