The Mystery Method

Publisher's Summary

"One of the most admired men in the world of seduction" ( The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract, and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women.

For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world's greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world's most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss' New York Times best-selling expose The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.

He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps".

His tips include:

Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.

Always approach a target within three seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.

Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.

Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.

©2007 Erik Von Markovik and Chris Odom (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.

Critic Reviews

"One thing is clear: [Mystery is] good at what he does. You'll laugh, you'll scoff, but in the end, you'll probably learn something." ( Publishers Weekly)
"Von Markovik knows what he's talking about." ( Library Journal)
"[Mystery] has single-handedly invented much of the jargon and tactics that men around the world are using to meet women." ( The New York Times)

Extract the elements you need. Ignore the rest.

Listen to the sample to determine if you'll have a problem with the narrator--I didn't mind his tone at all. He's a narrator, reading, and simply passing info on to me.

As for the content, it was either EXACTLY what I needed, or it was taught in a very convincing way. I, like many others, am rather put-off by the gimmicky games and condescending attitude toward women. So I disregarded that fluff. But there is tons of material that I GREATLY appreciated--How to open a conversation with multiple women...cold, how to stimulate their *emotions* and not fall into banal chatter, how to win the respect of your "target's" friends first, how to entertain and engage a woman or women in conversation regardless of your intentions, what indicators of interest to watch for, how to ask for contact info, etc.

I've read The Game and listened to this audiobook twice, and started to "get it." True story: I knew something was changing in me when I was with friends at a bar, saw three cute ladies (about 10 yrs younger than me) talking amongst themselves. I left my friends and started a conversation with all three of them. (One of my friends pulled me aside and said, "What are you DOING?") My opener was a true, honest topic that I composed a few minutes before speaking with them--and they were VERY interested in responding with their opinions. Two hours later, I had the email address of the cutest one of the bunch. :-) For me, this was UNREAL.

24 of 27 people found this review helpful

time

If you desire women badly, then taking the time to read and execute, will certainly pay off.

10 of 11 people found this review helpful

How to win flesh and influence women

Women don't understand themselves, yet the demand of 'understanding them' is placed on the men who would pursue them. This has always been the difficulty. Though I have been out of the dating game for a long time, I found this information very useful into how women react to certain techniques. Yes, this centers around dating but one can easily apply it to a workplace dynamic. I do not think it applies that well to marriage because if you play these games with a wife, she will just think you're an A hole. A few of the early reviews said they disliked the narrator. Did we listen to the same audiobook? This narrator is spot-on.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

wow i'm prepared

This was a great book to hear. The speaker really gets into the material. I would recommend this book to anyone that has trouble introducing them self's to people. Even if your married. This is about 3 hours dating advice and 4 hours of how to pure network and meet people. I use this book info at both the local bar and when i go to real estate conferences to introduce my self to groups and sets. This is amazing book of facts and techniques, for dating and picking up a SO.

8 of 9 people found this review helpful

Great Information and Techniques

What did you love best about The Mystery Method?

The content you can learn in here is invaluable

What aspect of Alan Sklar’s performance would you have changed?

Over the top characterization. I would've love it if Mystery read this

Any additional comments?

Stick it out, you'll get used to the stupid narrator in 20 mins or so. The content is too powerful to get hung up on his annoying voice and intonation.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

Narrator ruins it

I totally agree with the other review--the narrator totally ruins this audiobook. I'm trying to think of how to describe his tone--it's somewhat a cross between condescending, patronizing. Almost like I was getting the used car salesman schtick.

I have both the hardcopy and audiobook; the audio so I could listen to while travelling.. and I have to say that I don't look forward to listening to it.

Mystery is "The Man" when it comes to this stuff, and his writing is good--seeing him in field is incredible. Why Mystery didn't narrate his own book is beyond me.

So yes this is a worth read, especially if you want to learn more about the MM, M3 model, etc. But get/read the book instead. Trust me, the narrator is horrible.

12 of 15 people found this review helpful

Get ready to take notes

I didn't want to get this book at first because I've read The Game, and it makes Mystery's method sound very gimmicky. Well, it is gimmicky but there are a lot of good ideas in it. Sometimes you just have to interpret the theories and their explanations to get the most value out of it.

I agree and disagree with the other reviews regarding the narrator. He hams it up quite a bit, but he does a good job of sounding like he knows and practices the material. It helps to have someone being a little cocky when they're telling you how to pickup women like a rockstar, because that's the kind of attitude you should have when using the method.

Overall great book.

8 of 10 people found this review helpful

The narrator is good!

There are so many comments here about the narrater that I almost didn't download MM. I am glad I did. If you want subtle narration, go to the history section. This audio wouldn't work without a little license from the narrator. The content and delivery are entertaining. If you are so uptight that this narrator really bugs you, then MM is definitely not for you; which is good for the rest of us. If you'll escuse me, I need to go work on my game and peacock a little.

4 of 5 people found this review helpful

Interesting to Listen to as a Woman

I decided before I re-enter the "dating" world at 45, I'd like a peek into a man's mind of what he's thinking when he's practicing his "game" out in the "field". This book has given me great laughs and some intereting tips to share with my good friends on how to enjoy the dating game. I recommend it as a light listen to women who want to know more about possibly why they are attracted to certain men, and not others. This book is not intended for women - but if the "game" is about catching me, as a woman I want to know the rules you think I'll play by. Very interesting - don't agree with it all, but a real eye opener.

17 of 24 people found this review helpful

Great information

Incredible book on social dynamics and how to create attraction. You WILL learn a lot from this book that you did not know and also stuff that you did know but sort of looked over. Great Stuff!

2 of 3 people found this review helpful