The Second Mountain

How People Move from the Prison of Self to the Joy of Commitment

By: David Brooks

Narrated by: Arthur Morey

Length: 12 hrs and 58 mins

Publisher's Summary

Number-one New York Times best seller

Everybody tells you to live for a cause larger than yourself, but how exactly do you do it? The best-selling author of The Road to Character explores what it takes to lead a meaningful life in a self-centered world.

Every so often, you meet people who radiate joy - who seem to know why they were put on this earth, who glow with a kind of inner light. Life, for these people, has often followed what we might think of as a two-mountain shape. They get out of school, they start a career, and they begin climbing the mountain they thought they were meant to climb. Their goals on this first mountain are the ones our culture endorses: to be a success, to make your mark, to experience personal happiness. But when they get to the top of that mountain, something happens. They look around and find the view...unsatisfying. They realize: This wasn’t my mountain after all. There’s another, bigger mountain out there that is actually my mountain. And so they embark on a new journey. 

On the second mountain, life moves from self-centered to other-centered. They want the things that are truly worth wanting, not the things other people tell them to want. They embrace a life of interdependence, not independence. They surrender to a life of commitment. 

In The Second Mountain, David Brooks explores the four commitments that define a life of meaning and purpose: to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a philosophy or faith, and to a community. Our personal fulfillment depends on how well we choose and execute these commitments. Brooks looks at a range of people who have lived joyous, committed lives, and who have embraced the necessity and beauty of dependence. He gathers their wisdom on how to choose a partner, how to pick a vocation, how to live out a philosophy, and how we can begin to integrate our commitments into one overriding purpose. 

In short, this audiobook is meant to help us all lead more meaningful lives. But it’s also a provocative social commentary. We live in a society, Brooks argues, that celebrates freedom, that tells us to be true to ourselves, at the expense of surrendering to a cause, rooting ourselves in a neighborhood, binding ourselves to others by social solidarity and love. We have taken individualism to the extreme - and in the process we have torn the social fabric in a thousand different ways. The path to repair is through making deeper commitments. In The Second Mountain, Brooks reveals what can happen when we put commitment-making at the center of our lives.

©2019 David Brooks (P)2019 Random House Audio

Pursue meaning, reject hyper-individualism

I was somewhat reluctant to pick The Second Mountain up. I watched several interviews with him and many those interviews were interesting, but they seemed like they were talking about a couple different books, they range from personal self help book, to ‘an extended graduation speech’, to a version of Richard Rohr’s Falling Upward. Having finished the book, I understand all of those descriptions, but none of them were quite right. And while I am glad I read the book, I do think that is part of the problem of the book.

I was also reluctant because while I generally liked his last book Road to Charater, I thought there were significant weaknesses with the book and I did not want to relive a ‘do better’ encouragement book. Once I decided to pick up The Second Mountain, I was pleased that he offered an apology for the weaknesses of the The Road to Character that roughly addressed my issues.

There are many great quotes in The Second Mountain. They are often even better in full context than as stand alone quotes. Like, “Happiness can be tasted alone, but permanent joy requires an enmeshed and embedded life.” He riffs off of CS Lewis’ and others distinction between happiness and joy. The whole book is really about pursuing joy and the other deeper things in life and not just happiness and the other fleeting things in life. It is not that the fleeting things are unimportant, but that they are not fulfilling.

The book is really in two parts. The first part is making his argument for this concept of the Second Mountain. The first mountain is success in life while the second mountain is the pursuit of meaning. If you have read Richard Rohr’s Falling Upward it is a similar, but not exactly similar point.The second part is the four commitments that lead to the Second Mountain, but also are those things that fight against the hyper-individualism that is really the underlying theme of the book. The four commitments are to Vocation, Marriage, Faith (or philosophy) and Community.

Throughout the book Brooks uses his own story as an example, certainly not the only example, but an example both of why pursuit of the second mountain is needed, but also of how he has done it. This isn’t a memoir, and it isn’t intended to be a memoir. But I think many of the problems of the book I think are that is isn’t a memoir.

The section on the commitment to faith is an explicit testimony of his conversion to Christianity. This is a book written for a secular audience primarily. And I think he hits on this section exactly right. It is his story of coming to Christianity, not an apologetic argument (really an argument against the way that apologetics is often used), but a story similar to Francis Spufford’s take on faith in Unappologetic. Brooks is really making an argument not for Christianity in particular, but for the role of faith, or a philosophy of living, in general as a means to pull people into community. So this will not make everyone happy that wants him to give a full throated argument for Christianity. His point here is to show that in his life, Christianity has been what has pulled him toward the second mountain. (But also he explicitly says he is not leaving his Judaism behind, in some ways he feels more Jewish now because that is also part of his faith commitment that pulls him toward the second mountain.)

The problem with The Second Mountain is that I think it is trying to do way too much. Parts of it really do read like an extended commencement address. Other parts read like a book you give to someone that is facing a midlife crisis. And there are other parts that are straight self help and verge on the etherial 'do better' advice. And while much of the advice in the marriage section really is very good marriage advice, it is marriage advice from a recently divorce and remarried man.

Part of my problem with the book is that it feels like a 'recent convert' book. Not just the parts about Christianity (in fact the Christianity parts are probably where he sounds least like a new convert). The book as a whole is focusing on helping people focus on maturity. I am all for focusing on maturity. But the focusing on maturity is what he sounds like he has recently converted to. The book as a whole is a response to a personal breakdown about five years ago and his struggle back to health. While there is much good here, and I am saying that seriously, there really is much good here, it feels to me like he wrote this 5-10 years too soon.

I know that we all are impatient. We want to both learn quickly, skip steps, and get the silver bullet. Brooks is arguing that we can’t skip the important parts. We have to invest in community, family, faith and work for the long haul. It is in the long haul that maturity comes. The good of the book affirms that long term, slow, don’t skip steps, invest deeply, not widely, focus. But the book is also written only a few years after he had this insight and it feels too soon.At the end of the book, when he is trying to distill the whole book down to a short manifesto, it was interesting that in more than a couple of ways, Brooks was saying very similar things to what Jonathan Walton was saying in 12 Lies That Hold America Captive, including the difference between conditional and unconditional love. Our society is currently focused on the conditional. I am not going to recount the ways that they go together, but the two books which are about fundamentally different issues, have remarkably similar conclusions.
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This doesn’t really fit anywhere else, but In an interview with Collin Hansen on The Gospel Coalition podcast, Brooks makes a distinction between community and tribalism that I think is helpful, although not part of the common definition. He said that community is built around loving something in common and he contrasted that with tribalism that is build around the hatred or opposition to a thing or person or idea.

So close to 5 star

Only thing holding this book back from being five stars is There is a part in this book about marriage that lasted far far too long. If you can get past that part this is an excellent book.

Ethical will - solid suggestions

Reads like an ethical will. Excited to see if any of the concepts and points take shape in our american society and looking forward to making changes within myself which align with the moral suggestions found herein.

Mixed 80/20 - liked/disliked- overall helpful

Overall I enjoyed the thoughts that the author had to share, even though at times they seemed to lack cohesion toward the overall topic. He certainly has a wealth of good food for thought for anyone at a crossroads in their life, but I can also see this book would be helpful for a curious younger person who has the maturity to consider how their future might play out.

I thought the narrator did a good job but to me, his voice sounded like an elderly man and so, at some points, the text sounded rather critical than inspiring. Perhaps a younger, more upbeat voice would’ve made the message more uplifting/enticing instead of sounding scolding

Life changing

This book was life changing, and has specifically inspired me to do more. At the ripe old age of 61, and in the midst of a global pandemic, I am already reaching out to do more for my community. Thank you, David Brooks.

Good, but too preachy at points.

Overall very well written, but simply too preachy at times, and it certainly could have been shorter and made all the same points.
The idea, however, of a life lived for and about others, is worth emphasizing over and over.

Promotes religious ideology, one sided at its best

First of all, the book has some really good message, not all parts is poor.

However, the author implies one should believe in religion (Christian) and specifically the bible without questioning.

The fact that even religious scholars can tell you, the bible as it is today is written account of orally transmitted stories , retranslated and reinterpreted many many times and its applications have been used by millions to justify slavery as well as ending slavery, or for killing non believers as well as ending capital punishments, most of its early years being the former.

While I listened through this book thinking at some point the author would help me reinforce my moral values, I end up more convinced now how truly morally blind religious people can be, just take the author‘s position and personal commitment. The author specifically promotes christianity and the bible specifically without questioning.

I am not perfect, ever learning how foolish I once was a day or ten years before. But blindly take a book written down from stories orally told over hundreds of years, written down and translated by people having their own agendas, enforced by more people who can be just as corrupt as any of your neighbors, is at least as questionable as my own values.

I realize it is easier to criticize than to illuminate. However, I feel the position of the author could be used to reinforce some religious (christian) zealots‘ bigoted positions on many complex issues important for human development. That of course, would lead to the opposite of what one would surmise, what Jesus would support. If the book‘s premise, is that one should believe in religion blindly to demonstrate faith and commitment to God, this book had an opposite effect on me.

Religious undertones if your into that sort of thing

I tried 3 times times to get into this book. But the idealism and religious undertones were to much for me. A kind of flowery language without saying anything of consequence. I imagine some would enjoy it but I couldn’t read a chapter without pausing and having a one sided mock argument with the author.

Seemingly confusing but so is life

This story has a lot of moving parts. Author wrote his best work. I read most of NYT opinion, mostly find them helpful in understanding life. This book takes my understanding to a new level. I purchased a couple books of recommended as I was reading this one. I take that as a compliment to author. He synthesizes a lot of people’s work and quotes them often. Because of this I will have to read book again.
As a 73 yo male I appreciate his use of genders throughout the work. It helps to make the work accessible. Both my sister and my wife loved the book.

Powerful Book!

This book is definitely worth a read. David Brooks has compiled an insightful group of thoughts that are worth pondering.