The New Strong-Willed Child

By: James C. Dobson

Narrated by: John Fuller

Length: 6 hrs and 44 mins

Publisher's Summary

Dr. James Dobson has completely rewritten, updated, and expanded his classic best seller The Strong-Willed Child for a new generation of parents and teachers. The New Strong-Willed Child follows on the heels of Dr. Dobson's phenomenal best seller Bringing Up Boys. It offers practical how-to advice on raising difficult-to-handle children and incorporates the latest research with Dr. Dobson's legendary wit and wisdom. 

The New Strong-Willed Child is for parents needing help dealing with sibling rivalry, ADHD, low self-esteem, and other important issues. This audiobook is a must-listen for parents and teachers struggling to raise and teach children who are convinced they should be able to live by their own rules!

©2004 James C. Dobson, Inc. (P)2004 Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

just not helpful.

Dobson offers many anecdotes as to how things shouldn't be, and how they should, but few "hows." Also, stories are very narrow and don't really cover the true issues of a strong willed child. Authoritarian in nature, but not fully dealing with the heart and emotions of a child. I don't just want their obedience, but a true heart understanding of why. After reading How to Listen So little kids will talk and talk so little kids will listen by Adrienne Farber, she offered SO many helpful points that I was able to put in place immediately and see results from my 2 boys. I laughed at the examples she gave as many of them I had encountered and handled in a way that eas not helpful...then she offered solutions that made sense and I immediately played out...It was the first time I ever felt a sense of control over my emotions and kids and we had peace. I was so excited to read this book to get insights and found myself even more frustrated by hearing how Dobson delivered. This book was of little to no value to me.

Answer to my prayers!

I was referred to this book by a friend when I was about to throw the towel in on homeschooling. I was frustrated and cried daily. My son was testing me every minute of every day and my children were fighting all the time. This book had me in tears...not sad tears but years of relief! It only took 2 days to get through this wonderful book. In these past 2 days I can see a difference in my household already!!!! Thank God for this book and Mr Dobson!

Good balance for parenting

this book was a good balance between the positive parenting movement and the firm discipline of our grandparents. I think modern parents struggle to find a balance and dr. Dobson delivered with the new strong-willed child book. while he doesn't say that we need to spank our kids nor does he say we need to affirm them with positive encouragement, I walked away feeling like I had the tools to control myself when those instances arise when I'm dealing with my strong-willed child and she's winning the battle. before I felt like I didn't know what to do with the child beforehand, before things got out of hand. I think he gave me the tools to correct her and to give her warnings and then to discipline. the most helpful part was the warning that if you do this, this is what's going to happen. with the positive parenting they always focused on ME counting to ten and ME as the parent walking away or Me as the parent doing something about myself when I don't feel like I'm the one that's the strong-willed person here. I'm the grown-up and the child needs to listen.! I feell like the positive movement takes away my power and dr. Dobson in this book helps me to regain that power. It says I am not crazy. but I'm dealing with a child that needs me to be sane.there were so many times when I would just explode because I couldn't handle it anymore. I couldn't even measure or notice my anger rise until she would do something deliberately disrespectful. and in those moments I had no idea how to control myself. in the last three days since listening to this book, I have had zero of those moments. when the thermometer spiked up on my anger with her, I knew exactly how to handle it. and really there weren't any of those spikes because I had given her her warning and I told her what I expected of her and if she did it she expected something to happen. The look on her face diffused me. I was almost prepared for it. the preparation helped keep those spikes of anger at a minimum. that is how I had self-control. because I watched and I waited for her to deliberately disobey and she did. it was no longer an uncontrolled fit of anger or rage and sobbing afterwards because I lost control of myself;, in the last three days, my experiences have been: " now let me see if she's going to do it", and then my reactions are calculated. that's the best thing I can say about this book. It gave me control by forcing me to Warn, Wait and Waatch

Awesome

whether you think you have a strong-willed Child or not, I recommend it for any parent. Just a lot of good advice.

Christian child rearing that involves some spanking

I thought it is a great read. We were and maybe still partially are anti-spanking in our home. The book was very helpful with our strong willed 4 almost 5 yr old. I liked the section talking about taking emotion out and spanking before the parent gets mad. I would agree that I would rather my son be spanked than me loosing my mind and verbally abusing him. I am using the trapezius squeeze that he describes in the book when it comes to a direct defiance. No emotion from me, no yelling, just a little squeeze. It reminds me of dog training which the author compares childrearing too. So you can find that interesting, humorous, or offensive?!? I do believe it has wonderful points and I’m soaking it all in still. I definitely think it will be held in my repertoire of tools for some time. Thank you

Religion and hitting based

Many religious references. Also many stories involving hitting a child which has been proven to affect their mental development. NOT an approach that is successful for a strong willed child.

Some direction for parents

There is something in this book that can help any parent, of any child, of any age.

Very helpful!

The interview with the moms of strong-willed children was very helpful. I've recommended this book to many of my friends. Every child has a strong will in some senses, but some are truly more challenging and Dr. Dobson offers sound advice for us as parents.

I wish I read the reviews before buying

Although I am open to different perspectives on discipline, spanking is a non-starter for me. my roots are deep in attachment approach and spanking for me doesn't sit well.

Nope nope nope

Short summary- corporal punishment and prayer. Not for this family. Won’t recommend at all. Nope

Advocates smacking and prayer

I mistakenly purchased this, thinking was another book with a similar title. This book advocates smacking/spanking and laying hands on your child and praying away the bad, instead of offering any real solutions. "Spanking with love" is still spanking and still meets the legal definition of abuse.

A game changer for my home

Wow, I have read a lot about strong willed children, but this book aced it!! The hopelessnes and despair when dealing with a child that just seems to defy everything that's being said for their own good is gone. it has turned to hope, confidence and courage. I'm at rest now. Thank you for this. Already we are having good progress.