The Buddha and the Borderline

My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, and Online Dating
Narrated by: Carla Mercer-Meyer
Length: 10 hrs and 26 mins
4.7 out of 5 stars (242 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Kiera Van Gelder's first suicide attempt at the age of 12 marked the onset of her struggles with drug addiction, depression, post-traumatic stress, self-harm, and chaotic romantic relationships - all of which eventually led to doctors' belated diagnosis of borderline personality disorder 20 years later.

The Buddha and the Borderline is a window into this mysterious and debilitating condition, an unblinking portrayal of one woman's fight against the emotional devastation of borderline personality disorder. This haunting, intimate memoir chronicles both the devastating period that led to Kiera's eventual diagnosis and her inspirational recovery through therapy, Buddhist spirituality, and a few online dates gone wrong. Kiera's story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential listening for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live.

©2010 Kiera Van Gelder (P)2017 Post Hypnotic Press Inc.

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Clarity for a parent

As the parent of a 14 year old with BPD. Kiera gave me a clear picture of whats going on inside my daughter and the hope DBT therapy may help! As well its opened my eyes on how to listen in a different way. Fingers crossed for my daughter and for Kiera.

Thank you Kiera my heart is with you as well.

R's Dad

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useful book

So much useful information in the first three quarters of the book. The last bit goes way off track.

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Realistic

I have BPD and wow. The author seemed to have very low functioning BPD which I think really highlighted the internal struggle that people with this condition go through. At times, the story did move a bit slowly but I quite enjoyed the book and loved that the ending was optimistic but not unrealistic. Great memoir.

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The best book on BPD i have read

A movie should be made out of this book. I love love love the book. The story is so well written with so much honesty and openness. The content and all the info shared in the book is ever so helpful. Really well done to you Kiera Van Gelder.

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Loved it! Saw myself in this book, and a unique opportunity for healing as well.

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thank you for this book!!!!

it only took me a few days to hear this book. very moving and inspiring. thank you so much Kiera!!!

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Excellent introduction and extremely well written

Such raw honesty with vivid details to really connect with readers, this book is a gift.

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Borderline personality disorder exemplified!

Cudos to the author! Great story. Entertaining and educational. A MUST read for anyone effected with borderline personality disorder.

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I was diagnosed

I was hospitalized and diagnosed in the hospital. When I came out I saw this book online doing research for myself so I bought it softcover and followed along while listening on here. It helped me a lot coming to rearms with bit all. Thank you

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Lots of questions to start off. Through the book most were answered, all but the ones I need to ask myself. Is living with serenity and being translucent to myself worth it? My recommendation read this book. You’ll possibly learn what the read experienced and be able to identify your own answered to the issues you have or someone you know are dealing with.

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  • 02-04-20

fellow Bordeline

wow raw truth and I loved the way at the end you show your not healed but we manage and can continue to manage recognize and move on and grow. wicked book !

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  • 10-29-17

Validating and inspiring.

Very validating to hear that somebody else has had similar experiences too me, some such minor details that ring so true. Has inspired me to visit my local Buddhist centre.

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  • 09-10-18

This was okay, but it got quite repetitive

Lost interest about half way through as it just seemed to repeat itself. Shows the real struggle and a failed healthcare system, but wish it was more of a journey how she had come on and more of a positive spin on things

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  • bunny_girl
  • 02-25-18

Inspiring

I LOVED this book! I could relate to it on an intrinsic level and found it insightful and inspiring. I’d give it 10 stars if I could!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-01-17

Empowering!

I loved this audible book! I was interested in DBT and came across it. The title had me curious, the sample had me hooked. It's so descriptive open and honest I could relate to the behaviours, the processes and the journey. The narration and speed of the read seemed fitting for the borderline mind. I think that therapists would find this insightful and people who have wondered and reflected about their personalities and partners too would find this enlightening. An ongoing process. Felt really positive and a great listen.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-23-20

Perfect

I loved how this was written, the way it sounded like poetry and how I was able to visualise everything. Thank you Kiera for sharing your story I would recommend anyone struggling to understand bpd to listen to this book

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  • Barbara
  • 03-27-20

Relatable

Honestly being the first book I've read about the BPD disorder, I was a little worried about how I may receive it, being that I too have BPD. However, listening to this story made me realise how lucky I am to have been diagnosed at 23 years old. It also helped me realise that everyone suffers differently, but that we all share the same symptoms. I no longer feel so alone in my battles.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-10-19

Rapid ending

I was gripped from the start, but it felt rushed at the end unfortunately. As a borderline this was quite frustrating, I was hoping for more answers than the literal title of the book.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-29-18

Lifesaver

This book helped me in such a dark time. So different to other books I have read on the disorder. Felt like she was reading from my journal and was very funny at times too!

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  • 12-06-18

BPD Guide

Narrator was excellent. The book helped me feel like I wasn't alone in my journey through BPD, that the things I fear and struggle with were the same as others. Gave me a greater understand of my emotions.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-24-18

Very relatable on some parts

I really enjoyed this book. Don’t be put off from part of the title “online dating” as I originally was- it’s just about her way back into dating, not about online dating itself. Hard to relate to the buddisim side of things with wording that I did not understand due to not practising Buddhism Though really enjoyed her story, helped me to realise I need a support group in DBT which I’m due to start soon- so thank you xx