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Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research - and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction - this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.

©2001 Patrick J. Carnes, PhD (P)2016 Recorded Books

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This is a good book. I have struggled with fetishes and porn and wanted help. The issue is while I felt like I couldn't relate to other books wherein the person struggled with masturbating once per week (seemed minor compared to my problems) I found I couldn't relate to this book for the exact opposite reason. The examples and illustrations are oriented for the extremely advanced sex addict. This book is geared towards not just child molesters and rapists but to those who do it non stop for years. This book contains the stuff nightmares are made of. Don't even think about it if you have a weak stomach.

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expertly explains sex addiction

I am so glad I bought this book because it is giving me so much Insight on my husband's disease and how I contribute to it also how I'm codependent. I remember listening to one of the chapters and I just ended up bawling crying because of all the compassion I felt for my husband and his struggle. this book has been a turning point for me

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  • 05-06-16

Makes you think

This book allowed me to evaluate the events in my life and commit to getting what I need.

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Great book!

This book hits all the major points for the recovery of every addict. Chances are that if you read this book and your an addict, you will see yourself in this book multiple times.

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Helpful and eye opening.

Great book. Thorough, deep, and inclusive of a variety of ills and problems, the inner workings of addicts, and how to overcome.

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Content was disturbing

This book likely presents sex addiction in true light, but the content was too disturbing for me and sometimes caused too many graphic images. I chose to stop listening after a few chapters and thought that this book may be triggering for a sex addict.

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Good but

I regret too much time is dedicated to descriptive side of addiction and too few on the dynamic. I also think addiction is not only for persons with lack of self love

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gives significant understanding to sexual addition

I'm glad I read this book. it has opened much mind to the world of sexual addiction.

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Too graphic, not practical

I read this book to better help others with addictions. however the book goes into so much detail with events like rape and incest, it disgust me. You can learn about addiction without that

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work the steps, they work

this book will help those only that really want help. first get mental health help. like seeing a doctor for your physical. then work the steps because you will love yourself once again!!!

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  • 07-06-18

For the sex addict, this is great

There are too many evaluations of addicts from outsider perspectives that lack the comprehensive and compassionate focused approach towards sex addiction which this book is so very fortunate to have at its heart. I was recommended this from a fellowship member, and it had truly enlightened me to feel less alone and inclined to take the 12 step program more seriously. This is a hidden gem, and I’d recommend it to anyone with sex addiction/ or who are wondering if they are a co-addict. Thank you David Colacci.

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  • 06-28-18

Informative and challenging

This book has been insightful through it's use of numerous case studies to explain the process of sexual addiction. I found it personally challenging and illuminating. Bring an open heart, a notepad and a trusted friend to talk to as you read this book. Highly recommend.