Parenting Substance

Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong - was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?"

To solve a problem one must first understand the problem. Unfortunately, that's hard to do with addiction and alcoholism because it makes no sense. Why do people keep on with their substance use when it's ruining their life and making them miserable? Ironically, most people who try to help an addict become too involved in the problem, which may do more harm than good. They get drawn into the addict's circle of chaos, and end up participating in the addiction by being enablers. This creates chaos and insanity in their own life, and does nothing to stop the addiction. In this important book, ...

If only you could control the outcome… No parent imagines their tiny infant growing up to have an addiction. Your once precious child now makes frightening choices and takes terrifying risks. You are worried your son or daughter’s use of drugs or alcohol has reached a sufficient level of concern that you are exploring or have already admitted your adult child to treatment. You are hard-wired as a parent to love, provide, protect, nurture, and rescue your young, just like every other mammal. You’ve ranted and punished, cried and pleaded, and it may have felt like nothing seemed to ...

Feeling overwhelmed by today's parenting challenges in a world abundant with substances? Are you searching for ways to fortify your child against temptation? Would you recognize the signs of substance use? Navigating the complexities of modern parenting in an era where substance abuse is no longer an anomaly but a reality, it's imperative to be well-armed. The omnipresent specter of substance abuse looms, threatening to undermine the stability and well-being of families everywhere.

If you’re the family member of an addict, you may feel confused, guilty, and scared of doing the wrong thing. And when you don’t know how to help, you may find yourself in a codependent role. Addict in the House offers a pragmatic, step-by-step guide to dealing with a loved one’s addiction, from accepting the reality of the disease to surviving what may be repeated cycles of recovery and relapse. You’ll learn how to encourage your addicted loved one to get help without forcing it and finally find the strength to let go of codependence.

Does it feel like no matter what you try, your husband or wife won't stop drinking? Are you tired of constantly obsessing over your spouse's alcoholism? Do you want to learn how to find serenity in the midst of the chaos you're dealing with?This plan for dealing with an alcoholic spouse will change your life forever! These are proven methods that have helped tens of thousands of people all over the world learn how to cope with family members and friends who are addicted to alcohol.

Sexual assault, addiction, and other traumatic experiences can leave both physical and emotional scars. For Jennifer Storm, these scars serve as a reminder - both of the darkness and suffering she once experienced, and of how far she has come. Blackout Girl is the heartbreaking, enlightening, and inspiring story of Jennifer's narrow escape from her own self-destructive instincts when all of the odds, and systems, were stacked against her.

A standard-setting book on intervention, Love First has helped tens of thousands of families, friends, and professionals create a loving and effective plan for helping those who suffer from addiction. This revised and expanded edition adds to the core material in this classic book with the most up-to-date scientific information and new intervention techniques for alcohol and other drug addictions.

In an all too familiar scenario, played out in millions of homes every day, children who grow up in addictive families abide by certain rules: don't talk, don't trust, don't feel. The rigid survival roles and youthful coping behaviors they take on, such as the responsible child, the adjuster, the placater, and the acting-out child can eventually contribute to problems of depression, loneliness, and addiction in adulthood.

I know exactly how you feel right now. When I started looking for help, I was exhausted from living with someone who was addicted to alcohol. I was lonely, frustrated, confused, deeply hurt, anxious, mad, worried, filled with fear, and out of ideas.

From the author of the New York Times best seller Adult Children of Alcoholics - a wonderful book that affirms and encourages ACoAs by developing your skills for living. Imagine how good you would feel if: you could stand up for yourself without losing your temper; you could make a decision without second guessing yourself; and you didn't have that sense of worthlessness every time someone criticized you. In Lifeskills for Adult Children you can learn how to do these things and more.

Therapist Beverly Berg offers powerful tools for the partners of recovering addicts. Based in mindfulness, attachment theory, and neurobiology, this book will help listeners sustain emotional stability in their relationships, increase effective communication, establish boundaries, and take real steps toward reigniting intimacy. With more than 25 years in the field, she has developed a unique set of exercises that address the issues faced by couples in recovery.

In this expanded third edition, Brenda Schaeffer draws on years of feedback and new developments to foster an understanding of love addiction: what it is and what it is not, how to identify it, and, even more important, how to break free of it. Stories of real people struggling to develop sound relationships illustrate the characteristics of healthy love and help listeners to free themselves to find real intimacy.

Don't Let Your Kids Kill You is a landmark work that dares to focus on the plight of the confused, distressed parent and not the erring child. It sets aside any preconceived ideas that parents are to blame for what is essentially a full-blown global crisis. Drawing on interviews with parents who have survived the heartbreak of kids on drugs, combined with his own experience, Charles Rubin provides practical advice on how parents can help themselves and their families by first attending to their own needs.

With today's rampant availability of Internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a national epidemic that affects up to 10 percent of Christians. But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction's downward spiral. This book offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors to healing and transformation. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of the problem, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity.

Discover how you can bring on your teen A game… and confidently conquer every challenge that comes your way! Do you feel like you’re caving under all the pressure that seems to be coming from everywhere, all at once—from your friends, family, teachers, and worse of all… yourself? Have your mental health and well-being been pushed aside while you tirelessly try to keep up with the utter chaos your life has turned into? Do you wish you had some hack to ace your academics, skip all the drama… and actually enjoy being a teenager? The good news is… you don’t need to count down the ...

Growing up, Lisa Nikolidakis tried to make sense of her childhood, which was scarred by abuse, violence, and psychological terrors so extreme that her relationship with her father was cleaved beyond repair. Having finally been able to leave that relationship behind, surviving meant forgetting. For years, “I’m fine” was a lie Nikolidakis repeated. Then, on her twenty-seventh birthday, Nikolidakis’s father murdered his girlfriend and her daughter, and turned the gun on himself.

Skills for Addiction Recovery is your comprehensive guide to rebuilding your life after addiction—step by step, with compassion, structure, and proven strategies. Whether you’re in early sobriety or looking to deepen your recovery journey, this empowering resource offers the practical tools, emotional support, and life skills you need to stay on track. Written by Lila Little, this book speaks directly to real-life challenges with clear guidance on how to achieve your goals, rebuild relationships, and create lasting change.

How to beat an opioid addiction, transition to a healthy lifestyle, and regain control of your life.... If you’ve fallen prey to the clutches of drugs, with the right tools it’s never too late to say “no” to them and get yourself back on the path of health and real well-being.

"Navigating the Maze: A Guide to Residential Adolescent Treatment and Multi-Agency Collaboration" offers an exploration of the complexities involved in treating adolescents with diverse backgrounds and challenging behaviors within residential settings. This guide is an essential resource for professionals, families, and caregivers who work with adolescents facing mental health issues, conduct problems, substance abuse, and other complex challenges.In a world where effective adolescent care often requires the coordination of multiple agencies—ranging from juvenile courts and child ...