• You're Not That Important—So You Can Relax Now

  • Conversations on Stress, Addiction & Recovery
  • By: Ralph Solli Jr
  • Narrated by: Ralph Solli Jr
  • Length: 6 hrs and 12 mins
  • 5.0 out of 5 stars (1 rating)

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You're Not That Important—So You Can Relax Now

By: Ralph Solli Jr
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Previously published as Just Thoughts...On Addiction & Recovery by Ralph Solli Jr.

"It ain't all about you—so you can relax now." Those words should be a relief to hear. The weight of the planet isn't your responsibility to carry. Shocking though, to a self-centered person. They believe and behave as if it is—it must be—all about them. The world revolves, and they're at the center. A recipe for stress. My own "addiction to self" kept me trapped in anxiety, insecurity—the need to control everything. But I complicated everything, repeated mistakes. Felt everything. Stressed. Can you relate? Do you easily stress yourself out and complicate things? Struggle "just letting it be"? Get involved where it’s none of your business? Stress out other people? How do you deal with stress? Grind it out? Effortlessly? Distraction—addiction?

If so, I invite you to the book. Except "effortlessly", I relate. A wound-up existence led me to addiction—seeking relief in drugs. Substances took away my tension—self-doubt, concern of what others thought. Until they didn't work anymore.

After years of drug use, I found recovery. Told "addiction is not a drug", recovery wouldn't be simply "staying clean" from chemicals. My skewed perceptions and damaging behaviors—beyond using drugs—needed to change. Ironically, I've learned most about myself through other people: ''Ralph: No one cares more than you do—about how perfect or flawed you are, what you 'have'. Sorry—you're just not that important.” Just what I needed to hear.

Throughout recovery, whenever I’d heard something valuable, I'd write the gist on a scrap of paper. The book is a compilation of 250 such discussions—difficult lessons I've learned. Everyday "life" situations, relatable to anyone—whether they struggle with addiction or not: romantic relationships, self-esteem, self-centeredness, guilt, not letting go, dealing with other people.

I invite you into these conversations. So you may live a less stressed, more relaxed life.

©2022 Ralph Solli Jr (P)2022 Ralph Solli Jr

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I thought this book has great insight into the human mind, not only on the subject of substance addiction and recovery, but on how the human species tends to torment itself vis thoughts and or worries. I found it very insightful on a broad scope of subjects all that can be altered, of course by the infatuation of the mind and perception. I highly recommend this book for everyone, anyone who is seeking some general insight can find an answer or two here!

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