In this episode, I’m diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it’s making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these “power grabs” may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships.

I share both my own story and my clients’ experiences of trying to reclaim control after betrayal, and why these strategies rarely bring the connection we truly crave. Real power looks very different—it’s about honesty, integrity, vulnerability, and staying present with ourselves and our partners.

If you’ve ever felt caught between longing for closeness and pushing it away, this episode will help you recognize where false power shows up and how to move toward grounded intimacy instead.

Takeaways:

• Why “power grabs” sabotage the connection we want
• How false power erodes trust and safety
• The difference between control and real power
• Steps to cultivate intimacy through vulnerability

If this resonates, join me inside my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group to experience deeper transformation.

More from me:

• A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september
• October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout
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In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister’s milestone birthday celebration and staying home to comfort my daughter who needed me. Both were “good” choices, but ultimately, I chose alignment with my values—being present where I was most needed.

Difficult decisions often force us to choose between equally meaningful paths. Whether it’s deciding to stay or leave a marriage, how much truth to share with children, or when to seek therapy, peace often comes from aligning with what matters most—not from finding the “perfect” answer.

Grief and peace can coexist, and learning to hold both allows us to move forward with confidence and compassion for ourselves.

Takeaways:

• Peace often comes from alignment, not perfection.
• Hard decisions can hold both grief and relief.
• Listening to your values helps anchor your choices.
• True confidence grows when you honor your own inner knowing.

If you’re ready to create peace even in difficult decisions, I’d love to help you. Reach out and let’s walk this journey together.

More from me:

• A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Register here for Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don’t seem to match the effort you’re putting in. Whether it’s journaling, therapy, coaching, or trying to rebuild trust, it’s easy to wonder if all your hard work is even making a difference. I’ve been there too, and I know how discouraging it can feel.

I share why this “lag phase” is actually part of growth, how seeds take time to take root, and why redefining success in small, everyday shifts can help you keep moving forward. You’ll hear personal stories from my own journey and learn how to stay grounded in your “why” even when outcomes aren’t immediate.

If you’ve ever felt stuck or questioned your worth because change wasn’t happening fast enough, this episode is for you.

Takeaways:

• Why progress often happens “underground” before you see it.
• How to recalibrate your expectations during healing.
• Why consistency matters more than quick results.
• Simple ways to redefine success and stay encouraged.

You don’t have to go through this alone. If you’re ready for real support, I invite you to apply to my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program today.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles