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Duped

Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married
Narrated by: Therese Plummer
Length: 8 hrs and 31 mins
3.5 out of 5 stars (40 ratings)
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Publisher's Summary

Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fiancé was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is full of people who aren't what they seem.

From Abby Ellin's first date with the commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months, he'd proposed and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel. Finally, it all became clear: He was lying about who he was.

After leaving him and sharing her story, she was floored to find out that her experience was far from unique. People everywhere, many of them otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware, are being deceived by their loved ones every day.

In Duped, Abby Ellin studies the art and science of lying, talks to people who've had their worlds upended by duplicitous partners, and writes with great openness about her own mistakes. These remarkable stories reveal how often we encounter people whose lives beneath the surface are more improbable than we ever imagined.

©2019 Abby Ellin (P)2019 Hachette Audio

Critic Reviews

"Candid and entertaining, Ellin's book offers insight into the socially and psychologically complex nature of deceit as well as the choices she made as a duped woman. Lively, provocative reading." (Kirkus Reviews)

"Abby Ellin's writing is everything her fiancé pretended to be: witty, vulnerable, brave, smart, and honest." (Michael Finkel, author of the national best-seller The Stranger in the Woods)

"I loved this book, and not just because of Abby Ellin's masterful storytelling. This is a book that can save lives. She paints an exquisite portrait of what life with a predator is like. No child should go to college without first reading this book." (Joe Navarro, former FBI agent and best-selling author of Dangerous Personalities)

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  • Nashville, TN (Detroit, MI is still home to me)
  • 01-21-19

Not my cup of tea!

I got half way through and I was over it. it was like Groundhog Day it was the same sentiment repeated over and over again with different words.

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Didn’t love it. Wouldn’t recommend.

All in all I just didn’t love it. I found the author shallow and annoying. I also felt there was too much filler to make this a book. I listened until the end, but it felt like work.

That said, the narrator was great. Good voice, smooth performance.

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Great read

Anyone whose trust has ever been violated to the core of your being; it is a most worthy and valuable read.

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Too wordy

This all could be said in one small booklet. Just didn’t enjoy her style. She moved slowly, boringly. And why did she throw in a few words to trash Trump when it was not pertinent to anything ? She thought it endeared her to some listeners, but she just lost credibility.

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Good book. Extremely annoying narrator.

Almost unable to finish the book. The narrator is unbearable. Her voice doesn’t fit the book. Her proclivity for the offset “he said” or “she said” after a dramatic pause at the end of a sentence was torture.

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  • 01-18-19

Flaming Liberal Bias Taints what could have been a Decent Book

I overlooked the first three or four times the author, a self-admitted idiot who was duped not once, but twice in a row, flagrantly insulted the President, snidely calling him a liar. She also takes a swipe at the First Lady. This theme was repeated so often throughout the book, I finally could take it no longer and gave up trying to take her seriously. Though she states there are no honest politicians, it apparently doesn’t occur to her that not everyone purchasing her book shares her world view. After all, a quick YouTube search yields side by side clips of many of former President Obama’s lies, flip-flops, and inconsistencies, both during his presidency and those he’s presently spouting. For the purposes of proving the authors assertions, Mr. Obama would provide plenty of worthy examples for this work. But no, there’s nary a mention of the former chief. Yet, there were so many Trump references I lost count.

If you’re a Trump-hating, liberal-loving listener who buys into the biased opinions of a “journalist” lacking the intelligence this one does, perhaps this will be right up your alley. However, if you’re looking for a thoughtful, balanced account of how we all “perform” to a point, never letting people completely see the real person inside, or a manual that offers sage advice for those looking to avoid being duped by a clever liar, you’d best look elsewhere. A woman who’s been seriously duped twice in a row and writes “non-fiction” with a flagrant bias, is more the type person I’m afraid of being duped by, than the ridiculous men who made a fool of her.

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