"You aren't getting a cookie for doing it all by yourself."

In this lesson, Christan and Tarrah tackle the trope of the "Strong Friend" and the dangerous myth of self-sufficiency. Learn why receiving is a skill you have to practice and how to start building trust in small, low-risk ways.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the "silent signals" we send when we actually need to use our words.

• The Artist Corner: Why Healing Hobbies are the secret to "untrashing" your mental health in 2026.

• The Lesson: Breaking the cycle of hyper-independence. We explore the fear of disappointment and the "inner vows" we make that keep us stuck.

• The Solution: How to relinquish control and start building "proof" that people can actually show up for you.

Weekly Homework: Complete the "One Small Ask" challenge. Practice being supported so you can stop surviving and start thriving.

Class Dismissed! If you're ready to share the weight, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!

"Your friends are not mind readers. Give them a fighting chance."

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the dangerous habit of silent scorekeeping. Learn why "If they loved me, they'd know" is a lie that ruins good connections and how to start "onboarding" your friends for success.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the "unreasonable expectation" of life-altering support. ⚖️

• The Artist Corner: Why chasing your Dream is the ultimate life-decluttering tool. 🚀

• The Lesson: The difference between a standard (what you need to be safe) and an expectation (how you assume someone should behave without being told).

• The Solution: Why training your friends is actually an act of love.

Class Dismissed! If you're ready for clarity over confusion, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!

"Loyalty without boundaries is self-abandonment."

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the exhausting dynamic of anxious attachment. If you feel like your "cup" is always being emptied but never refilled, it’s time to recalibrate your connections and build internal safety.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the friend who needs too much reassurance.

• Take Out The Trash: A life-changing review of How We Love. Why your childhood "Love Style" is the secret key to your current relationship drama. 📚

• The Lesson: Breaking the people-pleasing cycle and learning that your needs aren't a burden—they’re a requirement for real intimacy.

Weekly Homework: Take the Attachment Style Quiz to find out if you're a Secure Connector or if you're stuck in a "Pleaser" or "Avoider" loop. https://howwelove.com/love-style-quiz/

Class Dismissed! If you're ready to stop performing and start connecting, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!

"Feelings are signals, not facts."

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah explore the world of Avoidant Attachment. Learn why you might be "Heisman-ing" the people you love and how to transition from survival mode into true intimacy.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on "Conflict Avoidance" and the danger of the "I'm Fine" response.

• The Artist Corner: Why your bedroom environment dictates your mental stability.

• Lesson: The difference between guarding your heart and barricading it.

Class Dismissed! If you're ready to stop hiding and start healing, leave us a 5-star review!

Peace!

"Loyalty without boundaries is self-abandonment."

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the exhausting dynamic of lopsided friendships. If you feel like your "cup" is always being emptied but never refilled, it’s time to recalibrate your connections.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the friend who makes everything about themselves.

• The Artist Corner: The lost art of Silence. Why doing "nothing" is the best thing you can do for your mental health.

• Lesson: Breaking the "Strong Friend" cycle and learning that your needs aren't a burden... they’re a requirement for real intimacy.

• The Solution: How to step back and let the actions in the relationship speak for themselves.

Class Dismissed! If you're tired of being the only one showing up, leave us a 5-star review and share this with your circle.

Peace!

"You teach people how to treat you through what you communicate and what you accept."

n this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the root cause of friendship disappointment. We’re moving past "vibes" and getting into the clarity required for lifelong community.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on reciprocation and the "Long Distance" dilemma.

• The Artist Corner: Why a Study Bible is the original "untrash your life" manual.

• The Main Topic: Learn the difference between a standard (safety) and a preference (extra credit).

• The "Judas" Principle: Understanding that you don't have to love people instead of yourself.

Class Dismissed! If you're ready to stop settling for crumbs, leave us a 5-star review and share this with your friends. Peace!

"Life is going to life... the question is, how will you respond?"

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah explore why "people-control" often masquerades as a lack of self-control and how to start "untrashing" your emotional habits.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: Is a new relationship a valid excuse for blowing off your friends?

• The Artist Corner: Why Atomic Habits by James Clear is a life-changer for building intentional connections.

• The 4 Pillars of EQ: A masterclass

Featured Resource:

• Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear

• Watch the Visual Lecture: See the Friendship Court drama in HD on our YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/9BhDjMjBAyM

Weekly Homework: Complete your Strengths & Triggers Map to start building a system that works with your brain, not against it.

Class Dismissed! If this lecture helped you, leave us a 5-star review and share it with a friend. Peace!

School is back in session for Season 5!

Christan and Tarrah explore why so many of our modern connections are suffering from a "system problem" rather than a "you problem." We’re breaking down why R&B music changed, how to handle the "left on read" anxiety, and the biblical blueprint for handling conflict without losing your peace (or your friends).

This week’s homework: We challenge you to name your emotions this week instead of just "feeling some type of way." Listen in for the full 5-day breakdown!

Join the University:If this episode helped you, please leave us a 5-star review and share it with a friend who needs a "system upgrade."

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