• I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet

  • Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working
  • By: Shauna Niequist
  • Narrated by: Shauna Niequist
  • Length: 6 hrs and 21 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (434 ratings)

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I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet

By: Shauna Niequist
Narrated by: Shauna Niequist
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Publisher's Summary

Read by the author with an audio-exclusive interview of Shauna about her family's move to New York.

When everything we've been clinging to falls apart, how do we know what to keep and what to let go of? I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet, now a New York Times bestseller, is a clear-eyed look at where we go from here—and how we can transform our lives along the way.

Just after her fortieth birthday, author Shauna Niequist found herself in a season of chaos, change, and loss unlike anything she'd ever faced. She discovered that many of the beliefs and practices that she usually turned to were no longer serving her.

After trying—and failing—to pull herself back up using the same old strategies and systems, she realized she required new ones: courage, curiosity, and compassion. She discovered the way through was more about questions than answers, more about forgiveness than force, more about tenderness than trying hard.

In I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet, Niequist chronicles her journey—from her life-changing move from the Midwest to Manhattan to the power of unlearning what is no longer helpful and accepting the unknowns that come with midlife, heartbreak, and chronic pain.

With her characteristic candor and grace, Niequist writes about her experience learning how to:

  • Discover new ways of living when the old ways stop working
  • Embrace the challenges and delights of releasing our expectations for how we thought our lives would look
  • Trust God's goodness in a deeper, more profound way

Follow Niequist as she endeavors to understand grief, to reshape her faith, and to practice courage when it feels impossible.

Praise for I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet:

"Gentle. Loving. This tender book asks us to listen to our pain, lean into our discomfort, and trust that we can be lifted back on our feet by God and each other."

--Kate C. Bowler, New York Times bestselling author of No Cure for Being Human

"This book is a masterpiece. It is a journey and an invitation and a joy and a heartbreak and all the things you need to read to be reminded that hope can still be found."

--Annie F. Downs, New York Times bestselling author of That Sounds Fun

©2022 Shauna Niequist (P)2022 Zondervan

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It’s ok but feels unfinished

First, for review purposes, I bought the audible version of the book. The fact this author would not share the reason for her "dark days" makes this book seem less credible in my opinion. After an investigation, her father, the now former pastor of a mega church, was found to have sexually assaulted multiple women. This author went on stage and social media to defend him. She stated in her book the reason "was not her story to tell". But this would have given more meaning behind the fact she felt she had to leave her hometown and church. She clearly felt she don’t have to share this regardless of the fact this book needed a deeper story to give it real meaning and credibility. Calling these “dark days” and never addressing the actual struggles that came with the situation made this book feel unfinished, with no real take away into my life as the reader.

Besides these facts the first half of the book was good. She wrote beautiful words about her dark days and medical difficulties. It’s not truly a Christian book as Jesus is mentioned but that’s about as far as it goes, however that part didn’t bother me as it wasn’t needed since this book is really about the author. The second half felt repetitive. There were more than enough essays about meeting her neighbors on the lawn! I do not think I would recommend it to anyone I know.

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I’m kind of over it.

I really like all her previous books but this one made me question if she should go back and read her own advice. She seems to fall back into the same old habits that stress her out and cause anxiety in her life. She vague about a lot of experiences she write about in this book and to some extent it starts to feel like a lot of complaining. I truly like her books but this one felt like that friend who comes over asking for advice on the same life challenges but never learns.

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Disappointed

Hard to finish, Pollyanna. Here is the summary of this book, something aweful happens but the author can't share it but the sun comes out tomorrow. You have to move and sell all your junk to really feel alive again.

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Like therapy for the soul

As a fellow 40-something mom of boys, raised in the church, hurt at times by the church, navigating what I believe and what I’m re-thinking, lover of good food and cooking, and lover of NYC, this book was like therapy for the soul. It was affirming, challenging, and inspiring. Shauna’s storytelling is on point and unearths so much of daily life that often goes unnoticed and unappreciated. I am left excited to continue experiencing life in all the ways - the messy, the hard, the mundane and the delightful. Thank you Shauna for putting so much of my feelings about similar experiences into words. <3

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Absolutely incredible and exactly what I needed to hear

I cannot even begin to describe how incredible this book is! I listened to it all in one day, and am about to start listening to it a 2nd time. Listening to it is like salve for my soul. There are so many chapters in this book that are exactly what I needed to hear right now. I think this is my favorite Shauna Niequist book (which says a lot because Cold Tangerines and Bittersweet were tied for my all time favorite books)

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So good!

Shauna is a delight! She is authentic and relatable. I devoured this book in 2 days and think I will start it over again in case I missed something the first time!

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Amazing Writing & story telling

I love all of Shauna’s books so it was no surprise that this one was great as well. Her story telling, writing and descriptions are impeccable. I loved how relatable her stories are as well. Now I want a hard copy!

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Power Stories that helped me in many ways

This book is full of thoughtful touching and heartwarming stories of life. It helped me in my own midlife navigation. Highly recommend

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5 stars. Shauna Niequist is a voice we all need to hear, so much wisdom

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best yet of Shauna's writing

This book was surprising. The title doesn't describe just how raw, honest and wise these pages are. I felt a keen connection to her grief, the messy middle and yearning for calmer days. Shauna gives us hope in the hard and encouragement to all kinds of transitions.

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  • Christine
  • 05-11-22

Real deep hope

This book feels pastel. It’s not bright yellow or soft kitten grey, it’s somewhere in between. Real and rich, hope filled but not in a fake smile kind of way. It’s the kind of book you feel good about reading!

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  • Hayley
  • 08-23-22

Loved going on this journey with Shauna

I just wanted to keep listening. I loved every chapter, soaking in her wisdom, funny stories and life lessons. Such an encouraging read.