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As a progressive commentator on Fox News and now CNN, Sally Kohn has made a career out of bridging intractable political differences, learning how to talk civilly to people whose views she disagrees with passionately. Famously "nice", she even gave a TED Talk about what she termed emotional correctness. But these days, even Kohn has found herself wanting to breathe fire at her enemies. It was time, she decided, to look into the ugliness erupting all around us.

In The Opposite of Hate, Kohn talks to leading scientists and researchers, investigating the evolutionary and cultural roots of hate and how simple incivility can be a gateway to much worse. She travels to Rwanda, to the Middle East, and across the United States, introducing us to terrorists, white supremacists, and even some of her own Twitter trolls, drawing surprising lessons from these dramatic examples - including inspiring stories of those who left hate behind.

As Kohn boldly confronts her own shameful moments, whether it's the girl she bullied as a child or her own deep partisan resentment, she points the way toward change. No one is more poised to lead us out of this wilderness of hate than Sally Kohn. Her engaging, fascinating, and often funny book will open your eyes and your heart.

©2018 Sally Kohn (P)2018 HighBridge, a division of Recorded Books

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Profoundly insightful, important, and digestible.

What a masterpiece! At just the moment needed, Ms Kohn has provided a deep and wide-ranging inquiry into hate, conflict, divisions - and the way out. Should be required reading for anyone living in a society - anywhere. Fundamental insight.

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  • Carmelo
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a truthful look at hate

the secret to completing this book is keeping your mind open to what is being said. It is Well written and has marvelous if not horrific examples of hate. There's even a way to address people who you do not agree with completely on ideas that evoke a negative or positive response. Enjoy this book and ruminate on its message. Sincerely, Carmelo.

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Excellent product! Oneness via inclusion.

It validates my perception of Oneness, built by inclusion to diminish exclusion, through practices of connection.

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Yes!!!!!!

Everyone should listen to this!!! The beginning is a little rough but the rest pulls it all together!! I’m so glad I listened. It moved me and educated me on how to educate generations of past hate and how to change thought patterns for the future leaders of our world.

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You should read (open mindedness)

Fantastic research in the book. Gives you pause to reflect on how we live. Can be controversial, but recommended. Provocative.

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No matter your political affiliation....

This book will teach you AT LEAST one thing... if not 50. We can learn more about reconciliation by examining hate, than love. That sounds hopeless, but it’s not.

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So hypocritical

I ordered this book hoping that it would provide some thought provoking insight and direction in the hate-filled world that seems to be becoming more and more accepted and even encouraged in society today. Instead this book felt as if Sally Kohn was on her own soapbox and talking down to those that don’t have the same beliefs as her, which is exactly what she was saying she was against. The book felt very hypocritical, as if having alternative beliefs automatically made you racist, homophobic, sexist, or fill in the blank with your own buzz word of choice. Also, the author seemed to cherry pick studies or items that supported her views, even if they were half-truths. As an example, she highlighted the Air Force Academy General that gave an amazing speech against discrimination after an apparent racist event at the school, but she neglected to inform the reader that the racist event ended up being done by a black cadet in his attempt to make the white cadets look racist. That’s an important point to make and was completely avoided by the author. I listened to this book in its entirety to give it a thorough chance but truly did not like more than 5% of what she had to say.

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Mixed Feelings

Some parts of the book were very interesting and she clearly did a lot of research to support her claims. But I remember strongly disagreeing with, or not identifying with things she was saying - basically just having a hard time buying it. And once that happens, I stop; so I didn't finish the book. There are way too many other things I want to do with my time. Finishing mediocre books isn't one of them. (I wouldn't call it outright bad.) The narrator's style also took some getting used too (also happens to be the author). That alone almost caused me to stop near the beginning of the book. But eventually, I became ok with her voice.

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Insightful and useful book!

I really enjoyed reading this book. Sally is a great narrator, and I like the way she interspersed stories with research. I truly believe with Sally that connection is the way to move beyond hate.

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So perfect for our times. Powerful!

This was an amazing book. As a person who teaches implicit bias to law enforcement, I will be utilizing the stories to go deeper with this important work.