How to Talk to a Difficult, Narcissistic, or Toxic Parent (Without Being Pulled into Their Drama)

Transcend Mediocrity, Book 75

By: J.B. Snow

Narrated by: D Gaunt

Length: 32 mins

Publisher's summary

If you have downloaded this audiobook, it is likely that you are struggling to cope with a parent who is difficult. I have dealt with my share of difficult people, as well as the difficult people who my readers and listeners often seek my advice on. I hope that the knowledge that we have collected over the past four decades will help you with the difficult person in your life, and will hopefully encourage the difficult relationship toward some sort of sanity and peace.

Difficult parents and difficult people are everywhere. I estimate that there are far more than 30 percent of the population who have personality disorders and mental illness. Those who are actively seeking treatment are counted on the statistics by NIMH (the National Institute of Mental Health), but the numbers seem low in my personal opinion. Many of us know a large number of people who have mental illness problems or personality trait issues who were never diagnosed.

The truth is that many people with narcissistic personality disorder, OCPD, schizoid disorder, avoidant personality disorder, anti-social personality disorder, psychopathy, conduct disorder, intermittent explosive disorder, battered woman syndrome, paranoid personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and many others don't seek any type of diagnosis or treatment throughout their lives. This is particularly true with males and females who are negative perfectionists suffering from OCPD - rigidness, arrogance, and inflexibility. We often label people as being difficult, eccentric, and a myriad of other names, but we don't consider that they have a personality disorder underlying their terrible and unacceptable behaviors toward others.

Many of us come from families full of people who are exhibiting the various symptoms of personality disorders. Whether or not your family member has a "label" for their condition, they have learned, acquired or grown up with a dysfunctional way of relating to other people.

©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow

Concise

This audio is to the point. I can easily re-listen whenever I forget how to deal with my mom. I feel validated which means I can respond with compassion for myself first and then compassion for her instead of guilt, anger and frustration. It's been a long journey to realize the strange lies and torment a narc can provide to their children. I've had to feel worthy enough to hold my boundaries despite family anger toward me. Without the number one scapegoat, their lives were effected.

So bad.

Was this just copy/pasted/transcribed from the internet and then recorded by a robot? Seriously, this provides zero useful information and is like a basic overview of personality disorders. Plus the 30 min length comprises 9 min of credits and blank space at the end. This audible content is as close to fraud as it gets. Who’s reviewing content for audible? Nobody it seems.

Not very informative

Disappointed by lack of depth in content. Wordy...could have said the core message in three minutes. Complete waste of money.

Helpful

This book is Very helpful ! The author hits the nail on the head on difficult people!
Thanks!

Short Book

I expected a more entailed help book and although well written, the book was short.

Waste of time.

Did the content come from a workplace awareness poster? It is mostly a list of characteristics that any 5th grader could point out.

good book

i didnt realize how short it is!!!!! good info though just qll given quickly and. briefly. i feel o still dont k ow where to start

Not Recommended

The person speaking is very monotone. There is no expression. She is not telling you how to speak to or deal with a narcissistic parent. She is telling you the traits and what you may expect. Not a good book.

Narcissistic

Very helpful, I plan to listen to it until I have it memorized...maybe 6 times!

Very Helpful

I look forward to using these strategies. I have fone these on my own before reading about it but I was never consistent. I am going to be concise, congenial, consistent, and confident in all future contact with my toxic family member.
Thanks

Good content

Good content and helpful as a summary. Narrating voice sounds robotic though which I found off putting hence the 3 stars

Detailed and easy to understand

I would like to read more books from the author relate to this topic and explains those disordes that mentioned in here. Very good, helpful. Thank you

The content is not the same as the title.

What a waste of time! and money! It does not talk about dealing with people - rather describes people's possible problems.

Very Helpful

Fantastic tool kit for anyone affected by feelings of helplessness in dealing with difficult people. The only bit missing is clear examples of how to verbalise and putting the rules and tools into practice. For as far as I know myself it will be hard to find the right words next time I am confronted with mothers toxic behaviour.