Dating Sucks, but You Don't

The Modern Guy's Guide to Total Confidence, Romantic Connection, and Finding the Perfect Partner

By: Connell Barrett

Narrated by: Connell Barrett

Length: 7 hrs and 10 mins

Publisher's Summary

From renowned international dating coach comes an essential, must-have dating guide for men looking to gain confidence and find lasting love in the #MeToo era.

Rejection. Ghosting. Not knowing how to talk to women. For many men, dating just sucks. But it doesn’t have to. There’s a simple, yet powerful, way to gain instant confidence and attract a great girlfriend: Be authentic.

Whether you want to confidently approach women, get quality matches on dating apps, or learn how to avoid the “friend zone”, Dating Sucks, but You Don’t is your step-by-step blueprint for landing your soul mate.

Using the power of “radical authenticity”, you’ll unlock your most awesome self and learn how to:

• Be magnetic as you...even if you’re not rich, tall, or great-looking
• Always know what to say to ignite chemistry
• Get dates and connect with great women without using creepy “pickup artist” tricks
• Conquer fear and anxiety and confidently approach women (in a way they love)
• Get great matches and dates on Tinder, Bumble, Match, Hinge, or any other dating app
• Be a true gentleman of the #MeToo era who respects women and understands the boundaries surrounding consent
• Create a healthy, supportive relationship with someone who loves you for you

You definitely don’t suck. And when you have total self-confidence and great results, neither does dating.

©2021 Connell Barrett. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

A must buy, even if you've read every dating book

The first thing I look for in reviews is if the information contained in the book is effective and "works". While that depends on the individual, ive found success with this book and what it teaches. If you follow whats in the pages, it will bring you results.

Ive read a few dating books and have had some success. I definitely know more now than i did several years ago. So when I saw this book on audible, I was a bit dubious if it would present any new information, but I was pleasantly surprised.

Connel offers tons of solid advice with a mixture of mindsets, action plans, techniques and humor in only a way he can deliver. It feels like he's your personal dating coach and truly has your benefit in mind. Connel presents a healthy idea of masculinity and relationships that wont leave you feeling like sleezy, but still adequately prepares you for the dating world.

A few ideas i found Connel to be a little too PC on for my liking, but it doesnt detract from the value of the book. Connel also advocates you pursue the gal a little more than other coaches do, but thats preference. One topic I wish he went into more was how women test a man's strength and how to pass those tests.

Another book i like is Corey Waynes "3% Man". Together these two books would be enough to change your dating world completely. 3% Man has more on masculinity, signs of attraction, texting and long term relationships. Connel covers those topics, but has more on flirting, inner game and confidence, offers a separate frame work for meeting and dating women, and has the single best guide to online dating ive seen to date. Seriously, I don't know anyone else that comes close to Connel on online game and profiles lol.

Connels narration is natural and conversational. As if he were sitting across from you. Hes hilarious and loves his corny jokes but thats ok. Because hes being his authentic higher self.

Connel also provides coaching services outside of his book and is quite the teacher.

Overall, i highly reccomend this book to all men wanting to how to be their best self, and meet and date the women they want in their life.

~ Marcus Aurelius

A Wheelchair user's journey to confidence

As a wheelchair user with Cerebral Palsy, I've always had trouble with dating. I received this book last summer for a birthday present. Upon seeing the title, I chuckled a little bit, but being so steeped in self-rejection, I honestly doubted that the assertion of the book was at all true for me. 

The book sat on my shelf for weeks, until I resolved to open it, telling myself, "If I'm not compelled to keep reading by the end of the first chapter, I'll close this book and never read it again. Remarkably, I was immediately hooked from the FIRST PAGE!!! 

Opening his book, Connell writes that what women truly want is for a man to show up as his real authentic self. This absolutely floored me, because unlike many pick up artists and dating "experts," who promise that they can help you become irresistible to women, Barrett reminded me that I am enough and that I already have everything I need to be irresistible to my perfect partner.

Rather than a tell-all to teach you the secrets about getting girls, this book is a journey of self-discovery, inviting readers to become self-aware and confident to present themselves as worthy not just to girls, but to the world!


Particularly helpful to me was the "3-second rule," which challenged me to overcome my fear of approaching women by counting down from three and talking to her immediately. I decided to try this at my friend's wedding a couple weeks after finishing the book, and that got me a dance with one of the HOTTEST GIRLS THERE!!! and only another three seconds to ask for her number! It didn't ultimately work out, but who cares, I did it! And no biggie because another connection is ONLY ANOTHER THREE SECONDS AWAY!


Right now, I'm talking to a girl I met online a few months ago and things are going UNBELIEVABLY WELL!


The techniques in this book work! But it doesn't mean it's easy, I've learned I have to intentionally put them into practice every day. 


MY BIGGEST TAKE AWAY… BET ON YOURSELF, ACCEPT YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND SOON, YOU WILL FIND THE LOVE YOU'VE ALWAYS LONGED FOR!💯

Good advice but beyond cringe worthy

First off this book is mostly written for the complete newbie or someone that really needs a lot of help. Nothing wrong with that, but the delivery is terrible. The narrator could not be more cringe worthy in his delivery. there is some good advice for sure, and some bad. The higher self nicknames is laugh out loud ridiculous. Models by Mark Manson is 100 times better

From Beta male to "Seasoned Dater" of the Ladies!

DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T shares the transformation of Connell Barrett into a Master Ladies man and Dating expert and through his journey he shares all that he learned in obtaining that status with his listeners. It may sound cliché, but this book is indeed for the Average Guy who is intimidated by beautiful women to become the Player and/or "Romanitc Romeo" he always longed to be. I believe that almost anyone can accomplish this with what Connell Barrett teaches unless he is emotionally traumatized by past Dating failures to the point of Clinical Depression or he is mentally or physically challenged in some way. And even 50% of those guys should learn enough from this audiobook to at least get a steady Girlfriend! DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T is one of the best Dating manuals that have been written within the last 5 years, right along with HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND by Chad Scott, ATOMIC ATTRACTION by Christopher Canwell, DATING AFTER THE RED PILL by Stevan Terzic, and ELITE DATING SECRETS by Jon Anthony. You will not be disappointed with the purchase of this audiobook and Kindle set and you will most likely not be disappointed with the results if you try its advice and principles in your Romantic Life!

Phenomenal

This is a must read for men young and old alike. This book, although a dating guide is, also serves as a self help guide. Connell Barrett helping men become the best they can be in the dating market and beyond, one reader at a time

Great book

I thought that this was a great listen. it gives you ideas and tips to be better and not just make your love life better, but also to make friendships with others. if the author reads this I am Kick Ass Eric

Every Guy Should Read This

Where was this when I was in my 20's!!
I have read books supposed to help shy guys like me be better at approaching and dating. This is the best. It is common sense practical and do-able.
It doesn't rely on gimmicks or changing your fundamental personality. I helps you bring out the best of who you naturally are. I listened to this book on Audible over and over. It really helped me deal with that lifelong challenge ...how do I approach women?
And it also goes into being out on dates , texting, internet dating and more.
If I had a 20 year old son I would make him read or listen to this book. I believe this material to be life changing.

Life Transforming Knowledge

This book is a good read for those who want to attract women into their lives, and have dating success without changing who you are.

A Dating Book that Really Works!

I have been divorced for 20 years and I felt I was putting in a great amount of effort into finding my soulmate. I have read just about every dating, self confidence, how to approach woman audio and book I could find. Many of them have some real good pointers but most of the material I found difficult to put into practice in the real world. One of my big problems was being in the friend zone with many women. This book has given me some great pointers on how to never get in the friend zone again. One of the reasons I did not approach women is that I was afraid of rejection, a huge problem for me. This book has given me more confidence to "go for it" instead of missing out of an opportunity. I'll give you one example. I was in a clothing store and the clerk was really cute and friendly. I said to her "I think you're really cool, would you like to grab a glass of wine sometime." She said she had just gotten separated. Once she rang up the sale she said a glass of wine does sound good! Come see me in a couple of weeks! Since this just happened I still have to go back but I'm confident we will go out. Bottom line: I would never have done that without reading this book. Get the book, it just may change your life for the better!

MUST READ FOR SINGLE GUYS

I think this is a must read for all single guys. We all have limiting factors that keep us from reaching our true potential. Barrett helps you get out of your own way to find the love of your life.

I especially thought the chapter about confidence and changing limiting beliefs was helpful. There’s a 10-question “test” you can take to go from feeling low in confidence to a lot higher.

And I appreciate the concept of lower self and higher self. Basically, you don’t want to be someone you’re not in dating… you want to be your very best you. What a great message.

Definitely a book for nice guys who don’t want to do pickup-artist stuff and who want to find love.