People Pleaser

Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations

De: Jinger Vuolo, Julie Lyles Carr - contributor

Narrado por: Jinger Vuolo

Read by the author.

Are you a people pleaser? Can you even begin to measure how the approval of others has shaped your heart and mind? Your faith and relationships? Your habits and identity? In People Pleaser, New York Times bestselling author Jinger Vuolo shares her personal journey of constantly seeking approval from others and how she found her true identity.

From childhood to early adulthood, Jinger Duggar Vuolo followed the expectations of others, never taking the time to discover who she truly was. It wasn't until she asked herself the question, "Who am I?" that she realized she was a people pleaser. This realization led her on a journey of self-discovery and ultimately, to rely on God for her approval and sense of self-worth.

Through her faith and reliance on God, Jinger began to break free from the need for approval and discover true freedom. This book is a guide for anyone struggling with people-pleasing tendencies and seeking to find their true identity and purpose in life. Learn how to:

• discover the beauty of community and how we were made to enjoy others,
• identify sin and how it can hinder your ability to be in community with one another,
• diagnose yourself with ruthless honesty but without judgement, and
• understand who you are in God's eyes.

Jinger hopes this book will inspire others to embark on a similar journey towards freedom.

©2025 Jinger Vuolo (P)2025 Thomas Nelson

A book that speaks truth in to what God what's us to see about The sanctification process of becoming who he's called us to be

This book has helped me to realize the areas I struggle in with Regarding my people pleasing it also helped me to remove any negative thoughts I have regarding people pleasing and the confidence to give it over to God and allow him to do his finished work in me

Self help book

Update: went back with a fresh expectation and the book was good. As a people pleaser myself, she has some great points. Just don’t expect it to be like previous memoirs and you will enjoy it.

Have really enjoyed Jinger’s past books that told some of her story. This isn’t that. This is her trying to write in the self-help genre with a Christian emphasis. The principle behind it is fine if that’s what you’re expecting. I didn’t love that she’s portraying herself as an expert in the field. Couldn’t finish the book. Love Jinger but this one fell flat.

The HOW to working on people pleasing

Jinger's willingness to share her heart comes through. You can hear her honesty and openness in sharing and doing what God/Father has shared through His word. From one people pleaser to another, thank you for sharing your heart.

A wonderful read!

This book was very eye-opening in so many ways. Jinger did and awesome job reading! it was very engaging and moving.

Excellent biblically sound book

Jinger does an amazing job at helping you realize what it means to be a good people pleaser and a bad people pleaser her scripture references really help bring out the differences and what we should strive to be to be better people

Nice lesson

I am a people pleaser. Not to the extent that is mentioned in the book but it was still a good lesson and good to think about. worth the time.

Great book

This was a great listen, Jinger did a great job reading this and I learned so much about myself. I highly recommend this book!!

Excellent!

I love this book! I heard Jinger on the Alley Beth Stuckey podcast recently and knew I had to listen to it. I believe this book was cathartic for her as she has to wrestle with her strict religious upbringing in the public eye, to where she is now, enjoying her freedom in Christ alone. SDG! She has had to learn how to deal with not only the public (and paparazzi) but her church community in a healthy way. I like the questions at the end of the chapters and it had me thinking of ways that I can ask God to help me not to perform, or people please wrongly, but to seek authentic community. I am a pastors wife and this hits home for me. I like what she says about “trading down” earlier in the book thinking thru the story of Jacob and Esau. I hope to listen to it again, thank you for this great book!

Love her heart

This book is well written. So kind and helpful. I love that she does her own reading

Love it!

I really enjoyed this book! I wouldn’t say I am a people pleaser. I will say there were a lot of Biblical nuggets in here! I even had a revelation about how Jesus not only took our sin, He also took the punishment for our sin. I’ve heard this my whole life. However, hearing it in this book it really clicked! I would say I have the anxiety Jinger had about people coming over to my home. Hearing how she navigated that & her TJ Maxx story was really reassuring to me!