Hold On to Your Kids

Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers

This parenting classic on one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time--peers replacing parents in the lives of children--is now more relevant than ever. The latest edition includes new material on how social media and video game culture are affecting our children, and what parents can do.

In Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Maté explore the phenomenon of peer orientation: the troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction--for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident--as do the solutions.

This book deserves 10,000 stars!

While I don’t believe this book is perfect, at times I thought the reasoning was winding and repetitive, the content is unmatched in its insight.

Never have I heard read anything about parenting that gave me such a clear sense of purpose of my own role and understanding into my children. The thing Neufeld writes rings so true. I remember feeling the exact things he talks about as a child.

This is not your typical parenting book with tricks and tips; if you have problem A, then apply solution B to solve. The onus is on the parent to understand the child’s developmental stage, their needs and their abilities, and provide the necessary comfort, boundaries, care, etc. Over time I have seen my family transform from what I learned from this book. I wish I could give every new parent this book!

A parenting reality check

Fantastic information for our times, guiding parents with practical examples on how to parent our children through the age of information overload.

A Good Lens

This book had the problem / solution format and was probably 65/35 on that split. It was a good read in terms of seeing a lens to view their take on the current state of affairs.
This was my first read on attachment parenting and I think (from my very limited vantage point) it was a good primer for the topic.

Transformational Book

This book really changed my perception of muy relationship with my son. as I read the book, it provided really good tools to use, and they are working. I'm highly impressed with the progress thus far with the attachment/ relationship with my son.

Changing paradigms of understanding

Thank you for this encouraging and informative book. It gets to the heart of why parent and child relationships break down and how these issues can be addressed.