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One of Betches' 7 Books by Black Authors You Need to Read This Summer

One of Elite Daily’s Books Featuring Interracial Relationships You Should Read in 2020

One of Marie Claire's 2020 Books You Should Add to your Reading List

When a Nigerian woman falls for a man she knows will break her mother's heart, she must choose between love and her family.

At 12 years old, Azere promised her dying father she would marry a Nigerian man and preserve her culture, even after immigrating to Canada. Her mother has been vigilant about helping - well forcing - her to stay within the Nigerian dating pool ever since. But when another match-made-by-mom goes wrong, Azere ends up at a bar, enjoying the company and later sharing the bed of Rafael Castellano, a man who is tall, handsome, and...White.

When their one-night stand unexpectedly evolves into something serious, Azere is caught between her feelings for Rafael and the compulsive need to please her mother. Soon, Azere can't help wondering if loving Rafael makes her any less of a Nigerian. Can she be with him without compromising her identity? The answer will either cause Azere to be audacious and fight for her happiness or continue as the compliant daughter.

©2020 Jane Igharo (P)2020 Penguin Audio

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Romance with a lot of twists, turns, drama & loss

I wasn't sure what to expect with this romance featuring an Edo woman who fell in love with a white man of Spanish descent. I'm always looking for romances featuring Black women who fall for Spanish/Portuguese speakers(Whether they're European, Latin American or from the African continent, so race isn't a factor for me) so when I saw this suddenly, I was intrigued to whether it'd fulfill my need to find this pairing.

Some of the obvious tropes are forbidden romance, as it's important to her family to uphold traditional concepts like saving herself for marriage and marrying a man of her culture, but how accidental pregnancy is handled, I was naturally fearful that she'd become a baby mama.

In her culture (specifically Edo tribe Nigerian) she was expected to fulfill a dated dying wish of her late father's by doing everything her parents say. This proves to be challenging since she's been cultured Canadian and has had premartial relations as well as dated a man so different from her culturally.

The heroine was hard to understand sometimes but only because she wanted transparency but often wasn't honest herself in most of her serious relationships(family included). But her mother was quite the hypocrite but it made her character feel flawed in a way most foreign parents are not humanized. She was very much a "Do as I say, not as I do" kind of woman, so to see how something very obvious was in my face when it came to her, I admit I was surprised because it was the opposite of what she expected of her own daughter.

They were the perfect push and pull for one another(even though she disowned her for a while, which was uncomfortable) and forced emotions out that were often hard to challenge when tradition was everything.

The hero had a back story and they fit well together, I just couldn't help but agree with how involved his family was, it felt like they were planning a Spanish upbringing and leaving her Nigerian-Edo one behind. His back story was sad but I'm glad he found love again.

I think this story is perfect for non-African Black readers to lean in and understand a culture very different from their own. I'm a Black-Cuban American, so some of this is VERY different from my upbringing but I like that it taught me what it was like to be a Black woman of her culture. I think all readers would benefit from a book like this, but I just think Black women across the pond don't understand each other, so we're divided because we don't understand each other. It doesn't help that language, traditions and birth countries seperate us.

The ending was a little cheesy but not uncommon for a HEA. I loved it. I hope this author does more in the future.

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The Culture Vulture...

We always talk about people devouring our culture but what happens when our culture devours us?! This book reminded me of so many of my Nigerian and Eritrean friends who grow up in culturally rich households, encouraged by parent to be rich and diverse in everything except love. I’ve witnessed these friends settle in relationship and in tradition just to satisfy their parents who have taught them that family is everything but emotional independence is an act of defiance. Our parents bring us into this world with a vision of their own and we do deeply appreciate their sacrifices but their expectations become a bondage like can my life be my own as long as I honor myself, that alone is a the greatest reflection of you! To see me win in all things including love. As a proud black woman I understand the desire to preserve our culture it is beautiful but don’t arrange my life, don’t make me feel horrible for not following in your footsteps and do NOT tell me who I can be with...I love the culture but the suppression within the culture ran me low! Well written story..the ending made me so very mad. However a great discussion can be facilitated on familial relationships, friendships, westernized immigrants and more.

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I think the Good reviews lied....

Tradiition. Culture . I didn't know if this woman was a child or an adult. I understand respect for your elders, it is training you learn early but lasts for a lifetime. This woman who is by outward appearances is a independent woman basically allowed her mother to control her life and at the same time was running behind her yelling Mommy Mommy!!!!
Who holds a child to a childhood promise they could not possibly fully understand? That is why as parents we protect our children because they DONT KNOW OR UNDERSTAND. Apparently her sister had better sense and her Auntie did too. The constant badgering and put downs from the mother was astounding, manipulation at its worst. I was waiting for her to put her big girl panties on and speak up but no. I just knew she would keep her medical information between her and the Dr. but nooo. At that point she was a pure whimpering idiot to me. She just sat there and watched that train wreck happen with no self preservation at all. Looking at that negative Mommy. Why is she cutting the grass at her Mommy house where there are men there who could do it? But the Mommy is always talking about the rile of a wife is supposed to have but then again this fool was so stuck so far up her Mommy butt it should not have been a surprise she over there cutting the grass. Her Mommy had her in a cage and she wasn't even living under the same roof. She actually would not date boys she actually liked cause of her Mommy. She let her Mommy tell her she who she gonna go out with and she did it! Even knowing that the guy was not a good one and he teamed up with her Mommy nafter she repeatedly told him no. She acted just like her Mommy to have HIS way She was just as stubborn as her mother, it was like she was brainwashed. The inner monologue.... I should say... but Im not gonna tell her that was aggravating . Just holding it in and she was miserable as hell and making the people aroind her miserable. She was mean to her friend who only told her the truth and was right.The only time she seemed happy was when she was with him but then she made him miserable too. He tried to compromise and he didnt try to push anything on her but cared for her. This woman made problems before there were problems. She was her own worse enemy but she was stuck on romance movies...
I guess it never occurred to her that she could be the one to teach tradition to her child. Yeah he had a painful secret but after all the holding back she did,
she had no sympathy. She didn't trust him after all the holding back she did and he was not the second person to find out about his baby but closer to the 10th.
I was excited about reading this book. I cant say just how disappointed I was with this book.
Your foundation is always there and you may go into the world and experience other things, its called living, but at the end that foundation will pull you to where you need to be. Parents raise their children and teach but that don't give them the right to demand and demean and control. Any person whom find themselves living to please someone else is call a sad person. No matter how much family you have you have to walk your own path in life. The mother said,,Azere, in your condition, despite your stupidity a man wants to marry you..... SMH HOW would she treat that the child? Did I mention Azere had a good job and didn't really job need a man? Then come to find out after being negative and insulting throughout the ENTIRE BOOK, Mommy was doing some behind closed doors things. She would have had to back away from me for a while and shoe wouldn't have held on to my baby for a while. Azere needed space and to heal before the mother came into her new life.
I'm getting my money back.

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Terrible protagonist

The main female character is so selfish, self important and whiny. The mother's attitude makes it very difficult to be sympathetic to her. You have to suspend disbelief too much to believe that Azare would be controlled by her mother as much as she is. The author did not build the mother's character enough as nurturing to react as dramatically as she does for it being the 21st century. This story feels elementary and dated.

I couldn't finish it. Azare just had no redeeming qualities that translated in the narrative.

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I'm in love

I loved everything about this book. The descriptions painted a picture for every scene.

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Not what I was expecting

The Story line is there, but the characters seem immature and I feel that the author gave us detail and elaboration where we didn’t need it and there was no detail or insight to what I desperately wanted to know. For instances, the connection between the two main characters seems surface level and it was hard to understand how they got to the deep love they shared. Azere was very valley girl and I found her to be annoying and her actions not match some of her internal thoughts, which again was frustrating.

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Here Come the Internationals

"Ties That Tether" by Jane Igharo, told like a love letter, is well narrated and explores love across national lines. National heritage, culture and identity co-exist among cosmopolitan internationals who hold no rigid personal boundaries save for love, individual respect, and human dignity in a global village. How much does one have to sacrifice to be in a relationship across national cultural divides is the question? The answer is in the book.

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Beautiful multicultural romance

How amazing and insightful was this book! This was a sexy, interracial romance packed with humor. It tells the story of Nigerian born Azere who immigrated to Canada at the age of 12 and her struggles to adapt to a new culture without letting go of her own. As an immigrant, I appreciated this story so much!

Azere has a one night stand with an Italian man, Rafael. This is after another failed date set up by her mother, who is never failing in her persistence for Azere to marry a good Nigerian man. Fast forward a few months and Azere is shocked to see said one night stand is now a fellow co-worker. Their chemistry from their first night picks up right away and turns into so much more. Azere knows her mother would never approve of her being with a white man outside of her culture but she also needs to follow her heart and find her own happiness.

Being proud of where you come and wanting to preserve your cultural identity is every immigrant's struggle. Azere felt forced to limit her dating pool to men of her own culture and falling in love with a man outside of this was not in her plans. I loved the way the author played out this complex love story and I loved learning about the Nigerian culture. At the heart of this there is swoon worthy romance that any romance reader will adore and I highly recommend!

Narrated by Nkeki Obi-Melekwe and Gary Tiedemann who did such an amazing job!

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Contemporary Romance
POV: Dual
Heat Level: Moderate
HEA: Yes

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Outstanding!

This book was very well written. I loved the narrators! I could actually envision all of the scenes and characters in my mind. A definite page turner!

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Great read

I really enjoyed this book. It kept my attention from beginning to end. If you purchase it, you won't regret it.

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  • 02-17-21

Superficial and banal

The good: great to have a story with black female lead. Great narration.

The bad: one dimensional characters, predictably bland story line. It's like the worst exponent of a Nollywood movie.

The ugly: moronic and infantile main character whom we are led to believe can sustain a successful career, but lacks the ability to think for herself.

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  • Sarah
  • 12-03-20

A book I wanted to love

If you love angst, and conflict created from protagonists refusing to communicate, plus a surprise pregnancy, then this is the book for you. The best part for me was learning more about Nigerian culture, and I loved that the setting is in Toronto, Canada