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How to Be Married

What I Learned from Real Women on Five Continents About Surviving My First (Really Hard) Year of Marriage
By: Jo Piazza
Narrated by: Jo Piazza
Length: 9 hrs and 44 mins
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Everyone tells you marriage is hard, but no one tells you what to do about it.

At age 34 Jo Piazza got her romantic-comedy ending when she met the man of her dreams on a boat in the Galápagos Islands and was engaged three months later. But before long Jo found herself riddled with questions. How do you make a marriage work in a world where you no longer need to be married? How does an independent, strong-willed feminist become someone's partner - all the time?

In the tradition of writers such as Nora Ephron and Elizabeth Gilbert, award-winning journalist and nationally best-selling author Jo Piazza writes a provocative memoir of a real first year of marriage that will forever change the way we look at matrimony.

A travel editor constantly on the move, Jo journeys to 20 countries on five continents to figure out what modern marriage means. Throughout this stunning, funny, warm, and wise personal narrative, she gleans wisdom from matrilineal tribeswomen, French ladies who lunch, Orthodox Jewish moms, Swedish stay-at-home dads, polygamous warriors, and Dutch prostitutes.

Written with refreshing candor, elegant prose, astute reporting, and hilarious insight into the human psyche, How to Be Married offers an honest portrait of an utterly charming couple. When life throws more at them than they ever expected - a terrifying health diagnosis, sick parents to care for, unemployment - they ultimately create a fresh understanding of what it means to be equal partners during the good and bad times. Through their journey, they reveal a framework that will help the rest of us keep our marriages strong, from engagement into the newlywed years and beyond.

©2017 Jo Piazza (P)2017 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"Newlyweds and couples looking to jump-start a foundering relationship will find Piazza's analysis of marriage useful, amusing, and engaging." ( Kirkus)
"Whether she's finding hygge in Denmark or climbing Kilimanjaro, Piazza writes with candid honesty, wit, and humor. This quick-paced and relatable book will be immensely helpful for longtime and newly married people alike." ( Booklist)
"Piazza's insights for creating a successful marriage from the very beginning provides life-changing lessons for anyone getting married or considering marriage." (John Gray PhD, the number one New York Times best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

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Overall, this book passed the time easily. I thought the advice she got from different couples across the world was always very interesting, and enjoyed how she drew aspects of that advice into her own relationship. I did get a little annoyed at the narration, which felt very upper class, white, privileged-feminist, but that was more of a personality thing. At times, I felt like there was cultural appropriation going on which distracted me from what she was trying to say and I got hung up on it. At the same time I could tell she was trying to be sensitive to those issues and I appreciated her ability to ask questions and be candid in travel. Overall, I enjoyed it, and found the broad range of advice given very helpful and introspective.

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Must Read for Married (or soon-to-be) People.

This book is full of insightful tidbits. It left me feeling solidarity with all married people for the real, hard, wonderful and imperfection of marriage.

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Incredible book, learned a TON

This is not a manual.. Thank God!!! Great story. I feel like the author is an older sister I never had!! This book gave me the lowdown on what I could expect someday when I get marrie - How I can create a life and a marriage that fulfills me personally. Loved this book! Loved this book!!

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Loved it!

Great book for marriage and relationships. Highly recommend for anyone who wants a quick easy listening.

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Enjoyable read about marriage from others

What did you love best about How to Be Married?

The stories from other women around the world.

What did you like best about this story?

Her candidness.

Have you listened to any of Jo Piazza’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

I haven't.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

It made me think, laugh, and change my ways a little bit.

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Most candid book there is on marriage. I'm fascinated by other cultures around the world. I appreciate the different perspectives and insights about marriages from the research collected. The author really felt like a best friend when I heard the audiobook, she didn't hold back.

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Wonderful advice, like talking to your

well traveled friend and I loved it! I too didn't have good role models for marriage or family. I moved away from home long ago and somehow thought "my prince" was a messy fairytale trick. Then I met him in London on a trip and my world changed fast. I realized I had no idea how anything past a "boyfriend" material is supposed to be handled. Terrified my inner "warrior princess" that doesnt understand marriage could help me bungle this. I was nervous I was missing something and had no one to ask (embarrassing). This book was calming to me. I am not alone. The advice is priceless! Take it or leave it but the different views on age old problems is worth every minute.

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i love everything about this book. i could relate to more than half the stories in here and have taken some of the advice. trying something new has become a habit and way of life.

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anthropology and journalism

I loved Jo's writing style. I found her relatable while still inspiring. I appreciated her frankness on the topic.

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A good book for anyone in a relationship

I liked having the writer read her work but her voice was initially annoying. The content of the material was excellent though! very useful

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