The Gap and the Gain

The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

By: Dan Sullivan, Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Narrated by: Dan Sullivan, Dr. Benjamin Hardy

As he did in Who Not How, Dr. Benjamin Hardy shares one of Dan Sullivan's simple yet profound teachings that until now has been known only to his Strategic Coach clients: unsuccessful people focus on "The Gap", but successful people focus on "The Gain".

"[T]his one simple concept is a masterclass on positive psychology, healthy relationships, mental well-being, and high-performance. Everything that psychologists know about how to create a high-functioning and successful person can be achieved using The GAP and the GAIN." (Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

Most people, especially highly ambitious people, are unhappy because of how they measure their progress. We all have an "ideal", a moving target that is always out of reach. When we measure ourselves against that ideal, we're in "the gap". However, when we measure ourselves against our previous selves, we're in "the gain".

That is where the gap and the gain concept comes in. It was developed by legendary entrepreneur coach Dan Sullivan and is based on his work with tens of thousands of successful entrepreneurs. When Dan's coaching clients periodically take stock of all that they've accomplished - both personally and professionally - they are often shocked at how much they have actually achieved. They weren't able to appreciate their progress because no matter how much they were getting done, they were usually measuring themselves against their ideals or goals.

In this book you will learn that measuring your current self vs. your former self has enormous psychological benefits. And that's really the key to this deceptively simple yet multilayered concept that will have you feeling good, feeling grateful, and feeling like you are making progress even when times are tough, which will in turn will bolster motivation, confidence, and future success.

If you're finding that happiness eludes you no matter how much you've achieved, then learning this easy mindset shift will set you on a life-changing path to greater fulfillment and success.

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Good ideas but need to edit

The book itself had great insight but they really need to edit out all of the “umm”, “uh”, and “you know”! In their conversation they must’ve said “you know” hundreds of times! Very distracting! Especially for someone that has a podcast - I can’t imagine ever listening to it just because of the annoying fillers.

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Are you an overachiever yet can never feel satisfied with your success? Do you downplay your daily wins as 'no big deal' because you are stuck on the next big goal? Whether you in know it or not this energy emits into every crevice of your life and is most likely doing more harm than good...and it is projected on the people you love most...

The Gap and The Gain is based on Dan Sullivan’s 30+ years of Coaching High Level Men & Women to not only produce more results but do it with less effort, and more joy. If you are stuck in the pattern of never enjoying the success because you're too busy moving to your next Milestone this book is for you...


I've paid to be a member in Strategic Coach Program to learn the concepts in this book. The program has shifted my mindset in business and life. This Audiobook takes the same concepts and distills it into a 5-hour Program as if you were sitting in 1 Day Strategic Coach Workshop.

Recharge your mental batteries daily

Admittedly, almost everything I read is on growth, mindset, and improving. It recharges my batteries. I love the advice on tangible techniques that focus you to visualize today's wins and the quick written note identifying your 3 more wins tomorrow. Also, life’s many setbacks aren’t what they appear in the moment, they are profound learning opportunities that shape you. Simplicity and desire enable habits that step you to where you want to be. My thoughts-You recharge your mobile phone every night so why not recharge your mental batteries? I wasn’t done with the book before I started recommending it.

Probably the best book I’ve ever read!

This book should be read by everyone especially our children. These are things they don’t teach in school but these are life lessons that can literally change your life. I’m a coach and I’m encouraging all of my students to read this book. Thank you so much for taking the time to write it Dan and Benjamin!!

Mind-blowing

This book has changed the way I live and has set me on a path to achieve my mission.

One of the best out there!!

This is almost better than the book, because the interviews with Dan make it awesome!!

Oh, I needed this!

Went to a health coaching retreat with my wife and this one of two books we were supposed to read before we got there...of course I didn't read it. Anyway, I started listening to it during my morning beach runs while there and this book is AMAZING. I used the bookmark button heavily and just finished going through those and putting notes in my phone. Short, to the point, useful book!

A must read for business and life

This is a book for business people but really can ne applied across life.

life-changing steps

one of the best books on how to find Jeremiah 17:5-8 blessings and curses and how you live life. it is expanded accelerated my pursuit of living in the game. or as a scripture says a blessed life.

What an amazing resource

What an easy read full of fascinating research and perspective. I’ve picked up a few tools I plan to use for the rest of my life. Thank you!