Falling Upward

A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life

De: Richard Rohr, Brené Brown - foreword

Narrado por: Tom Parks

In the revised and updated edition of Falling Upward, Richard Rohr seeks to help listeners come to terms with the two halves of life. In this book, Rohr teaches us that we can't understand the meaning of "up" until we have fallen "down." More importantly, Rohr describes what "up" can look like in the second half of life.

Most of us tend to think of the second half of life in chronological terms, but this book proposes a different paradigm. Spiritual maturity is found "when we begin to pay attention and seek integrity" through a shift from our "outer task" to the "inner task." Falling Upward is an invitation to living the gospel and a call to ongoing transformation.

- Gain a spiritual perspective on the "the common sequencing, staging, and direction of life's arc" and learn how to bring forth your gifts in the second half of life

- Grapple with difficult feelings, fears, and emotions associated with "great love and great suffering"

- Learn how we "grow spiritually much more by doing it wrong than by doing it right"

- Understand why so many of us resist falling into the second half of life.

©2024 Richard Rohr (P)2024 Tantor

Trust Yourself

Falling Upward is for those of us who have lived enough to feel the ache beneath the control. The quiet tension between who we’ve been and who we’re still becoming. Rohr writes to that part of the soul, not to push it, but to meet it gently. Not just to grow, but to soften, to open, to feel.

A Catholic priest for over 50 years, Rohr carries spiritual authority, but he doesn’t wield it. He honors tradition without hiding behind it. As someone raised very Catholic, I recognize the weight of his role. But I admire even more the way he steps outside of it with reverence, not rebellion. He invites a deeper truth.

“It is precisely by falling off the bike many times that you eventually learn what the balance feels like… People who have never allowed themselves to fall are actually off balance.” That image of a wobble before finding equilibrium reminds us that we weren’t sure, once, but we learned. And we can still learn. Even now. Especially now.

This book stays beside you while your soul recalibrates. It affirms that the pull toward depth isn’t confusion, it’s clarity. That undoing isn’t collapse, it’s transformation.

If you’ve felt that pull - the one you can’t quite name but also can’t ignore - I hope you listen. I hope you trust yourself. Not because I’m saying to. But because part of you already is.

A spiritual classic

Filled with wisdom and truth. Very comforting as I enter the second half of life. I first read it 8 years ago, and found it even better the second time. Wish the author would have done the recording in his own voice.

the process of change as we age and mature

I am in a Tuesday morning book group at my local Jesuit retreat house. The group meets for about 8 to 10 weeks twice a year. There are about 20 people who are involved, usually about 15-16 people a week are present. Because the group meets at 10:15 AM on a Tuesday, it is mostly people who are retirement age. The group is primarily Catholic and female, although not entirely. I very much value the group and I will continue to read whatever the group picks. But I was not looking forward to reading Falling Upward. I have previously read it twice in 2011 and in 2016. I liked it less each time I read it. But there is something helpful about reading a book in a group because you gain the perspective of others as you read it. I tend to like books less if I previously liked them when rereading them in a group. But I also tend to like books more when rereading with a group if I didn’t like them previously. In both cases, it is because different perspectives give me insight into aspects of the book that I did not have when reading alone.

Part of what I found interesting is that about a third of the group was new to the book. But most of the group had read it two or three times previously. Almost everyone who found the book valuable had read it multiple times. I continue to think that Rohr is less clear than he should be. And I continue to think he is trying to read too large of an audience. I both found the book more helpful and more limited with this reading.

On the negative side, I think that his use of the archetype narrative (The Oddesy and other similar stories) has the problem of orienting the discussion of the second half of life in a male-oriented way. I know Rohr is a Catholic priest and a man, but over and over again, I found his illustrations and framing to be overly limited. One of the main themes of the book is how part of maturity is rejecting false dualism and embracing the Both/And. But then he would create evaluative dualism between the first and second half of life. I probably can’t be Rohr, but I would like to see someone else write about archetypal narrative in a similar way, but add in many more illustrations that are rooted in female archetypes.

On the positive side, I do think that reading this nearly 15 years after the first reading I have more life experience and maturity and I can see areas where I can make sense of his point in ways that I couldn’t before. But I also think that there are many areas where he will continue to be misunderstood either because he was not clear or because the audience that is reading isn’t who he was addressing. Over and over again, I ran into comments or advice or illustrations where it made sense, but there was a level of health that is assumed that may not be present. This is similar to my complaints about A Loving Life by Paul Miller. Miller calls on people to tolerate suffering and abuse to lead others toward repentance but does not spend nearly enough time talking about the reality of abuse and the harm that comes about because of abuse. There were many places where the advice or illustration works in one setting, but not in another. That discernment of how to apply wisdom like this requires a level of maturity that I am not sure applies to everyone reading the book.

I am glad I read it again, at least I was glad that I read it with the group. I do not think it is an essential book.

Spiritually Supportive

I have been shocked to feel a change in me and wonder at why it feels so difficult to prioritize but the view of life has changed and so the book helped me feel more in time with myself. Patient.

One of my favorite books now

Thank heavens there are people like Richard Rohr in this world. People that try and make sense of the individual as they relate to society and as they relate to God. Falling upward gives what I feel is a healthy perspective balanced in religious, philosophical and moral thinking. Without trying to promote his own religion, in fact even stating his struggles within the confines of religion, Rohr is able to extricate teachings of value where others often skim the surface in an effort to be compliant. I didn't agree with everything Rohr wrote in this book, but felt like there is enough value and thought provoking material that it definitely merits the highest ratings. If you're struggling with purpose in your life, perhaps his thoughts could be of assistance.

A wisdom classic

I first read this about 10 years ago. Recently, God brought it back to my mind and I listened again. I am in a transition to the second half of life and this book is such an anchor. I didn’t really understand then, but now it’s like he is writing my experience and helping me to know that I am on track in my spiritual journey. Wonderful, I highly recommend.

The paradoxical nature of past, present and future relationships.

Richard Rohr has done an excellent job of explaining the conceptual framework behind paradoxical relationships involving the corporate church in America, intra-personal identity, and the past/present societal struggles that are associated with the current social/political environment.

Sacred Container

Richard Rohr's description of needing a container… Something that holds you not just mechanically but with warmth and embodied support before going onto the second half of life is impeccable.

Refreshing

Loved this book. Great for transitioning into different stages of life. Lots of great wisdom.

Pointed to truth

Growing up in a Christian home, my perception of God has certainly changed. The critical inner voice drove me to my suffering. The more I learn about my true self, the more I see and experience the God that Richard describes in this book. At this point in the walk, I feel undeserving of the peace I experience. This book was a guide to see where I was at. Pointing and highlighting Christ’s teachings and encouraging me to continue. Thank you.