Family is Not All You Need

A Self-Help Guide to Coping with Narcissistic Family Members and Dysfunctional Home Environments

Are you struggling with toxic family relationships and the emotional turmoil of dealing with narcissistic relatives? Do you feel trapped in a cycle of dysfunction, constantly seeking validation from those who only bring you pain? Are you tired of pretending everything is okay with your family when deep down, it’s tearing you apart?
Do you feel trapped in toxic roles, overwhelmed by guilt, or burdened by the lies you were taught about loyalty and love?

It's time to break free...

Family Is Not All You Need: A Self-Help Guide to Coping with Narcissistic Family Members and Dysfunctional Home Environments is a powerful guide for those raised in emotionally unsafe homes. Written by a licensed psychotherapist, this book dismantles the false narratives that keep us loyal to dysfunction and offers a new way forward. Through deeply validating insights and therapeutic strategies, this guide walks you through the unspoken truths about toxic family systems and helps you unlearn the roles you were forced to play just to survive.

every chapter includes thoughtful questions designed to help you reflect, process, and apply the lessons to your own healing journey.

Inside, you’ll discover:

✔️ Why “family is everything” is a harmful myth—especially when the family is narcissistic and dysfunctional
✔️ The hidden ways dysfunction is passed down through generations
✔️ How family roles like the scapegoat, golden child, and black sheep keep you stuck
✔️ Why guilt and grief are natural parts of healing from the family you never had
✔️ How control was often masked as “love”
✔️ What it means to truly live beyond survival mode
✔️ How to set boundaries without betraying yourself
✔️ Ways to reclaim your identity and live unapologetically
✔️ The legacy you’re capable of creating, free from the pain of your past
✔️ Every chapter includes thoughtful questions and journal prompts designed to help you reflect, process, and apply the lessons to your own healing journey

This book is for you if…
You're ready to break the silence, stop shrinking yourself to fit into a broken system, and define ‘family’ on your own terms. Let this be your permission to choose peace over obligation and finally start living for you.

I thank God for Zelina’s obedience in writing this book. It gave me a lot of revelation.

After reading this book I set boundaries with some people in my life and they responded just like how the author described they would act but it felt good. At 30 yrs old I’m finally standing up for myself and my children. The narcissistic family cycle ends with me. 🙌🏽

this was eye opening

I went no contact with my mother for the emotional things she has done. I felt bad because I've been trained that's my mom. But after trying to have a conversation with her about the pain and her playing victim this last time I was done. this book help me realize I'm not wrong. it's ok to protect ME and MY mental health. I changed a lot of things with my own child and we have an amazing relationship. It's not my job to fix what I didn't break. And now I can truly start to heal from all that trauma and dysfunction that I thought was normal. I am no longer the black sheep of my family because I have created a family that loves and cherish me for being me! and that feels amazing 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. thank you for this book. It is giving me the tools I need to be a better me and completely heal from what I do not deserve to carry anymore!