Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want

By: Jack Ito Ph.D.

Narrated by: Scott Ellis

Length: 9 hrs and 12 mins

Publisher's summary

Less needy means more attractive!

Are you always trying to make your relationship better, but somehow, only make your partner upset? Now, you can put an end to your frustration and get the love you want more easily.

This guide takes the struggle out of overcoming neediness. Using clear examples and down-to-earth explanations, you will quickly begin to experience closer relationships. And by overcoming neediness, you will become more confident and attractive.

For more than two decades, Jack Ito, PhD, has coached thousands of men and women to rescue and rebuild their relationships in the wake of relationship disasters, including affairs, psychological problems, addictions, and total loss of love by one partner. In this groundbreaking book, he uses effective communication techniques to help you turn any marital conflict situation into an opportunity for emotional connection.

Dr. Ito's methods for building connection are empowering. In this book, he covers the behaviors that needy people have which drive partners out the door or into the arms of someone else. If you find yourself putting a lot of effort into fixing your relationship, only to make things worse, this audiobook is for you.

Listeners will be encouraged to find that for every damaging behavior they have, there is a positive, secure behavior that they can substitute. By switching to a more secure way of relating, listeners will become more attractive and be able to have long-term, satisfying relationships that are less work for them and less work for their partners.

This audiobook also includes a chapter on how to help your partner overcome neediness. You can give that chapter to your partner to use to help you. Or, you can use it to help your partner overcome neediness as well. There are few things more satisfying than a loving relationship between two secure partners.

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This book really helped me overcome my neediness.

I will definitely refer back to this book in the future as to not revert back to the needy me. I have already reread a few chapters.

Like the Book Was Written for Me

I have just finished this book and it is like I was the model on which Dr. Ito wrote this book. I have never been more spoken to by an author. It is like the blinders were pulled off my eyes and I was shown how much I work I have ahead of me. Fortunately Dr. Ito gives concrete examples of what work needs to be done, and how to go about doing it. While I may not be able to save my relationship, I know that I will be a better person for applying the principles outlined in this book and I can accept that my if my partner is happiest without me, then I need to let them go because to be truly loving I must (to paraphrase the author) "be more committed to the happiness of the person I love, than the marriage that we are in."

Life-changing and Vital Guidance

This is one of those handful of books in one's life that are the true game-changing gems. Listening to the audio book on the road made completing it fun and easy.

Very helpful!! Self awareness

Listened to this after “The Empowered Wife” by Laura Doyle, also helpful in a similar way.
Creates important self awareness without directly engaging your partner in the changes.
Helps realize the damage that even the smallest insecure behaviors can cause.
The Christian aspect was not the main theme, made a few appearances not central to this book.
Highly recommended for those with anxious attachment in a big or small way.

Blunt and love it

I needed this. It is very helpful. I will relisten and take notes as I do this time. I think I can use a lot of this to become secure.

Amazing book

Eye opening book made me see how I damaged my relationship trough out the year by being needy. Hopefully I can fix this bad behavior and be a better secure person.

Practical advice for right now

I appreciated this guide and would recommend it to anyone who is looking for better relationships.

Great book!

My needy partner refuses to use any helpful tools. I, however, try everything possible. This is a great book! Whether you’re the needy one, or the confident one.

Wake up to a better life

Excellent book, powerful topic. This author, this book will help you become more loving, and more lovable.

Bible of relationship

Honestly the best book on the subject I ever read. And I read quite a few. Very helpful, very clear and exact steps for achieving better relationships. Specially with yourself
Thank you to the author