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On Surviving Ish, host David talks with Julie Cruse, creator of AcademicAbuse.com and author of the memoir The Burn List, about how a hostile university workplace exit in 2023 and a long COVID recovery led her to write 180,000 words and uncover a through line of abuse from home to higher education. Julie explains building AcademicAbuse.com as a searchable dashboard aggregating global media reports of harassment, discrimination, Title IX issues, bullying, and more, noting thousands of stories and hundreds of implicated universities. She shares experiences of academic retaliation, intellectual property theft, coercion, stalking, and multiple sexual assaults by professors, and discusses how complaints can be buried and weaponized. They explore bystander abandonment, vulnerability after trauma, DEI being misused in practice, and Julie’s call for anonymous, double-blind Title IX reporting.

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Chris Carazas shares how growing up across South America, Africa, and Europe as a “third culture kid” left him socially awkward until an autism diagnosis at 35 finally gave clarity—and then became a doorway to escalating psychological abuse from his mother-in-law and then-wife, including daily suicide encouragement that led to two attempts. After getting treatment with the support of insurance and an understanding boss, he rebuilt, was promoted, and met a partner who accelerated his healing; he began writing a confessional to her that became his book, “Now That I’m Still Here,” but she died while he was writing and he was also laid off after USAID changes. They discuss trauma triggers, “no deadline” for healing, reclaiming life in small moments, stigma around therapy and hospitalization, men’s mental health, and how Chris stays alive through therapy, attempt-survivor groups, and caring for his dog, while planning book proceeds to support suicide prevention, autism support, and eating-disorder access. #author #autism

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In this episode of the Surviving Ish Podcast, David is joined by Alisha Marie, who shares her compelling journey from being in a high-control religious cult to finding her own path. The conversation delves into the complexities of faith, the psychological effects of religious teachings, and the struggle to balance friendship and personal growth. Alicia opens up about her experiences with manipulative church leaders, the concept of the rapture, and the importance of intention and belief. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that blends humor, insight, and raw honesty. #CultSurvivor #ReligiousFreedom #FaithJourney #SurvivingIshPodcast #SpillingTheKoolAid #IntentionAndBelief #MentalHealth

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Surviving Ish: Trauma Triggers, Toxic Positivity, and the Relief of Losing an Abusive Mother (with Jesse, author of Girl Hidden)

Host David welcomes Jesse Gibbs (author of the memoir Girl Hidden) to Surviving Ish for a wide-ranging conversation on how scent and the body can trigger trauma responses, referencing The Body Keeps the Score and the difficulty of trusting intuition. They discuss “solving” feelings instead of feeling them, gentle self-parenting, and rejecting labels like “survivor,” “resilient,” or “hero” when they’re used to shut down vulnerability. Jesse shares her current “ish” about shoppers abandoning meat in non-refrigerated aisles and how small kindnesses matter. The conversation turns to Jessie learning her abusive mother has died, prompting reflections on relief, grief, and closure, plus a brief overview of her childhood abuse, kidnapping, and estrangement. They critique forgiveness as “clean slate,” talk about autonomy, appearance, purity culture, and end with support, validation, and Jesse’s thoughts on possibly writing another book. #books #author #podcast

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/59856769-girl-hidden

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How do you reclaim your life when it was never truly yours to begin with?

In this episode of Surviving-ISH, David sits down with the incredible Kristin Watson to peel back the layers of a much deeper, darker reality: surviving and escaping a restrictive religious cult.

Kristin opens up about her time at Crown College, exposing the toxic "purity culture" that systematically blamed women for men’s actions and stripped individuals of their basic autonomy. From the physical "armor" women were forced to wear to the psychological weight of constant monitoring, Kristin shares the raw truth about what it takes to break free.

We’re diving deep into:

• The Rules of Control: The disturbing reality of privacy bans and "purity" policing at Crown College.
• The Road to Recovery: How to navigate marriage growth and self-rediscovery after trauma.
• Breaking the Stigma: Deconstructing the shame around mental health and medication in religious circles.
• Personal Sovereignty: Why reclaiming your voice—and your vote—is a vital step in taking your power back.

This isn’t just a conversation; it’s a masterclass in empathy, human connection, and the resilience required to build a life on your own terms. #purityculture #deconstructing #religioustrauma #crowncollege #cultsurvivor #survivingish #spiritualabuse #religiousfreedom

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The episode the host sits down with social Medias DeeDaw and discusses how a political figure is using the same tactic as Hitler by exploiting prejudice and xenophobia—shifting targets from Jews to immigrants—and escalating attacks on trans people, drag queens, gay people, people of color, and others to unite hateful supporters. It claims this scapegoating kept people from noticing what was being done to them. The script also says he spent years building expectations around the Epstein files since the 2016 election, referencing Hillary Clinton, Pizzagate, and promises to expose Democrats, but once in power hesitated because he knew he was implicated in the files, then dismissed supporters as “stupid.” #politics #epsteinfiles #pizzagate #2016election #xenophobia #scapegoating #immigration #lgbtq #transrights #dragqueens #civilrights #conspiracytheories

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What happens when the world isn’t safe? You build your own.

In this powerful episode of Surviving-ISH, we sit down with Alex—a TikTok creator who has turned a childhood of bullying, social exclusion, and a complex adoption story into a vibrant "Another World" of fashion and art.

From crafting Lady Gaga-inspired props out of recycled materials as a teen to designing "fashion armor" for Melanie Martinez fans, Alex’s journey is a masterclass in using creativity as a survival mechanism. We dive deep into how he reclaimed his identity after years of body dysmorphia and surviving toxic environments.

We also get real about the "Survival-ISH" moments of everyday life, including:

• The "Apple Tax": Why the host is currently at war with MacBook upgrades and dongles.
• Adult Collecting: How transforming your bedroom into a sanctuary can heal your inner child.
• Safety vs. Style: The reality of wearing bold fashion in "safe spaces" like concerts vs. the vulnerability of a local gas station.
• The Art of Moving On: What happens when a past abuser tries to crawl back into your life through social media?
• Adoption & Identity: Alex’s story of being adopted from Russia at 16 months and finding his "chosen family."

Whether you’re a fellow "black sheep" looking for your community or someone trying to turn your own trauma into a masterpiece, this episode is a reminder that you don't just have to survive—you can create something beautiful along the way. #SurvivingIsh #MentalHealth #TikTokFashion #InnerChildHealing #AdoptionStories #LGBTQPodcast #TraumaRecovery #MelanieMartinez #LadyGagaFashion #AlternativeStyle

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🚀 THE TRUTH IS COMING OUT—AND IT’S MESSY. 🛑

Dr. Sandy Cox on Surviving Ish: Politics, Trauma, Patriarchy, Community & the Emoji Problem

Host David welcomes psychiatrist Dr. Sandy Cox (who he jokes about calling “Dr. Sandstorm”) to the Surviving Ish podcast for a wide-ranging conversation that moves from mental health to politics, trauma, and community. Dr. Cox shares her background treating conditions across the psychiatric spectrum and reflects on how psychiatry has evolved since she finished residency in 1996, including increased access to non-pharmaceutical modalities beyond medication and ECT. They discuss the current climate of fear around speaking openly, referencing public figures losing jobs over jokes, and Dr. Cox describes feeling isolated as a single woman trying to find like-minded community while worrying about safety—down to whether a trans pride sticker on her Tesla could put her at risk.

The episode critiques political hypocrisy and escalating extremism, touching on healthcare cuts (including Medicaid impacts, nursing homes and hospitals closing), and the stress and retraumatization many felt from Donald Trump’s public rhetoric, including the Access Hollywood tape involving a Days of Our Lives actress David admires. Dr. Cox speaks as a “Mama Bear” with a trans daughter and describes ongoing cognitive dissonance and constant background anxiety. They connect these issues to patriarchy and religious upbringing, contrasting nature-based spirituality and feminine archetypes with Abrahamic religious dominance, and discuss how churches and government can demand morality while violating it.

Both share personal experiences with religion and abuse, including Dr. Cox’s abusive childhood and later sexual assault by a cisgender heterosexual married man, and David’s experience as a survivor of a brutal rape and hate crime and the rise in public slurs since Trump returned to power. They argue marginalized groups are scapegoated while powerful men evade accountability, and Dr. Cox calls on white women to resist church-driven patriarchy, raise boys with boundaries and equality, and stand up publicly for marginalized communities. The conversation also covers misconceptions about “trans gangs,” ICE interventions where women often step in, and the need to rebuild real-world community through conversation, mutual support, barter, and local resilience (community gardens), with Dr. Cox also referencing astrology and predicting difficult years ahead. David’s “surviving ish” for the week is confusion and conflict over emojis and misread social media reactions, which leads into how he and Dr. Cox first connected on TikTok. The episode ends with a rapid-fire question about self-care, with Dr. Cox describing her routine of gratitude lists, meditation, herbs, walking, the gym, beach sunsets, and a recommendation to follow Native American two-spirit creator Auntie Jace for morning smudging and meditation content. #SurvivingIsh #DrSandyCox #MentalHealth #Psychiatry #TraumaRecovery #PTSD #Patriarchy #ReligionDeconstruction #CommunityCare #LGBTQ #TransRights #Healthcare #Medicaid #Politics #TikTok #Podcast

00:00 Welcome to Surviving Ish + Meet Dr. Sandy Cox
01:33 Sandy’s Psychiatry Journey: From Residency to New Therapy Modalities
04:30 Rebels, “Kissing the Ring,” and Finding Community in a Polarized World
08:46 Safety, Speech, and the Tesla Sticker: Navigating Public Backlash
11:48 Politics, Medicaid Cuts, and the Cost of Cruelty
13:27 From Baptist Church to Pagan Roots: A Patriarchy Rant
17:23 Church Hypocrisy, Questioning Faith, and Being Shamed for Who You Love
21:59 Abuse, Sexual Violence, and Who Society Really Blames
32:05 Days of Our Lives, the Access

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