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Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters

Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck
Narrated by: Harriet Lerner PhD
Length: 1 hr and 28 mins
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Before a woman is anything else, she is a daughter. Her relationship with her mother anchors every other relationship in her life. Yet as an adult she may still blame her mother, try to change her, or fail to speak out about issues that matter. Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters is a personal conversation for every woman who seeks to better understand the mystery of the mother-daughter bond. Dr. Lerner illustrates why our mothers inevitably disappoint us, and why it is so hard to stay connected - and stay ourselves - when differences arise. With specific skills and guidelines for changing the patterns that keep us stuck, Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters represents this esteemed psychologist's most complete work on the central relationship in the emotional lives of women.

©2009 Harriet Lerner (P)2009 Harriet Lerner

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Good but short

The content was good but way too short. I was shocked it ended so soon. I had been enjoying the book and was eager to listen to more when suddenly it was over.

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Don’t bother if your mom has profound issues

This is a great way to get perspective and help humanize your mother if she’s slightly dysfunctional, has some garden-variety depression or anxiety, has a pattern of employing the old victim/bully/hero triangle but for a mom who is truly an serious abuser or soul-destroying life and relationship ruiner, gathering facts about her life and employing empathetic communication techniques may be a terrible idea.

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A must have as a participant and guide!

Such a beautiful depiction of such an intricately necessary and delicately personal relationship between women.

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Mothers and Daughters

Very insightful book all women need to hear.
It clarifies so much of what is at the core of the problems we have as mothers or daughters .
She spoke very well about distancing, differentiation and how to grow closer relationships within the family .
I really enjoyed it but was sad to see it end ! Too short .

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Useful Application of Family Systems Theory

Bowen Family Systems theory, feminist theory. and other major principles are represented as the author guides listeners in examining the impact our relationships with our mothers has on our lives.
Generally helpful examples are provided, and the author takes the position of experienced therapist, mentor, and fellow journeyman.

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interesting

This short book summarizes the importance of differentiation in a mother-daughter relationship. It explains why being able to accept differences in others begings with accepting the differences between mother and daughter and maintaining a dialogue.

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That was some much needed perspective

I'll come back to this lecture again and again. She offers some profound and relieving perspective that I'll want to hear a few times over to take in more fully.

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Helpful Examples

I liked this book. It was short and sweet. Dr. Lerner gives some great examples and stories to gain a deeper perspective of the mother/daughter relationship.

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