Duped

Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married
Narrated by: Therese Plummer
Length: 8 hrs and 31 mins
4 out of 5 stars (120 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fiancé was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is full of people who aren't what they seem.

From Abby Ellin's first date with the commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months, he'd proposed and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel. Finally, it all became clear: He was lying about who he was.

After leaving him and sharing her story, she was floored to find out that her experience was far from unique. People everywhere, many of them otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware, are being deceived by their loved ones every day.

In Duped, Abby Ellin studies the art and science of lying, talks to people who've had their worlds upended by duplicitous partners, and writes with great openness about her own mistakes. These remarkable stories reveal how often we encounter people whose lives beneath the surface are more improbable than we ever imagined.

©2019 Abby Ellin (P)2019 Hachette Audio

Critic Reviews

"Candid and entertaining, Ellin's book offers insight into the socially and psychologically complex nature of deceit as well as the choices she made as a duped woman. Lively, provocative reading." (Kirkus Reviews)

"Abby Ellin's writing is everything her fiancé pretended to be: witty, vulnerable, brave, smart, and honest." (Michael Finkel, author of the national best-seller The Stranger in the Woods)

"I loved this book, and not just because of Abby Ellin's masterful storytelling. This is a book that can save lives. She paints an exquisite portrait of what life with a predator is like. No child should go to college without first reading this book." (Joe Navarro, former FBI agent and best-selling author of Dangerous Personalities)

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Didn’t love it. Wouldn’t recommend.

All in all I just didn’t love it. I found the author shallow and annoying. I also felt there was too much filler to make this a book. I listened until the end, but it felt like work.

That said, the narrator was great. Good voice, smooth performance.

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Great read

Anyone whose trust has ever been violated to the core of your being; it is a most worthy and valuable read.

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Too wordy

This all could be said in one small booklet. Just didn’t enjoy her style. She moved slowly, boringly. And why did she throw in a few words to trash Trump when it was not pertinent to anything ? She thought it endeared her to some listeners, but she just lost credibility.

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Not my cup of tea!

I got half way through and I was over it. it was like Groundhog Day it was the same sentiment repeated over and over again with different words.

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Loved the book

This hits some triggers for me, but also gave me insight into a lot of the same feelings that the author had. Thanks for sharing your story! Satellite Sisters were right, great book!

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I've been duped!

Loved the book.I was duped by my son-in-law for years.it took years for us to figure him out.He got himself into a lot of trouble before the end. He ruined his family and ours. Wish I had read this book before he came into our lives.

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Exciting and Profound Journey of being Duped!!

When I downloaded my copy of Duped by Abby Ellin, I was assuming I would read a romantic deception story about the heart ache of falling in love with a liar. An interesting enough topic for me as a relationship expert and a professional Matchmaker. I always love anything "relationship" books. But instead, I got an exciting and engaging societal and psychological story of why people deceive. Duped is a brilliant and thorough investigation into this psychological phenomenon, looking at the human mind and the motivation of deception. Abby Ellin strategically brings you though an engaging and dramatic expedition into the underbelly of a disturbing and unfortunately common pathology of deceit. I highly recommend going on this exciting and profound Journey of being "Duped".   

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A lecture about honesty

Thought it was going to be about relationships but like most liberals, a lecture on political dishonesty about the right. Willful blindness towards the left while making the right out to be devils. A joke.

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Psychological Portrait of Deception

The book presents deception through the eyes of the deceived. Step by step the story unfolds through the actions, thoughts and behaviors of the deceiver and deceived. It’s a virtual reality experience of deception rather than a psychological abstract. Psychological principles are pointed out as the story proceeds and the comments of various psychologists are insightful.

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Fascinating!

Some remarked the author talked too much about herself, but I diasagree. Hearing her motives and thought process added exponentially to the understanding of why people get duped. Recommended!