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If you think you need to change your marriage, think again. It may well be that your marriage is trying to change you. In Secrets of a Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch shares a revolutionary approach thousands have used to take their relationships to new and lasting heights of sexual ecstasy and intimacy. Emotionally committed relationships, he teaches, are people-growing machines, and sexual difficulty and other challenges are actually signs of a healthy, maturing relationship. Moving beyond traditional therapies that work a little bit, Dr. Schnarch brings straight talk and humor to his three decades of expertise and offers insights into:

  • Emotional gridlock - why this critical phase is necessary for the healthy evolution of all relationships
  • How to "self-soothe" your anxieties and open to the full range of human eroticism
  • The psychology of sex - how to make an ally out of what you're really thinking during sex, and much more

With many proven exercises to "electrify" your sex life, heighten passion, and renew commitment, Secrets of a Passionate Marriage is sure to help your relationship reach its full potential, both in and out of bed.

©2007 David Schnarch (P)2007 David Schnarch

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This is NOT the book. This is a 2.5ish hour talk!

It's mostly the concepts in book but it's just a talk, not the actual book. I think the actual book might be too hard to listen to in b/c it's really dense but I really dislike that this was falsely advertised with almos the exact same name as the book.

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The best marriage book ever written

On the face of it, Dr. Schnarch's Passionate Marriage approach (especially the part where he connects sex therapy to marital therapy) is philosophical, complicated, fluffy, and unclear. There is no step by step training in communication or negotiation. There is now teaching on understanding the differences between men and women. There's just a topography of what the lay of the land really looks like and some clues on how to get there. The prize at the bottom of the Cracker Jack box is not just great sex, or a great marriage, but discovering that what one has within themselves is a great self and that marriage is the dojo wherein that person grows and develops into all that God intended them to be. In reality it's a profoundly simple approach, that is also very very difficult to pull off, but well worth the effort and sacrifice. I imagine that most people won't have the courage to go there but I hope that I can and will. No pain, no gain; no thorns, no throne; no gall, no glory; no cross, no crown.

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Here's my issue with this recording...

This was not a book. It was a lecture.. a rambling lecture. It was like a stream of conscious thought.

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Good book, less than good production value

This was a great book. It was pretty annoying to hear the engineers/production staff snickering in the background when the author said something funny. It felt like I was being spied on while listening.

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A good companion to Passionate Marriage

What made the experience of listening to Secrets of a Passionate Marriage the most enjoyable?

The author presented a good overview of his book of the same title.

What other book might you compare Secrets of a Passionate Marriage to and why?

This is not an audio version of the book, but it offers a broader perspective to its content.

Which character – as performed by David Schnarch – was your favorite?

Himself

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

The idea that our hunger for intimacy in my marriage can lead us to grow in our love and knowledge of each each other in profound dimensions.

Any additional comments?

Listeners still need to read the book. I was hoping this would include more of its content. I read the book a a few years ago, and I hoped an audio book would make it easier to share it with my wife. Car travel presents a good opportunity in this regard.

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Not actually the book

This is not actually the book. It’s the author at a speaking event talking about the book. You only get a summary. If you’re interested in this book get the physical book.

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Great overview for couples needing big changes

Really interesting take on holding on to your self in a marriage and disconnecting from emotional entanglement.
If more people could implement these principles of self care/soothing /calm and honesty... There would be happier relationships.

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This is a life raft

I listened to this book today and it was like a healing balm. Now it's time to share it with my husband. Thank you hardly seems enough

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Must read for singles & coiples alike...

Takes you on a much needed at least these days ride through healthy exchange of disagreements and copaceticly expressing your thoughts and desires.

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Required reading for all people trying to find strength to love well

The author is a combo between Parker Palmer and Henry Cloud: clear instructions for growth whilst nurturing the inner journey. This book challenges our modern "me first" approach to couples therapy and unearths marriage's most basic, universal, and pragmatic foundations. Do yourself (and your partner) a favor and listen up!

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  • Abosh
  • 06-12-21

Outstanding

As powerful as the book, more accessible. Nuggets of pure gold in every chapter. Highly recommend.

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  • Avani
  • 01-12-17

A daring approach to relationship growth

This book gave me a fresh new perspective on conflict, communication, sex and self development and How it's all connected. The biggest ahah I got was ...the biggest mistake we can make is avoiding conflict because we can use it to learn how to manage our own anxieties instead of needing our partner to sooth us, this setting them free and this can create fundamental change. Keeping the peace is actually risking the future of our relationship.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-26-20

Life changing!

David Schnarch is changing my life. I was initially disappointed that this wasn’t the whole book, but honestly, this is a very substantial and highly impactful edited version, which is more than enough to get you started with the Passionate Marriage Approach. Schnarch’s clear, welcoming, and witty voice is such a gift. I recommend this audiobook to anyone who has ever been/will ever be in an intimate relationship. RIP David, you have helped so many.

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  • Daniel Stephenson
  • 09-16-20

This is not the book

I should have taken more time to read the description and was disappointed to realise this is not the Passionate Marriage book. It contains some valuable information but it's very brief and basically an overview of the book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-06-18

Great informative books k

Loved it, different insight on marriage and relationship in general. Only thing I didn't like was the narrators voice is hard to listen to

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-11-18

Awesome book

What an amazing book to listen too! Can not wait to share this with my friends!! Definitely 5 stars!!!

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  • Cherie
  • 08-18-18

Truly life changing material

Loved this book - should be a must read for every couple if they want to transcend their relationship with not just their partner but themselves as well.