What This Episode Covers

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m answering real questions from members inside the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle.

These are the questions people are living with right now in eating disorder recovery — the ones that don’t always get said out loud, but are felt deeply by so many.

We talk about guilt after eating, fear of weight gain, extreme hunger, habits that feel impossible to break, and the question so many people carry quietly:

Is full recovery actually possible?

If you’ve ever felt stuck between wanting recovery and fearing what it means…
If your thoughts feel repetitive, exhausting, or confusing…
If part of you longs for freedom but another part still clings to control…

This episode is for you.

One of the most powerful things about these Q&A episodes is the reminder that you are not alone in what you’re experiencing.

The thoughts.

The doubts.
The fear.
The moments of progress followed by wobbles.

These are not signs that recovery isn’t working. They are part of the process of healing from an eating disorder.

And when one person asks a question, there are so many others quietly thinking:

“That’s exactly how I feel.”

In this episode, I walk through some of the most common and challenging experiences in eating disorder recovery, including:

• Why guilt and discomfort can hit after a “good” weekend of eating and how to keep moving forward
• The fear that letting go of control will lead to uncontrollable weight gain
• How emotional stress and family dynamics can trigger eating disorder behaviours
• Why previously “safe” foods can suddenly become frightening
• How to navigate extreme hunger without feeling overwhelmed
• Breaking the habit of weighing yourself every day
• Moving beyond long-term quasi-recovery into full recovery
• Managing constipation in recovery without slipping into old patterns
• Whether full recovery from an eating disorder is truly possible

You don’t need to feel calm, confident, or certain to keep moving forward.
Recovery is built in the moments where you choose to act in alignment with healing, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Thoughts can feel true simply because they’ve been repeated for years.
Recovery begins when you gently question those patterns, rather than automatically believing them.

Whether it’s extreme hunger, weight changes, or digestive issues — your body is responding, repairing, and trying to find balance.

The belief that control is protecting you is incredibly common.
In reality, it often keeps the body and mind stuck in a state of threat.

Not managing. Not coping. Not constantly watching yourself.

Full freedom.

You don’t have to have everything figured out.

You don’t have to feel 100% ready.

You don’t have to silence every thought before you move forward.

You just need to keep taking the next step.

If you’re listening to this and thinking,
“I wish I had somewhere to ask my own questions…”

That’s exactly why I created the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle.

Inside, you’ll find:

• Live Q&A sessions like this
• Group coaching and support
• The Feelings Navigator (to help you understand and move through emotions like guilt, fear, and overwhelm)
• Courses and workshops on every stage of recovery
• A community of people who truly understand what recovery feels like

This is a space where you don’t have to do this alone.

You can explore everything here:
https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

Recovery can feel messy, confusing, and uncertain at times.

And it can also lead to something far greater than you might currently believe is possible.

Keep going.
Keep choosing yourself.
Keep taking the next step.

Freedom is possible.

What happens when recovery advice sounds beautiful… but doesn’t actually work for your body?

In this episode of Fly To Freedom, I’m joined by Rachael Stern — a clinician with both professional expertise and lived experience of an eating disorder — to explore something that so many people quietly struggle with:

Recovery is not the same for every body.

Sometimes the body doesn’t feel neutral.
Sometimes there is chronic pain, diabetes, food intolerances, gut issues, hormonal shifts, migraines, or autoimmune conditions.

And when that’s the case, phrases like “just trust your body” or “let go of control” can feel confusing… and even unsafe.

Together, we talk about what eating disorder recovery really looks like when your body has genuine physical needs — and how to navigate recovery in a way that is compassionate, realistic, and deeply personal.

This is a conversation for anyone who has ever felt like they are failing recovery because their body doesn’t fit the expected model.

Why “just trust your body” can feel unsafe in eating disorder recoveryThe overlap between eating disorders, chronic illness, neurodivergence, and traumaHow food intolerances, autoimmune conditions, and medical needs can shape recoveryThe difference between self-care and eating disorder behaviours when food choices are limited

Why intuitive eating doesn’t work for everyone — and what recovery can look like insteadThe grief involved when your body has limitationsWhy eating disorders can feel like they “work” — and how to move beyond thatHow to approach recovery when you don’t fully want it yetWhat it means to build trust with your body, even when it feels unpredictable

Your body having real needs does not mean you are doing recovery wrong.

Recovery is not a single path.
It is not a checklist.
And it does not need to look like anyone else’s.

You are allowed to find a way of recovering that works for your body.

Rachael Stern is a clinician in private practice with both lived and professional experience of eating disorders.

Her work focuses on the intersection of eating disorder recovery with chronic illness, chronic pain, neurodivergence, and medical complexity. She brings a deeply compassionate and realistic perspective to recovery — one that honours the grey areas, the nuance, and the individuality of each person’s experience.

🌐 Website: www.breaktheframetherapy.com📧 Email: info@breaktheframetherapy.com📱 Phone: 310-383-1090📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breaktheframetherapy

If this episode resonated with you, I want you to take this with you:

Recovery is still possible, even in a complex body.

It may look different.
It may feel different.
But it is still available to you.

And you don’t have to figure it all out alone.

Inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, you’ll find support, tools, and understanding from people who truly get what this process feels like — especially in the messy, in-between moments.

You are very welcome inside:
https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

If this conversation spoke to you, there are many more episodes of Fly To Freedom exploring eating disorder recovery, healing, and finding your way back to yourself.

This Is Why Recovery Feels So Hard

Recovery can feel exhausting.

You’re eating more.
You’re trying.
You’re pushing through fear.

And still your heart races at the table.
Still your body feels flooded.
Still your mind questions whether you’re doing it “right”.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I talk openly about why eating disorder recovery and anorexia recovery can feel overwhelming — even when you are deeply committed.

Because recovery is not just behavioural change.

It is nervous system change.

When my body had lived in chronic stress and restriction for years, it adapted. Control felt stabilising. Smaller felt safer. Needing less felt predictable. Those patterns wired themselves in beneath conscious thought.

So when I began to nourish consistently…
When I allowed rest…
When I loosened control…

My system reacted.

The panic.
The adrenaline.
The wired exhaustion.

It felt like I was under attack.

I now understand that what I was experiencing was recalibration.

In this episode, I explore:

• What early recovery actually felt like in my body
• Why hunger cues can disappear in anorexia recovery
• How survival chemistry fuels anxiety and racing thoughts
• Why comparison keeps the nervous system braced
• The difference between forcing recovery and creating safety
• What truly shifts when healing becomes relational rather than performative

Recovery can look steady on the outside and still feel chaotic internally. The turning point for me came when I stopped measuring myself and started asking a different question:

Am I building safety?

That question changed everything.

For me, eating disorder recovery became less about conquering fear and more about staying with myself.

Each time I ate consistently, even when hunger felt unclear, I was teaching my body that nourishment was safe.
Each time I rested, even when it felt undeserved, I was teaching my nervous system that stillness would not undo me.
Each time fear rose and I stayed present, I was building capacity.

Anorexia recovery is physical, yes.
It is also neurological.
It is relational.

It is a return to safety in your own body.

That return happens through repetition.
Through steadiness.
Through compassion that is strong enough to hold discomfort.

There were moments in my recovery where fear was louder than motivation.

That is why your WHY matters.

When you are clear on why you want recovery more than the eating disorder, you move differently. Your actions become intentional rather than reactive.

If you want help clarifying that anchor for yourself, I created a free worksheet to guide you through it:

👉 Find Your WHY
https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/find-your-why

Clarity strengthens commitment. And commitment builds sustainable eating disorder recovery.

I created The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle as a structured, grounded space for full recovery — rooted in nervous system safety rather than comparison or performance.

Inside, I support eating disorder recovery and anorexia recovery through:

• Structured recovery courses, including Fear of Weight Gain
• The Feelings Navigator for emotional regulation
• Expert workshops from people with lived experience
• Dedicated community spaces
• Ongoing support between therapy sessions

It exists to complement clinical care and provide consistent, recovery-focused support in the in-between moments.

You can explore The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle here:
👉 https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

For daily insights into eating disorder recovery, anorexia recovery, nervous system healing, and identity work, you can connect with me on Instagram:

👉 https://www.instagram.com/juliatrehane

What I Share in This EpisodeRecovery Is a Return to SelfFind Your WHY: The Anchor in RecoveryThe Eating Disorder Recovery CircleConnect With Me

Welcome to this month’s Q&A episode of Fly To Freedom.

These questions come directly from members inside the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle. They are real, honest reflections from people in the middle of recovery — people who are brave enough to say the quiet things out loud.

In this episode, we explore:

• Fear of fullness and the panic that can follow eating
• The “I feel fat” sensation and what’s really happening underneath
• When it’s appropriate to ease pressure in recovery
• Dog walking vs compulsive exercise — how to tell the difference
• Fear foods, preference, and the evolution from structure to integration
• Guilt and grief for the years lost to an eating disorder
• Weight gain fear and comparison in recovery
• Feeling trapped between thinness hope and body exhaustion
• What “all in” actually means (and what it doesn’t)
• Why restriction changes personality, irritability, and memory
• Recovery feeling easier than expected — and why that can be normal
• Trauma, EMDR, and the fear of relapse
• Living on chocolate and fearing meals — how to move forward
• The overnight “reset” effect after sleep
• Delayed fullness and loud digestion in recovery

This episode weaves together nervous system science, lived experience, and compassionate guidance for the messy middle of recovery.

If you have ever thought:

“Why does fullness feel so threatening?”
“Why do I wake up feeling like a different person?”
“Will my weight ever stabilise?”
“Am I doing recovery properly?”
“Is it safe to go deeper into trauma work?”

You will likely hear yourself in these questions.

Recovery is not linear. It is not one-size-fits-all. And it is not meant to feel like another rigid rule book.

It is a process of teaching your nervous system that food is safe, rest is allowed, and your body does not need to be at war with you.

If listening to this felt like someone finally put words to what you’ve been carrying quietly… that is not an accident.

The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle exists for exactly this kind of work.

Inside the Circle, you can:

• Submit questions for monthly Q&As
• Join live group coaching calls
• Access recovery courses and workshops
• Use tools like the Feelings Navigator to work with emotions instead of fighting them
• Connect with others who understand this experience from the inside

It is a space that complements therapy beautifully, or stands alone if that’s where you are.

If you are ready for recovery that feels supported, steady, and grounded in both science and lived experience, you are very welcome inside.

You can join us here:

👉 https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

You do not have to navigate fear of fullness, weight anxiety, trauma, or the “reset” mornings alone.

You are learning.
Your body is adapting.
And you deserve support while you do.

I’m sending you so much love.
I’ll see you next time.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m joined by writer, speaker, and podcast host Brianne Roberge for a deeply honest conversation about self-worth, trauma, and the belief that love has to be earned.

We talk about what happens when you grow up learning to perform for approval, to change yourself to be acceptable, and to control your body in the hope that it will finally make you feel worthy. Brianne shares her personal journey through pageant culture, extreme physical control, cosmetic surgery, serious health consequences, and the moment everything began to shift when she stopped trying to fix herself and started listening instead.

This conversation will resonate deeply if eating disorder recovery or anorexia recovery has felt less about food — and more about learning how to stay with yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable.

This episode includes discussion of childhood trauma and sexual abuse. Please listen gently and take pauses if you need to.

In this episode, we explore:

• How early experiences can teach us to earn love through performance and self-erasure

• Why changing the body can feel like the solution when the wound underneath is emotional

• The link between trauma, people-pleasing, and body control in eating disorder recovery

• What happens when the body starts signalling that something isn’t right

• The difference between self-care and true self-love

• Learning to stay with uncomfortable feelings instead of abandoning yourself

• Why self-worth is not something you can earn by becoming someone else

• How finding your voice can change relationships — and sometimes end them

• What freedom begins to feel like when you stop hustling for love

So many people in eating disorder recovery and anorexia recovery recognise the pattern Brianne describes — trying to be smaller, better, quieter, more disciplined, or more acceptable in order to feel safe and loved.

This episode gently unpacks why those strategies never bring lasting peace, and why healing begins when worth stops being conditional.

Brianne Roberge is a writer, speaker, and podcast host who shares openly about trauma healing, self-worth, embodiment, and learning how to come home to yourself after a lifetime of performing for love.

You can connect with Brianne here:

• Instagram: @itsbrianneroberge

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/itsbrianneroberge

• Website: https://www.brianneroberge.com

• Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5zTzthDnf5Bt5hM08FSDAk

• YouTube: linked via her website

If this episode stirred something in you, that makes sense.
These beliefs often form early, and unlearning them takes time, patience, and compassion.

You don’t have to become someone else to be worthy.
You are allowed to stop performing.
You are allowed to stay with yourself.

Welcome to the January Q&A episode of Fly to Freedom.

This monthly Q&A comes directly from inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle and features real questions from real people navigating the complex, emotional, and deeply human process of eating disorder recovery.

In this episode, Julia answers questions around nervous system regulation, identity, extreme hunger, perfectionism, control, and the exhausting cycle of food and exercise. These are conversations for anyone who wants recovery, but feels overwhelmed, unsure, or afraid of letting go of the strategies that once felt safe.

Throughout the episode, Julia explores how healing is not about fixing yourself, but about learning how to stay with yourself — even when fear is loud, even when the body feels dysregulated, and even when recovery feels slow.

• How to regulate the nervous system during eating disorder recovery without forcing calm

• Why recovery can feel threatening to the body, even when it’s what you want

• What nervous system regulation really looks like when fear and panic are present

• Extreme hunger in recovery: why some people experience it strongly and others don’t

• Why feeling full quickly or disconnected from hunger cues is common and meaningful

• How anxiety, stress, and past restriction affect digestion and hunger signals

• Identity confusion in long-term eating disorder recovery

• How to tell where the eating disorder ends and where you begin

• Perfectionism, control, sensitivity, and self-imposed rules — coping strategies, not character flaws

• Perimenopause, ageing, and emotional sensitivity in recovery

• Letting go of control while learning to feel safe in your body

• Going “all in” with food and exercise without overwhelming your nervous system

• Why recovery is about presence, not perfection or speed

• How compassion and safety create sustainable healing

This episode is for you if you:

• Feel dysregulated or panicked during recovery

• Worry that your hunger signals are “wrong”

• Feel unsure who you are without the eating disorder

• Feel stuck in cycles of food challenges and compensatory behaviours

• Want recovery, but need it to honour your nervous system and capacity

Julia gently reminds you that your responses make sense, your body is protecting you, and recovery is about coming home to yourself — not becoming someone else.

If you want ongoing support alongside therapy or clinical care, this is exactly the kind of conversation that happens every month inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle.

Inside the circle, members receive:

• Monthly live Q&A sessions

• Group coaching calls

• Expert-led workshops and courses

• The Feelings Navigator to help you work with emotions in the moment

• 24/7 peer support from people who truly understand eating disorder recovery

You are welcome exactly as you are, and you do not have to do recovery alone.

🧭 Explore the Feelings Navigator:
https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/how-are-you-feeling

🌐 Website:
https://www.edrecoverycircle.com

https://juliatrehane.com

📸 Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/juliatrehane

Bulimia can feel confusing, shame-filled, and deeply misunderstood — especially when the binge–purge cycle starts to feel automatic, secretive, or bigger than willpower.

In this episode of Fly To Freedom, I’m joined by Dr Rachel Evans (psychologist, hypnotherapist, and host of the Just Eat Normally podcast). Rachel brings both lived experience and specialist knowledge of bulimia, and she helps me unpack what bulimia actually is, why the behaviours happen, and how recovery can become possible — even when things have felt stuck for a long time.

We talk about the psychology and biology behind bingeing and purging, the role of fear and compulsion, and the myths that keep people trapped — including myths around calories, laxatives, and exercise. I also share openly that my lived experience is with anorexia, not bulimia, and I invite Rachel to guide the conversation with accuracy and compassion.

• How Rachel describes bulimia (and why diagnosis labels can feel vague or limiting)

• What makes a binge feel like a binge (including secrecy, speed, dissociation, and “I can’t stop” urgency)

• The different types of compensatory behaviours, including vomiting, laxatives, fasting, and compulsive exercise

• Why it’s often the intention and fear underneath a behaviour that shows whether it’s becoming a problem

• The myths people get taught about laxatives and purging, and why they’re never the “solution” the eating disorder promises

• How exercise can become a form of purging — even when it looks “healthy” from the outside

• Why bingeing and purging can create a “high” or sense of relief (and how that reinforces the cycle)

• Why understanding what the behaviour is doing for you matters more than shame

• Why eating disorders often morph and change over time, especially around big life events

• Why punishment never creates healing — and why compassion and understanding actually change things

• A practical next step: gently noticing patterns (feelings, triggers, restriction, urges) without judgement

Recovery is possible. You can live without the constant shadow of food thoughts, urges, shame, and compensation. You deserve support that helps you understand what’s driving the cycle — and what to do instead.

Rachel is a psychologist and hypnotherapist, and the host of the Just Eat Normally podcast. She has lived experience of bulimia recovery and supports people who want to step out of the binge–purge cycle for good.

• Website: eatingdisordertherapist.co.uk

• Instagram: rachel.evans.phd

• Podcast: Just Eat Normally

I also share where you can find ongoing support inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/

You can find more recovery tips and 1:1 coaching at Juliatrehane.com

And you can always find me over on Instagram @juliatrehane

This was a tough episode to record, but I've felt that it needed to be recorded for some time.

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This needs to be talked about.

Why? Because weight loss injections are everywhere at the moment.It's not the medication itself that matters most to me — it’s the message travelling with it.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I speak openly about why the current cultural obsession with appetite suppression feels so unsettling, especially through the lens of eating disorder recovery, nervous system health, and body trust.

I must say that this is not a medical episode.
It is not advice.
It is not a judgement of anyone’s choices.

It is a deeply human conversation about what happens when hunger is framed as a flaw, appetite is treated as something to eliminate, and smaller bodies are quietly sold as safer, better, and more worthy.

Together, we explore how weight loss injections are being positioned not just as a treatment, but as an idea — the idea that the body is a problem to solve, that discomfort should be bypassed, and that control equals responsibility. She unpacks why this message can feel like relief in a world that already teaches body hatred, and why that relief can still come at a cost.

This episode looks at:

• How appetite suppression reshapes our relationship with hunger, sensation, and trust

• Why this cultural moment is particularly dangerous for people in eating disorder recovery

• The nervous system impact of living in a world that celebrates silencing hunger

• The difference between short-term relief and long-term healing

• How control around food and weight has become moralised

• Why body dissatisfaction is not vanity, but survival in a judgement-heavy culture

• The familiar patterns that fuel eating disorder cycles — even when they appear calm or “responsible”

• Who benefits when bodies are treated as problems, and who quietly pays the price

I speak honestly about the grief, fear, anger, and confusion this movement can stir — especially for those learning that eating is safe, that hunger can be trusted, and that bodies are not enemies.

If you are using weight loss injections, or considering them, you are welcome here. This episode does not pull the ground from beneath you. It gently asks where worth has been taught to live, and whether shrinking has become the price of belonging.

At the core, I want to ask you a quieter, deeper question:

What kind of relationship do you want to have with your body over a lifetime — one built on control, or one built on trust?

Choosing body trust in a culture that profits from doubt is countercultural. It can feel lonely. It can feel scary. And it is deeply powerful.

This is why The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle exists — to talk about hunger, fear, worth, and bodies out loud, together. Not to fix bodies, but to support real people navigating a very loud world.

If this sort of life is what you're searching for, I encourage you to reach out.

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