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back from the borderline

By: mollie adler
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  • You can perform emotional alchemy and I will show you how.



    The idea of alchemy is to reduce something with fire – burning it down so that something new can rise from the ashes. You can do this with your personality, too. You’ve always had the power; you just didn’t know that. Now you do.


    Highly sensitive, emotional, and intuitive children are often impacted most severely by dysfunctional family dynamics, childhood emotional neglect, sexual abuse, grooming, generational trauma, and inherited toxic shame. As adults, these same children often find themselves with a disorder or dysfunction label, as mainstream psychiatry tries to convince them that the root of their suffering is due to a disordered personality or chemical imbalance.



    Our current medical model of mental health is quick to pathologize. Psychiatrists and therapists operating within this model often ask, “What’s wrong with you?” but rarely, “What *happened* to you?” Personalities are not cancerous tumors; psychological suffering cannot be accurately understood or treated through the lens of a purely medical model. We have to go deeper. And that's exactly what we do here on Back from the Borderline.



    A path toward healing exists, even though I know it can feel impossible when you’re looking up from rock bottom.



    Through working with and integrating the concepts we explore in each episode together, you’ll learn to:



    ✧ Better regulate, name and process your emotions

    ✧ Understand and reduce chronic feelings of emptiness

    ✧ Confront and uproot your toxic shame

    ✧ Put an end to recurring patterns of self-sabotage

    ✧ Connect with your Higher Self

    ✧ Break the cycle of generational family trauma

    ✧ Set healthier boundaries with yourself and others

    ✧ Recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships

    ✧ Heal from a chronic need to please and seek validation from others



    Tune in and prepare yourself to be standing in the ashes of the person you used to be. New episodes drop every Tuesday.


    As for me? I'm Mollie Adler. A disillusioned millennial, podcaster, writer, creative, existential thinker, obsessive researcher (huge nerd), and fellow f*cked up human desperately trying to find meaning in a society and culture that seems to be devoid of it. To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit https://linktr.ee/backfromtheborderline.



    Anyone – even you – can come Back From the Borderline. 𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪

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  • the healing power of labyrinths and EMDR [preview]

    the healing power of labyrinths and EMDR [preview]
    May 9 2024

    Discover the profound legacy of labyrinths, not just as intricate mazes, but as powerful tools in modern psychological therapy. This episode explores their historical significance and their transformative role in EMDR therapy— a technique developed by Francine Shapiro in 1987 for healing psychological trauma. Together, we’ll learn how these ancient paths, once central to the ceremonies of ancient Egypt and the myths of Greece, are now implemented in hospitals, churches, and prisons as meditative and therapeutic spaces. We’ll delve into scientific studies that highlight the benefits of labyrinth walking, from reducing blood pressure to enhancing emotional regulation, and illustrate how this age-old practice, when combined with innovative therapy, offers a transformative journey of healing. Tune in for a captivating look at how the age-old labyrinth is turning into a modern path to recovery.


    Reference for episode: “The Healing Power of Labyrinths” by Leo F. for The Oxbow School


    Resources:


    ✧ 12 inch bamboo finger labyrinth (Amazon)

    ✧ Finger labyrinth travel cards (Amazon)

    ✧ Walking a Sacred Path: Rediscovering the Labyrinth as a Spiritual Practice by Lauren Artress

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  • drake vs. kendrick: the battle over allegations of grooming and underage girls in the digital age

    drake vs. kendrick: the battle over allegations of grooming and underage girls in the digital age
    May 7 2024

    Should Drake's denial of Kendrick Lamar's allegations of pursuing underage girls open a wider conversation on grooming, social media, and consent? In this episode, we dissect this pressing issue and much more.


    Unless you've been living under a rock, you've likely heard of the ongoing rap beef between Drake and Kendrick Lamar that kicked off in April 2024.

    During the first week of May 2024, this months-long spat has hit full throttle. On Saturday (May 4th), Lamar put out yet another diss entitled "Not Like Us," which doubled down on allegations of Drake’s pedophilia (even going as far as to refer to him as a “certified pedophile”).


    The latest development came on the evening of May 5th, with Drake’s release of “The Heart Part 6.” On the track, the Toronto rapper mainly denies Lamar’s allegations that he has a pattern of pursuing underage girls, a claim that has plagued the rapper in the wake of tales from the likes of 'Stranger Tales' actress Millie Bobby Brown, 20, who said Drake regularly texted her when she was only 14.


    As the old saying goes, where there's smoke, there's usually fire. Rumors surrounding Drake's interactions with young women have persisted long before the Kendrick and Drake beef. In this episode, we delve into the longstanding and controversial history of Drake's relationships with girls on the cusp of womanhood. We'll examine the legal framework of consent and the ethical complexities surrounding men who pursue significantly younger partners, regardless of legal culpability.


    We'll conclude this discussion with a reading of a personal essay, recounting my experiences as a young girl navigating the digital landscape of the early 2000s, where I was groomed and pursued by much older men during the 'wild west days' of the internet and social media. Through this piece, I aim to shed light on the pervasive nature of this issue, transcending the confines of Drake's rap beef. It's imperative to recognize that these occurrences are symptomatic of a broader systemic problem—a culture that has long permitted the sexualization and exploitation of young girls online. Join me as we confront these uncomfortable truths and advocate for meaningful change.


    TIMESTAMPS:


    ✧ 00:00 – 03:23: Intro

    ✧ 03:23 – 10:27: quick timeline of the Kendrick Lamar and Drake feud

    ✧ 10:27 – 41:17: an analysis of the Kendrick lyrics that level accusations against Drake

    ✧ 41:17 – 01:07:16: six times Drake allegedly groomed young girls

    ✧ 01:08:17 – 01:26:24: The fine line between grooming, pedophilia, and the “age of consent” (+ an exploration of Angel Reese’s appearance on The Breakfast Club)

    ✧ 01:26:24 – 02:00:02: the circle jerk of sadness to grooming pipeline: how growing up during internet's wild west era arrested the sexual development of a generation (personal essay)


    CHECK OUT MORE OF MY WORK + UNLOCK PREMIUM: To join the Premium Submarines on Patreon (unlocking full + ad-free episodes), check out my sponsors, subscribe to my Substack, or contact me, visit backfromtheborderline.com

    Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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  • “why did you even have kids?” (how different generations have transmitted emotional neglect) [preview]

    “why did you even have kids?” (how different generations have transmitted emotional neglect) [preview]
    May 3 2024

    In this exclusive preview of a premium episode, join me as we delve into the intricate web of generational emotional neglect, exploring how historical, cultural, and social factors shaped parenting styles across the The WWI Generation, Silent Generation, Baby Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials. This journey through time reveals a pattern akin to a bizarre Russian doll, where dysfunctional parenting practices are passed down, layer by layer, impacting each subsequent generation.


    Together, we'll unpack the profound effects these inherited behaviors have on our current struggles, offering insights that might just change how you view yourself and your lineage. By tracing the socioeconomic backgrounds, upbringing, and the worldviews of our ancestors, we connect dots that illuminate the roots of our own emotional landscapes. This episode not only deepens understanding but fosters a compassion for those who came before us, revealing the deep-seated origins of many modern psychological challenges.


    For an even deeper exploration, don't miss my companion series on childhood emotional neglect, linked below. All episodes are free to listen.


    PARENTAL GENERATIONS EXPLORED IN THIS EPISODE:


    ✧ “The Greatest Generation” (G.I. / WWII Generation): parents born between 1901-1927

    ✧ The Silent Generation: parents born between 1928 - 1945

    ✧ Baby Boomers: parents born between 1946 – 1964

    ✧ Generation X: parents born between 1965 - 1980

    ✧ Millennials (Generation Y): parents born between 1981 – 1996


    Click here to listen to episode 1 of my childhood emotional neglect series on Apple Podcasts or here to listen on Spotify.


    UNLOCK THE FULL VERSION OF THIS EPISODE: visit https://www.patreon.com/backfromtheborderline to join the community on Patreon. From here, you'll be able to access all full-length (and ad free!) episodes of BFTB.


    CONTACT ME CHECK OUT MORE OF MY WORK: To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit backfromtheborderline.com.


    Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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More than just BPD, great mental health pod

I started listening to this podcast to learn more about borderline personality disorder so that I could better understand a loved one with BPD traits. Mollie is uniquely qualified to host this podcast as someone who is on her own journey with BPD. There's been a wealth of useful information here as well as destigmatizing of BPD. I think this podcast is valuable to anyone struggling with regulating their emotions or to their loved ones, not just to people with a BPD diagnosis or suspected BPD. Mollie is so generous with her experience and her knowledge and her voice is very soothing, which makes these a very easy listen.

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View from a parents eye

This Podcast has helped me incredibly. As a parent of a fourteen year old daughter who has not “officially” been diagnosed with BPD, but displays all of the characteristics, BFTB has helped open my eyes. I have been unable to understand what my daughter is going through, as she has never been able to talk to me about what she’s feeling. Hearing all of this explained through the experiences of Mollie, and her guests really has changed the way I see behaviors with her. There is invaluable information here.

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Amazing, to say the least.

Amazing podcast; Extremely informative and thought provoking. I love how it helps to inform about bpd and cptsd with a compassionate lens. The added touch of spirituality adds a fresh and lovely blend. Mollie never fails to deliver each topic, and no topic seems gratuitous. This podcast helps many with bpd to come to terms with their condition and for individuals to have compassion for themselves. Thank you, Mollie. You help a lot of people like myself to feel seen.

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Poignant, relevant, accurate!

I am in love. I just discovered this today and I've already listened to 13 episodes...some of them twice! Mollie is a delight to listen to. Her language is hard-hitting and authentic. Her research is real, her guests are genuine, and her conversations are raw. Great resources--books, social accounts, podcasts, songs, interviews, etc. I've gone through a half box of tissues, and I've almost peed myself laughing. For my first podcast ever, this did not disappoint!!!

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