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How to Be Miserable

40 Strategies You Already Use
Length: 5 hrs
4.5 out of 5 stars (679 ratings)
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Publisher's Summary

In How to Be Miserable, psychologist Randy Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits which - if followed - are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you may yet join the ranks of happy people everywhere!

There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how can you pinpoint the exact behaviors that cause you to be miserable in the first place? Sometimes when we're depressed, or just sad or unhappy, our instincts tell us to do the opposite of what we should - such as focusing on the negative, dwelling on what we can't change, isolating ourselves from friends and loved ones, eating junk food, or overindulging in alcohol. Sound familiar?

This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you - and only you - are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You'll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life - as well as ways to avoid them.

So, get ready to live the life you want (or not?). This fun, irreverent guide will light the way.

©2016 Randy J. Patterson (P)2016 Wetware Media

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A Delightful Kick In The Rear

I listened to this whole thing pretty much as fast as I could, and not just because of the genuinely charming narrator. The author does an excellent job of pointing out the best strategies for losing at life in a cheerful tongue-in-cheek style and with the backing of years of psychological experience and research.

There were moments when I cringed as some of the methods described hit a little too close to home, but these were also the best moments. After all, if I am the cause of some of my own misery, I am also the solution.

If, like me, you're someone who has struggled for years with mood disorders, this book won't cure you of any chemical imbalances or childhood traumas. It will, however, help you figure out how not to exacerbate these unavoidable troubles.

This book definitely gets my recommendation.

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Very worthwhile listen

Excellent insight into the ways we inadvertently make ourselves miserable, and how to avoid them (or continue if that's what you want).

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Helped me a lot with my mood.

The book is very easy to listen to. It is smart and funny and very much helpful

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Interesting

A somewhat unsettling look into a lot of the choices I make. Some parts were uncomfortable to listen to because it's like they were describing how I think / act, which I thought was unique to me. I have just listened through the whole book, and if nothing changes, I can say that this helped me be more aware of some of the harmful choices I make.

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If you are interested, buy it

It was exactly what I was looking for. The irony alone sells it, and it has a lot of practical advises. I totally recommend it.

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absolutely great

this book is so good.. smart and funny.. it will make you realize how often you beat yourself up and show you how to avoid them.. I highly recommend it

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If you are depressed this is 100% for you

most of the time our misery is our own fault.
good tempo easy to understand (i'm french)

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Humorous and Relatable Truths

From its beginning this relatble lityle book pokes fun at all the misert inducing behaviors we so often find ourselves doing. I found it both twlling and entertaining.

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  • 07-31-17

Funny and informative

In the interest of full disclosure I am generally rather sceptical of self help/ self improvement books. I was pleasantly surprised. This book quickly and with a lot of wit goes through a list of forty ways we tend to sabotage ourselves and make our lives far worse than they have to be. I recommend it both if you want to change and if you just want a laugh.

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First audio book. Great experience

Easy to get into. narrator does awesome job at conveying a lengthy list. Good content

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-03-17

Really helpful !

Loved it !! It really made me think about myself and what I do and made me realise that there are other ways of looking at certain situations.
It has helped me a lot so with that I would definitely say it's worth a listen !
In my opinion it is the last self help book you will ever need if understood and internalised correctly

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-09-17

Un-apologetic and utterly sarcastic

An endeavor towards improvement by means of constant contrasting in all 40 strategies. it is deliberately over-simplified to highlight the universal positions we take in life. It has hit home for me and it deserves further attention, It's so short and to the point I will be revisiting it. Dr. Randy J. Patterson uses a no holds barred and direct narration of his understanding, there is much to learn here.

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  • Aaron Forward
  • 06-05-17

Good

Nice look at happiness from the other side. Great way to see what to work on next. Will definitely read again.

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  • Francesco De Paoli
  • 06-01-17

A sarcastic and clever path towards awareness

An anti self-help book, or rather a book that cleverly show that rather than showing us how to reach happiness, redirect us towards minimising the ways we actively make our lives harder than they need to be: by sarcastically showing us in detail how to make ourselves miserable. Props to the hilariously serious narrator.

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  • Moh
  • 10-08-17

eye opening and fun.

a good book, professional information given in an entertaining style by a dedicated reader, would recommend.

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  • 12-15-17

Quirky fun and educational. Teaches and entertains

Littered with humour and sardonic, tongue in cheek amusing dirversions. It has a big impact both directly, by being entertaining and indirectly, by teaching you about the traps we get caught in.

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  • p v endacott
  • 02-21-19

How to be miserable? Listen to this

It’s a great idea and it caught my attention for the funny title. It’s meant to be an ironic look at how you are miserable and how to do something about it from the perspective of being happy and making yourself miserable. As we British know, Americans don’t understand irony, and it shows in the delivery of narration and possibly the way the whole book is read. I managed about an hour and a half then had to switch it off. It turns out I’m pretty happy anyway and not a manic depressive as the depths of the book seem to play to.

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  • S. Witton
  • 02-13-19

Topical, useful and amusing!

I came across this book at a hard place in my life. It showed me some painful truths, some happy insights, and a path to greater contentment.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-27-19

Great read with a nonconformist approach

Great read for an overview on the damaging thoughts and actions in our day2day life.

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  • Joe
  • 01-13-19

The most comprehensive and honest guide to mood

All about how your daily actions affect your overall mood. I’ve never heard a summary of how we create our own happiness or misery that is so easy to understand

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-12-17

Recommended

Loved it, title is true to its word, 40 strategies everyone definitely uses! Great to actively acknowledge and understand certain thoughts, actions and behaviors you unconsciously participate in. Easy and entertaining to listen to, great narrator.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-03-17

Each lesson is as relevant as the next! diverse!

diverse lessons each as important as the next. I've never used audible until I watched this guys video on youtube. I then borrowed this book and do not regret it! Onto the next!

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