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  • Why aren’t we living what we already know?

    Why aren’t we living what we already know?
    Mar 26 2026
    It’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The question now is quieter, but sharper: why aren’t we living what we already know? Where do women go when they’ve done the therapy, read the books, named the wounds… and still feel like something isn’t landing? Meet Jenna. I’m sharing fictitious client profiles so you can see the inner workings of the work I’ve done with women for over a decade. (TW: there are words that some readers may find challenging if they haven’t tended to them). Jenna is 35. She wants a partner and hasn’t found one because life just hasn’t met her there. She’s a creative, but working a job that drains her because it pays. This was a recent switch because her creative work felt draining as it didn’t feel like it paid enough. A cycle creatives know well. She feels guilty for even being in a space like this- the one where we talk about the pelvis. Like tending to herself is indulgent. Frivolous. In her twenties, Jenna was raped. She hasn’t told anyone. There were no visible scars, so she learned to downplay it. But her body didn’t. She lives with vaginismus which is pain with penetration. A body that closes. A body that says no, even when she doesn’t fully understand why. Jenna isn’t in crisis. She’s in holding. Grief from losing her father, who was her safety. A mother who now needs more, but has always struggled to give. Friendships that don’t quite land. A life that looks fine… but doesn’t feel like hers. She comes home from work and goes flat. Scrolling. Not eating well. Not tending to herself. She finds herself easily slipping into her freeze response tools. Jenna doesn’t need fixing.She doesn’t need to “heal her trauma” in the way she’s been taught. She needs to understand what her body is holding. Where her patterns come from. Why her system moves the way it does. Because when a woman can see that: she stops fighting and ignoring her innate needs. Jenna doesn’t need more information. She needs spaces where her body can speak.Where pain isn’t rushed. Where nothing is performed. Where she doesn’t have to explain why she feels the way she feels. Spaces where the deeper questions can exist: What is my body protecting me from? What happens when I finally acknowledge what I’ve lived through without talking it all through again? Can I trust myself to feel this… without needing to fix it? Jenna isn’t looking for answers, either. She’s looking for something she hasn’t had before: a place to land. And maybe that’s the real question for all of us now: Where do women like me go… when we’re ready to stop doing more therapy, and start listening to ourselves? More holding Found Here: The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic Journey Postpartum Care Journey Substack Insight Timer Main Website hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat
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    24 m
  • The Hidden Dissatisfaction of Mothers Who “Did Everything Right”

    The Hidden Dissatisfaction of Mothers Who “Did Everything Right”
    Mar 20 2026
    Mother Profile: Sofia It’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The fire horse year asks one question: how do we live with what we already know? Where is the community for women who have done the books, the therapy, the circles, and still feel… quiet dissatisfaction? Meet Sofia. I’m going to do some fictitious client profiles so you can see the inner workings of this work I have done with clients for ten years on a 1-1. So Sofia, she did everything “right.” Two children, career, a partner who works full-time, a mother who loves her grandchildren more than her. Life should feel softer now the children are at school. Because, now has has more time, right? Instead, she notices things she can’t name: sex that sometimes hurts, joy that doesn’t feel quite whole, knowledge that comes from all the ‘work’ she has done but it’s not integrated. Sofia isn’t in crisis. She’s in integration pressure. She doesn’t need more answers because she has them from books and therapy. She did counselling for years. she needs places and people and spaces to land.. Spaces where desire, resentment, motherhood, power, money, and pleasure can be spoken without pretense. Real community. Evidence that another way of adulthood exists. No therapy. No webinars. Just women who see it, live it, and share it, sometimes maybe even, over a quick chai latte after a school run. The question for Sofia, for all of us: “Where do women like me gather when they are done pretending?” More holding Found Here: The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic Journey Postpartum Care Journey Substack Insight Timer Main Website hello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk @thisisnaomigale #fannychat
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    32 m
  • Betty on vaginisumus, postnatal tending and birth

    Betty on vaginisumus, postnatal tending and birth
    Feb 11 2025
    Betty Sharpe is a Kent doula who actively supports at births around East Kent. She runs Folkey Birth Club which is a local CIC holding birth cirles and nourishment circles. Betty chats about her experience of vaginismus and what it looked like to have the birth she wanted but the lack of postnatal care she realised she needed. Within this episode we discuss tears, childborth, tending to ourselves and just the general culture around the system- whether we are having painful sex or having a baby. Betty Sharpe: https://www.kentdoulacollective.com/betty-sharpe Folkey Birth Club: https://www.folkeybirthclub.co.uk/ Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat
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    58 m
  • Lindsey Isla on vaginismus, being child free and tracking

    Lindsey Isla on vaginismus, being child free and tracking
    Jan 14 2025
    Lindsey Isla creates content online for us all to consume on all things lifestyle, interiors and fashion. This episode of Fanny chat discusses what it means to be diagnosed with vaginismus and how she now looks at this, what choosing to not have children looks like in today's society and how tracking her cycle changed her world. We also close with a beautiful testimony to what it means to be landing into the arms of the feminine.Lindsey Isla: https://www.instagram.com/lindsey_isla/ Lindsey on Substack: https://lindseyisla.substack.com/Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat
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  • Amber Topaz and normalising singing about the vulva

    Amber Topaz and normalising singing about the vulva
    Dec 6 2024
    Amber Topaz is a performer and producer of all things feminine empowerment. She spends her time normalising the feminine body through her music and shows. Amber discusses what it means to grow breasts overnight at school, and how this fuelled her passion for celebrating women. We discuss what encourages her to sing 'Vulva' and discuss female pleasure and sexuality on stage for all to see. How shame spurs us on to share work we deem necessary for our society. This is a gentle and tender podcast episode we all could be listening to while carrying on with our 'daily doings'. Amber Topaz: https://www.ambertopaz.co.uk/ Website www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychatWebsite www.thisisnaomigale.co.ukBuy In Your Vagina bookUseful social linksYouTubeSubstack Insight Timerhello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat
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  • Alistair and all things donor sperm

    Alistair and all things donor sperm
    Nov 12 2024

    We walk through three pelvic-based stories. Ali discusses his journey with donor sperm and what it means to him to have children who biologically are donored. What does that feel like for him daily and how has that impacted his life. Ali then discusses what it looked like to witness the birth of a book which has since been banned. How that left him feeling and what he feels we need more of in this world.

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    40 m
  • Season One- an intro

    Season One- an intro
    Oct 17 2024

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  • Socialising is not rest

    Socialising is not rest
    Apr 13 2023

    We explore my recent experience with socialising and how this ended up being a challenge at home. What rest looks like and how this isn't the same as socialising. Why some people suffer and how some of us need to regularly tend to the nervous system between socialising.

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    15 m