Empowered Love

Use Your Brain to Be Your Best Self and Create Your Ideal Relationship

By: Steven Stosny PhD

Narrated by: Eric Michael Summerer

Length: 5 hrs and 48 mins

Publisher's Summary

Ever wonder why your self-control, rationality, and compassion seem to go out the window when dealing with your partner? Couples therapist and psychiatrist Steven Stosny explains it all in this revelatory book about the divide between our adult and our toddler brains. Too often, conflict in our intimate relationships reactivates our least-regulated "toddler" side, bringing out an instinctive desire to assert our own way and make everything a zero-sum game. Dr. Stosny shows the way toward overcoming these destructive impulses and nurturing our more loving and clear-eyed inclinations. Drawing upon his decades of experience in working with troubled marriages, he distills his insights into an actionable guide for embracing our best impulses in our relationships. 

Empowered Love is a valuable guide for married and live-in couples who struggle with an unhealthy dynamic; those already in individual or couples therapy who want a highly effective aid to help them communicate with their partner; and licensed therapists and counselors looking for an in-depth perspective on the developmental stages in play with relationship strife. 

©2018 Steven Stosny (P)2018 Tantor

Very useful

This man knows his stuff. It’s clear that he has an incredible amount of experience in the field of helping couples, and what he says is constantly backed up by research. What it comes down to though, is that he does provide practical advice for how to improve your relationship, and how to get out of traps that plague unhealthy partnerships. There are no quick fixes, but that’s true for anything of value in life (my dad always says: “If it were easy, everyone would do it!”). A warning: The entire first half of the book is completely designed to give you scientific information about why your partner (or you) are flying off the handle, getting offended, saying the wrong things, misunderstanding him/her, thinking your partner is to blame, etc. Then part 2 is entirely designed to teach you how to turn this around and build something better and lasting with your partner. I would advise listening to the whole thing first and then re-listening to part 2 as many times as necessary. Thanks to the author for your hard work.

Loved this book!!

I would recommend this book to anybody that is struggling in their relationship and is desperately trying to make it work. It’s so insightful. I’ve listened to a lot of books in attempts to save my relationship with my husband. This is hands down the best one I’ve read! If you’re looking for a sign, this is it ;)

yuk yuk macho out-dated yuk

he instructs that couples force themselves to have sex when they are hurt, and ends the book reminding readers to try to feel sexy when hurt. not surprised this man wrote a book about talking less for better intimacy. this book teaches only how for totally sex-driven men to better hide the fact that he really doesn't value his partner. is the word "power" really appealing to describe a relationship for a woman who is emotionally abused?? i don't care how many times he repeats that he was "featured on oprah", yuk

Absolutely imperative reading for relationships

A powerful book. I saw myself and actions completely differently after reading this book.

loved it

it was easy to listen and I can quite say that what I ve learned could be life changing.