I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Third Edition

Understanding the Borderline Personality

By: Jerold J. Kreisman, Hal Straus

Narrated by: Kevin R. Free

The revised and expanded third edition of the bestselling guide to understanding borderline personality disorder—with advice for communicating with and helping the borderline individuals in your life.


After more than three decades as the essential guide to borderline personality disorder (BPD), the third edition of I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me now reflects the most up-to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder, as well as connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, post-traumatic stress syndrome, ADHD, and eating disorders.

Both pharmacological and psychotherapeutic advancements point to real hope for success in the treatment and understanding of BPD.

This expanded and revised edition is an invaluable resource for those diagnosed with BPD and their family, friends, and colleagues, as well as professionals and students in the field, and the practical tools and advice are easy to understand and use in your day-to-day interactions with the borderline individuals in your life.


* This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF with a resource guide from the book.

Best Review and Approach to BPD

Both from the lay person view and clinical application, this is a must read to understand the world according to the BPD sufferer. It is written in a manner that encompasses the definition, identification, approach, and clinical application. If you are suffering from BPD, some parts may be triggering

Very relatable

Recommend to me by my therapist in learning to deal with being with someone who has BPD. Very informative and relatable to how it was being in a relationship with someone with BPD.

Critical info on BPD for helping professionals!!

Critical info on BPD for helping professionals!! I was captivated and felt the information characterized - not demonized - individuals suffering from BPD. Highly recommend it to anyone curious about the disorder, recently diagnosed with BPD, or the friends and family seeking information.

Great psychological examination and understanding of BPD

I was married to a borderliner for 20 years and this book has been scary how spot on it has explained much of the erratic behavior I had experienced in those 20 years.

Immensely helpful!

As a partner to a person with BPD, this book has been an eye opener and helps me understand what my partner is going through and how for me to be a better support to her journey.