The War for Kindness

Building Empathy in a Fractured World

De: Jamil Zaki

Narrado por: Jamil Zaki

“In this masterpiece, Jamil Zaki weaves together the very latest science with stories that will stay in your heart forever.” (Angela Duckworth, author of Grit)

Empathy is in short supply. We struggle to understand people who aren’t like us, but find it easy to hate them. Studies show that we are less caring than we were even 30 years ago. In 2006, Barack Obama said that the United States was suffering from an “empathy deficit.” Since then, things seem to have only gotten worse.

It doesn’t have to be this way. In this groundbreaking book, Jamil Zaki shares cutting-edge research, including experiments from his own lab, showing that empathy is not a fixed trait - something we’re born with or not - but rather a skill that can be strengthened through effort.

He also tells the stories of people who embody this new perspective, fighting for kindness in the most difficult of circumstances. We meet a former neo-Nazi who is now helping extract people from hate groups, ex-prisoners discussing novels with the judge who sentenced them, Washington police officers changing their culture to decrease violence among their ranks, and NICU nurses fine-tuning their empathy so that they don’t succumb to burnout.

Written with clarity and passion, The War for Kindness is an inspiring call to action. The future may depend on whether we accept the challenge.

Praise for The War for Kindness:

“A wide-ranging practical guide to making the world better.” (NPR)

“Relating anecdotes and test cases from his fellow researchers, news events and the imaginary world of literature and entertainment, Zaki makes a vital case for ‘fighting for kindness.’ ...If he’s right - and after reading The War for Kindness, you’ll probably think so - Zaki’s work is right on time.” (San Francisco Chronicle)

“In this landmark book, Jamil Zaki gives us a revolutionary perspective on empathy: Empathy can be developed, and, when it is, people, relationships, organizations, and cultures are changed.” (Carol Dweck, author of Mindset)

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“In a time when it seems empathy is a lost cause and compassion is a dying art, it may not be too late to revive the better angels of our nature. Jamil Zaki is one of the brightest lights in psychology, and in this gripping book he shows that kindness is not a sign of weakness but a source of strength.” (Adam Grant, author of Give and Take and Originals)

"Lucid, stimulating...[The War for Kindness aims] to challenge antiquated views of the brain and human behavior.... Zaki issues a call for concerted action to build empathy in a world he sees as fractured and threatened by escalating tribalism, cruelty, and isolation.” (The American Scholar)

“Jamil Zaki makes the most entertainingly readable argument for cultivating empathy that I’ve read. Seamlessly stitching together his own experiences with fascinating stories and research from around the globe, Jamil lays out the irrefutable evidence for what we may already instinctively be sensing...that in these uncertain times, our ability to cultivate empathy for one another is not only possible, it’s necessary. A must read for anyone willing to peek under the hood of the human heart.” (Amanda Palmer)

“With alarming evidence of our society's rapidly diminishing empathy, Zaki draws on decades of clinical research, along with experiments conducted at his lab, to consider the forces that impact our modern condition… [a] well-researched call to action and an urgent message.” (Kirkus Reviews)

everyone should read this

thank you for taking the time to explain empathy in a way that is educational and also from the heart and soul of who we are and can be.

State of Contemplation

There were moments that I laughed, there were moments when I was frustrated, there were moments when I was physically angry, and there were moments I cried. Although the emotions varied all of those moments brought me to a contemplative state.

I have recommended this book to several others; those working in healthcare, those working in social justice, and anyone else I know that wants to facilitate change for us all.

Thank you for the time and study, thank you for acknowledging those that are working to make changes and those that may need to be striving harder. I did a self check several times while listening to the book; even skipped backwards to let things sink in.

Great but not a practical guide

It was an excellent book, but not enough practical advice on how to implement what is learned.

Interesting and much-needed

This audiobook is packed with science, but is also very readable and engaging. I like how he included lots of stories and anecdotes. It held my attention all the way through. I learned about the science and psychology of empathy, both on an individual scale and on a societal scale. This book is also a great reminder of the importance of empathy and the power of getting to know people you don't agree with in this highly polarized world.

Uplifting mix of psychology and humanization

Truly enjoyed this book - I met the author at a conference and he’s just as kind in person as he sounds in the book.

A great read on empathy in our lives

A truly excellent read that explores empathy in its different forms in various contexts. The book is written for the public and is both engaging and chock-full of relevant and accessible examples. Of particular interest for those into (de)polarisation, conflict resolution, and self-development.

The audiobook is read by the author - he does a great job.

Factors provided that promote or demote kindness

I appreciated the specificity of kindness-increasing/decreasing factors including related studies and their validity. I can imagine weaving them into my experience. I would certainly buy the workbook if it the author writes one!

Building Empathy in an Audible World

I chose this book because I was a teaching assistant when Jamil Zaki was teaching intro psych at Stanford. He gave insightful feedback about how to engage students with the material and modeled that advice in his lectures and demonstrations. Anyone who is curious about the scientific process will be interested to hear Zaki’s description of the narrative behind his research. I was also excited to see how Erika Weisz’ work was incorporated and how the overall message came together. Highly recommend!

well written and interesting

certainly a lot of interesting information. well written and well narrated. Overall enjoyable. Harder to follow in own life but we should all make an attempt to be more empathetic to one another

Everyone should read or listen to this book

Jamil Zaki, the director of Stanford’s Social Neuroscience Laboratory, researches the cognitive and neural bases of social behavior focusing specifically on empathic accuracy, social influence, and altruism.

I️ have always found psychology, neurobiology, neuroscience, and neurological mechanisms fascinating and I️ love that Dr. Zaki’s research melds those areas with the active practices of kindness and empathy.

This book reviews studies that illustrate how active practices of empathy change our neuroplasticity and patterns of behavior and how, in case studies, it has changed how individuals approach situations and other people differently than they would have without focusing on empathy and kindness.

This book is imperative in today’s world. It focuses on social behavior and conflict surrounding police violence, recidivism, perceived conformity, extremist groups, and caretaker burnout, amongst many other topics. Dr. Zaki not only approaches this book with a professional level of presenting his and his colleagues’ findings, but also on a personal level with stories of his experience with doctors’ empathy in the treatment of his own daughter in the NICU.

I️ HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who is willing to openmindedly listen (or if you’re not openmindedly approaching this book, then maybe you’ll at least pick up bits and pieces of useful information).

One of my best, most impactful reads in a long time.